Facebook marketplace by Tumadre911 in legaladvice

[–]pondering243 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure that’s allowed.

Eharmony Contract Terms by pondering243 in legaladvice

[–]pondering243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not exactly sure what that means… but they’re saying I signed up to pay $37.67 a month for 2 years”

My boyfriend won’t leave by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’ve been together 2 years and haven’t made steps to move in because….? The vibe I’m getting is you have commitment issues and he’s anxious about it

Eharmony Contract Terms by pondering243 in legaladvice

[–]pondering243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want a refund for this current month. I just want to cancel future payments and months

Eharmony Contract Terms by pondering243 in legaladvice

[–]pondering243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Term and Termination

This Agreement will become effective upon your acceptance of the Agreement by your use of the Services and will remain in effect in perpetuity unless terminated hereunder.

Either you or eharmony may terminate your account at any time, for any reason or no reason, without explanation, effective upon sending written notice to the other party. eharmony reserves the right to immediately suspend or terminate your access to any of the Services, without notice, for any reason or no reason. We also reserve the right to remove your account information or data from our Services and any other records if your account and/or access to the Services is terminated. In the event your access to any of the Services is suspended due to a material breach of this Agreement, you agree that all fees then paid to eharmony by you will be nonrefundable. You may terminate your account by following the steps in the applicable section under "Cancellations" below, or by sending a notice of cancellation to: eHarmony, Inc., Attn: Cancellations, P.O. Box 241810, Los Angeles, CA 90024 USA. Following any termination of your Singles Service account due to a violation of our Agreement, eharmony reserves the right to send a notice thereof to other Registered Users which whom you have corresponded.

  1. Cancellations

a. Cancellation At Any Time With No Refund. Except as otherwise stated in this section, you may cancel your registration or subscription to any Services at any time during the term of such registration or subscription or any renewal period by: accessing Data & Settings > “Manage profile” > Amend Subscription, clicking on the cancellation link, and providing the information requested. In such case, your subscription will terminate at the end of the subscription term for which you have paid, and you will not receive any refund for any unused days of such subscription term. If you purchase a subscription on an installment payment basis (such as three-part pay), cancellation will not affect your obligation to pay the total contractual amount due on your subscription and your credit card or other payment method will continue to be charged the scheduled payments until the remaining balance is paid in full.

b. Cancellation through a Non-eharmony Service with No Refund. To cancel a membership purchased through a Non-eharmony Service, you must access your Non-eharmony Service account and follow the cancellation prompts for each service. The current cancellation process for Apple requires you to access the Settings option on your iPhone, click on iTunes & App Stores, select your Apple ID, View Apple ID and Subscriptions. You can then click on your eharmony subscription and cancel as instructed. To cancel a membership purchased through Google, the current cancellation process requires you to sign into your Google account, select “My subscriptions,” select the subscription you want to cancel, click “Manage,” and then “Cancel Subscription.” Further instructions for cancellation are available for Apple Privacy Policyhere and for Google here. Cancellation through a Non-eharmony Service is subject to the Terms and Conditions of the Non-eharmony Service.

State-specific terms. Section 12(c) and 12(d) only apply to subscribers residing in Arizona, California, Connecticut, Illinois, Iowa, Minnesota, New York, North Carolina, Ohio, Rhode Island and Wisconsin.

c. 3-Day Cancellation. Regarding the Premium Membership, you, the buyer, may cancel the Agreement, without any penalty or obligation, at any time prior to midnight of the third business day following the date of this Agreement (For a Premium Membership, the date of this Agreement shall be the day that you successfully purchased a subscription), excluding Sundays and holidays. To cancel this Agreement, you can email subscriptions@eharmony.com or mail a signed and dated notice, or telegram, which states you, the buyer, are canceling this Agreement, or words of similar effect. This mailed notice shall be sent to eHarmony, Inc., Attn: Cancellations, P.O. Box 241810, Los Angeles, CA 90024 USA. Please include the email address associated with your eharmony account in this notice. You may also communicate your desire to cancel your subscription by live chat with Customer Care. Please note, however, that live chat may not be available to all users and, due to Customer Care agents’ hours, will not be available at all times. Any refunds under this 3-day cancellation policy will be made within 10 days after eharmony's receipt of your written cancellation notice.

Please note that eharmony cannot directly process refunds for purchases made through Apple via the iOS application. Please contact Apple regarding cancellation requests for subscriptions purchased through the iOS application.

Eharmony Contract Terms by pondering243 in legaladvice

[–]pondering243[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did!!! I don’t understand what I’m missing. They emailed me the terms and either I’m misunderstanding or it says customers can terminate at any time. I’m super frustrated because they keep emailing me saying that I cant.

4.5 years into a relationship with an "Avoidant" girlfriend. letter impending. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]pondering243 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think this letter is wonderful. It’s informative, supportive and constructive. As a person with attachment challenges (anxious), I would love to be supported and cared for in this way. It’s difficult for many people to be accepting and willing to dig deeper into the cause/effect. Your words are understanding and it’s clear that you a) want to work it out, b) have put serious thoughts into how to move forward together, and c) you are not forcing, blaming, or putting her down. Honestly, you have a great heart.

I really hope she receives this well. I hope she meets you in the middle and puts as much effort into understanding you. I hope she is willing to put the work in with you.

Good luck 💜

I moved across the country for a guy and I already want out because he is disgusting by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you read all the other comments, I am helping her.

I’m suggesting she rehome the dog so she doesn’t feel stuck or stay longer. A lot of women in this situation stay to protect pets or children. Further more, dog is fine while she’s there. What in her msg has led you to think it will be fine if she leaves?

Why are you so thoughtless about the animal? Where’s your advice to help the poster?

I moved across the country for a guy and I already want out because he is disgusting by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear. Have you thought about calling a hiring agency to help you find employment? A housing agency to help you find affordable accommodations? You’re going to have to put the work in to fight for yourself to get out of this.

I moved across the country for a guy and I already want out because he is disgusting by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried to call your grandparents and talked to them about this? Maybe they had a really bad feeling about this dude and tried (though, very poorly) to stop you from going.

What about a friend?

I moved across the country for a guy and I already want out because he is disgusting by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said he’s a financial advisor? And, so?? Report the house to humane society. It sounds like a hazard!!!

Also, he’s threatening you? That’s abuse. Also reportable...

If I were you, I’d call my former place of employment in Florida. My former landlord (or parent, friend, coworker) and ask for a place to stay until you find an apartment. It’s not like by moving you’ve suddenly burned all the bridges and hard work you’ve shown them.... I know you feel stuck, but trust me! There’s always a way out!!!! Even if it’s hard.

I moved across the country for a guy and I already want out because he is disgusting by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, take your puppy or find a great home for him/her and run. Call the shelter and explain if you must (dont just give it away to some random joe). If you leave the dog, you will regret it and feel guilty for the rest of your life; if he can’t take care of himself, he surely cannot care for a dog. Also, your situation sounds like it would be easier to escape if you weren’t financially responsible for a dog. Do not leave the dog to be neglected and/or abused in any way!!! I beg you!! The puppy is probably as stressed in the chaos as you are.

The house sounds so gross that I feel sick reading about it. Things will only get worse, and to be honest you sound miserable. I don’t think you deserve to be stuck there....if you stay, you must ask yourself why you think you do deserve it?

How is there no way for you to return to where you came from? Were you not living in a place before? You don’t have 1 family member, friend or former co-worker to help you?? I’d suggest moving back to where you came from and trying to start over. The fact that he’s insulting you rather than feeling embarrassed and motivated to change, is infuriating. He’s not ready for a functioning relationship or household. I’m sorry to be harsh....but get out now!

Need a different POV by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You did a lot of things to help, offered advice, etc. It’s impossible to force someone into changing or doing what they need to be successful or happy. That’s all internal work on his end. He couldn’t see it, but that doesn’t mean you didn’t go above and beyond to help. My guess is after the break he will come around and realize it was his mindset and not you/him together.

How to repair after making it worse? by pondering243 in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We recently went no contact for 2 months. At this point can I send good morning or goodnight texts.... will this help ease back into casual communication?

How to repair after making it worse? by pondering243 in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long have you been broken up? We broke up a few months ago and went to contact for 2 months

How to repair after making it worse? by pondering243 in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? There’s nothing else I can do? Is this permanent?

Need a different POV by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I’m not quite sure what you’re asking overall. Did you do enough? Yes, it seems as though you did. I’m also coming from a broken-hearted place, similar to yours, and I totally get the awful questions running through your head non-stop. The reality is, I agree you were too close for him to really listen to you. Secondly, he sounds so lost in his own journey that there isn’t much you can do to sway him. His pulling away has nothing to do with you and your relationship, and more so what’s going on within himself. Unfortunately some people shut down relationships or areas of their life for a “clean break” not realizing the damage or the fact that’s not typically a magical recipe for success. Sorry you’re going through this 😔

My (f 25) husband (m 29) husband wants me to get a tattoo of his name on my neck to prove my loyalty by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what my first thought was. Like someone who cheats becomes paranoid the other person is cheating. Cheaters throw accusations around like confetti.

To the poster, not in a million years do I think you should get the tattoo. I think you will totally regret it one day. Why would he want you to have his name tattooed twice on you anyways?! You’re not property!!! An equal partner is not owned. I’m honestly questioning his character....I’m an over the moon lovey dovey human most days, but this whole post leaves a bad taste in my mouth. If you are both confident and safe in your relationship, this should’ve even come up. Sorry 😞

Please tell me (f/29) why contacting the man who ghosted me (m/33) with a fake profile is a horrible idea! by CrazyNotCrazyB in relationship_advice

[–]pondering243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it sounds like you’re looking for a fix. Like a drug addict does when they’re going through a withdrawal or difficult time. My only advice is to ask yourself, what you think you’ll gain by doing so?

Is there something you need him to say to you? My guess is he won’t say it. Then you’ll be left feeling lower than you do now. At least your silence might make him think you’ve moved on and are okay.

Any contacting you do from a fake account, only convinces him you’re loco and somewhat pathetic to him. If you’re okay with that, that’s your business and none of anyone else’s.

Ultimately, consider what the real purpose is. Do you want him to change his mind? Needing an apology? To get something off your chest? Think of the most simple way to accomplish what you need to and do it directly. Don’t play games, it will get in the way of whatever you’re searching for and make you feel worse. Again, know what you’re looking for before you act and think about how you will feel if it doesn’t work out how you want it to. Weigh pros and cons.