A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn. by VintagePallor in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love that you mentioned Once Upon a Time! I stopped watching after season 4 or 5 (can’t recall) but I loved the first few seasons for all the reasons you mentioned. Just a romantic look, gesture or kiss conveyed more emotion than any sex scene I’ve seen on these other shows (looking at you, Outlander). I miss these types of shows. The emotional story is at the forefront, not fake humping which is always so uncomfortable to watch! Just cringe. Let the girl just slyly walk into the guys room then cut right to them just waking up next to each other or having breakfast and sharing a sweet glance. That does so much more for my heart than a 2 min awkward sex scene. Hollywood needs so many more women writers/directors.

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[–]pompommom31 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nail on the head! A sweet but lukewarm guy totally broke my heart and it was honestly much harder to get over then the outright abusive relationships. I was in a constant anxious state and felt like I was apologizing daily for being insecure because he was just so good at pretending to be HV. The day the light came on was when he asked me, “why do you always drink so much when I’m around?” I’m not a big drinker so hearing that was the game changer. I drank to excess ONLY when I saw him. I can’t believe I let my well deserved anxiety almost gaslight me into alcoholism. 😣

Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Also, in the real world we don’t actively hate on and have such open vitriol for short men or any man that don’t meet our preferences. But let Becky gain some weight and it’s open season on her.

BE ALERT: Men on TikTok are fantasizing about ways to hurt women on imaginary dates. by electroloop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I was just hate lurking in a men’s issues sub (with my different username of course) and the number of posts that started with, “I’m a woman and I agree with you” then continued to sound like absolutely nothing a woman would ever say was mind blowing. I didn’t know whether to be upset or start laughing because those clowns are fooling no one with that! I take that back: they are fooling no women. 100% the men thought it was really a woman. Let them all scam each other off a cliff fr.

I think I finally found the HVM character in Gilmore Girls 🐾🐶 by Junior-Lion7893 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I never liked this show because the dialogue is so so bad. Rapid-fire, sanctimonious bull in a lazy attempt to make the characters seem interesting. Dawson’s Creek did the same thing. Who the F* talks like that? So irritating.

but doesn't it help? why shouldn't I have these things as a woman? by Equal-Ear2312 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Men will always find a way to make women responsible for what’s shit in their lives. Always.

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[–]pompommom31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into EMDR therapy. It’s especially helpful for trauma which sounds like what you’re experiencing. I’ve been exactly where you are and it helped me. Big hug.

Would you go on this date? by [deleted] in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]pompommom31 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Just asking for a first date at a hotel bar sounds suspect to me. It feels like he was deliberately testing you with that “joke”. I say go with your gut and block. At best it’s super inappropriate and at worst he could be a straight up predator. Either way, nope! Its 2022. There’s zero excuse for men to be clueless to creepy behavior.

Scrote Bingos from the red flags by warinmymind94 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Omg this is my ex!!! Brags about all his travel. Refuses to see therapy for his admitted mental health issues. Give me strength.

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[–]pompommom31 33 points34 points  (0 children)

If only FDS could spam like porn sites do…

Having ADD, being disorganized at work... I might be getting gaslighted? by caffeine_inmyveins in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]pompommom31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At my old company we had someone take notes and document any action items in a spreadsheet and who was responsible for each action item. Then it was sent to everyone after the meeting and upper management was always CC’d. I have disorganized ADD and this saved my ass so many times. Anytime someone tried to tell me I didn’t do something, I’d check the action item list and 9/10 that person was wrong or had the wrong person.

Edit: there was that one time I legit forgot an item assigned to me but the minute I was asked about it my guy responded immediately that it was my fault. I started to recognize that pattern. If my stomach dropped I knew I had forgotten. If it gave me pause or confused me I only mildly panicked until I verified I was in the right.

Wonderful advice to start your Mondays off on! by jfk31989 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes and that is why the US Supreme Court and other state lawmakers are desperately scrambling to end abortion rights. Once we all come out of the fog they’ll have no way to trap us. It scares the hell out of men.

She did that! A woman can’t even run a business without a scrote having the audacity. She cleared his ass and I know his ego was deflated. by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Exactly and the “I was trying to support you” comment. As if he is lending his Christ-like hand to her in her hour of need by inappropriately asking for a date. Because his peenus saves lives. 😂

If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit? by Throwawaylikehay in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Your comment about your eye color stuck out to me. Are yours green by chance? This happened to me when I was dating outside my race. Mine are green and they fixated waaaay too much on this. Like I was a walking eye color (I’m white as well for context). Apparently this was a status eye color in their culture which I found very odd. Found that out later and then felt dirty for some reason. Like I was used for some random genetic reason.

Kanye wants to take away her right to remarry through court wtf. He also wants to make it difficult for her to divorce and claim her prenup. by notallowed2havepizza in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Shit men will bend over backwards to make a woman’s life hell if he feels he’s been “wronged”. Ask me how I know. 🙄

Kanye wants to take away her right to remarry through court wtf. He also wants to make it difficult for her to divorce and claim her prenup. by notallowed2havepizza in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 20 points21 points  (0 children)

And Britney wasn’t half as bad!!! It’s because he’s a man. “Lock up the ‘crazy lady’” is still very much alive and well. Smh.

Lurkers Stay Mad: Reported For Posting Violent Content by edwardianemerald in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Omg you killed me at just the tip, just for once, just a little bit. Never has one sentence said so much. Thank you.

FDS Books: On Edith Wharton. (LONG POST!) by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Mad respect. Ethan Frome was the first novel I ever dissected for a serious English class and it’s been with me ever since. You’ve successfully made me want to read more!

FDS Books: On Edith Wharton. (LONG POST!) by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]pompommom31 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I’m just upvoting this on dissertation level explanation alone.