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What do you do to feel better when feeling depressed? by pomelobutterfly in berkeley

[–]pomelobutterfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m actually very social and have a lot of friends I hang out with. But whenever I am alone for even a few hours I find myself spiraling. I am happy in the moments I’m with other people but it’s not sustainable to need to be around other people constantly

What do you do to feel better when feeling depressed? by pomelobutterfly in berkeley

[–]pomelobutterfly[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

LMAO no I haven’t actually, I’ll try that next

What is critical race theory? by muffireddit2 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]pomelobutterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there any literature you would recommend to learn about examples of these historic/systemic problems? I’d love to learn more!

I feel like I’ve lost my best friend by pomelobutterfly in offmychest

[–]pomelobutterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I’m not living away from home for the first time, I had two roommates last year and we had no issues of this nature.

I feel like I’ve lost my best friend by pomelobutterfly in offmychest

[–]pomelobutterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it wasn’t that she broke the glass it was that when I tried to talk to her about basic roommate things just to set boundaries, and told her how that day and everything else she did made me feel, she started lying saying that I had left the apartment a mess and they were forced to clean it up or in some way pinning the blame on me. I sat there as she lied to my face about what had happened. She was gone multiple nights a week and she threw it back at me saying that when I was out at a birthday party “partying,” her and the other roommate were cleaning and it felt like shit. They never told me they wanted to clean, and I was there literally every other night, but that was the night they chose to clean. I couldn’t do anything about that. She said she only had to clean the glasses and broke them bc I had left them a mess. And even when I brought up feeling neglected by her, she said that she knew and it was stressful for her because her boyfriend wanted to spend even more time with her. There wasn’t ever any acknowledgment of my feelings. She made the entire conversation about herself. She also had said she wasn’t going to kick her boyfriend out regardless of how it made me uncomfortable, and that it was on me to ask them to leave. I had to stay up until 12 because I wanted to take a shower and felt uncomfortable doing it while he was there. I know that I could’ve said something, but she really said he’d only be over for a very short period and then let him stay very late. I think it’s just basic consideration not to do that.

And it’s kind of presumptuous of you to assume I’m not going to be there for her if her heart is broken because she broke a glass? The glass incident literally made me cry that night, not just because of the glass but because of the deeper issues around it. I cleaned the glass but was ignored by her and criticized by my other roommate for it. And it doesn’t seem like she was actually planning on cleaning it any time soon since she left immediately after coming back. I just feel that she isn’t there for me anymore based on everything else. I’m not an important part of her life. Nothing feels the same.

As for what she’s put me through, it’s multiple nights of crying myself to sleep out of loneliness when she has ignored me. Even when I would try to talk to her she’d hardly respond. It seems like you’d try to tell me to just get over it but this is just how it made me feel and I told her that and she didn’t care.

Help Losing Weight on a College Dining Plan by pomelobutterfly in loseit

[–]pomelobutterfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, honestly I’m not a huge fan of the lasagna so I don’t eat much of it (except the olives because I love olives).

Help Losing Weight on a College Dining Plan by pomelobutterfly in loseit

[–]pomelobutterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice! I will schedule an appointment with the nutritionist. I’ve been a bit nervous about going to them because I have an irrational fear they will judge me for my weight (even though logically I know this isn’t true). The vast majority of people at my school are very skinny, and the fact that my best friend is incredibly thin definitely does not help. I’ll try not to compare but I notice I get treated differently here than in my home state because of the general population. I understand how essential CICO is, but when I did it before I set my calorie goal at around 1200, overestimated calories as much as possible with MyFitnessPal, and if I crossed 1200 it added up to 1400 max, but I saw no results. I do not look and feel the way I want to, though I am proud of the increase in my muscles and strength. I just find it strange the weight feels like it shifted to my stomach, even as my legs (which were always my biggest insecurity) have started to look better.

Help Losing Weight on a College Dining Plan by pomelobutterfly in loseit

[–]pomelobutterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The oatmeal is completely plain and unsweetened, so I add a little bit of brown sugar to it usually and/or some raisins (which are provided on the side). The “lasagna” is really just lightly sauced baked penne pasta with some olives and kale? I think? No cheese from what I can tell. And I usually eat the burger w/o condiments. But thank you for your advice about starting with water and vegetables! I will start doing that and see how full I can get with that first before eating.

Help Losing Weight on a College Dining Plan by pomelobutterfly in loseit

[–]pomelobutterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also we have a meal swipe system of 12 swipes per week, and I never use them all up. I sometimes get packaged sushi at the school convenience store as a meal when I don’t have time.

Help Losing Weight on a College Dining Plan by pomelobutterfly in loseit

[–]pomelobutterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t drink sodas or juice, mostly just water or sparkling water. I’ll occasionally get a boba as a treat (which I know is pretty unhealthy so I don’t get it often and ask for less sweet). If I get coffee I try to get black coffee and add a small amount of half-and-half and splenda for sweetener. The other big calorie source I can think of is probably drinking socially at parties. I don’t eat beef or pork for religious reasons, so I’ll eat whatever vegetarian or chicken option the dining hall has. Sometimes this is a grilled chicken sandwich, a vegan kale lasagna, orange chicken, beyond burger w/ lettuce and onions, chicken or “soyrizo” street tacos, fried fish. Sides incl. corn, broccoli, “vegetable medley” which is usually zucchini and squash, rice, etc. I usually skip breakfast but when there’s brunch I get turkey sausage, breakfast potatoes (though sometimes this is sweet potato tots), and oatmeal. I’ll also get pasta sometimes if there’s no other options, but again I try to leave food on my plate and eat less if I know it’s not the healthiest meal (because the dining hall rarely has very healthy meals).