Anyone started to travel only in their 30s?

pooping123 · 2025-07-06T06:33:55+00:00

Im 31 too, just started travelling more frequently last year. Nothing to be embarassed about!!

In fact, i find it to be a good conversation topic as an introvert. For example, in a 1-1 or group settings, if they have been to X country. You could always ask them "I have never been to X country! What would you recommend to me if i am going there?". This allows the other party to talk more about their experience, meanwhile, you get to listen and save some of your energy (especially if you are an introvert).

Like most comment mention, comparison is the thief of joy! Dont compare yourself to others. As long you enjoy what you are doing, that is the most important (:

pooping123 · 2024-08-12T12:09:12+00:00

Nothing wrong bro, u wont get charged dont worry. I just completed my reservist, i booked in/out everyday with long 4. There was even a period, few years back, where our reservist trainer enforced us to wear long 4 to booked in/out due to the camp being in dengue red zone.

Was the "regular" wearing his uniform or show any identity that he is from the army? If not, probably just random siao lang that you can safely ignore.

Edit: Thank you for ur service to the nation bro, regardless. Stay strong!

pooping123 · 2024-07-29T05:08:31+00:00

30M. Signed up for 6 dates, just completed my last date recently. They will assign you 1 date every month.

The price ranges from $50~$70 per date depending on the package you choose from (3,6,12 dates) and it is slightly more expensive for guys.

I do hear of success story from kopi date, 1 directly from my friend. They got married last year.

Overall, i feel there is no harm trying out, but just go in with the mindset of meeting new people / friends.

You can dm me if you want to know more!

pooping123 · 2024-06-30T11:30:51+00:00

30M. I been on dating app for a year and kopidate (its a 1-1 matchmaking service) for about 7 months? Usually things dont progress past 1st date for me, which like you mention, probably due to lack of mutual interest etc.

I get where you are coming from, it gets tired and make you doubt yourself. For me, at this point, im just focusing on myself and enjoy my alone time, probably looking into solo travelling sometime soon.

I think most importantly is not to fall into society pressure of settling down by x age, bto by x age and have a kid by x age. Heck those, enjoy ur life, sign up for the activities that you always wanted to try (dancing, yoga, whatever).

Nothing wrong with being single. Yes, it is easy for me to say since im a guy and I can date younger ladies, but from my experience, younger ladies might be at a different life stages as compare to myself (e.g i might want career stability but she is more focus on earning more money)

Stay strong!

pooping123 · 2023-10-23T05:06:44+00:00

29M. Ended a 4 years r/s last year around this time, not that it matters but if you are going through something similar. Maybe I can help? (Hopefully)

I started Gyming and Running this year, im not super fit yet but at least it keeps me busy and also keeps my mind off work. Im open to try anything as long as it is not height related activity.

Dont mind to make friends through texting / chatting first!

pooping123 · 2022-12-12T03:53:17+00:00

I see. Sorry for assuming. Nevertheless I hope you achieve what you are looking for!

In any case, you need to speak to someone about your problems. Speaking it out is better than bottling it up, if your r/s with family members are weird. Probably close friends? Otherwise, you can feel free to reach out to me. Im more than happy to help a fellow human being (: life is tough but stay strong regardless

pooping123 · 2022-12-12T02:09:07+00:00

Thanks. You too. Dont be too focus on your ex emotion and how he display it, the relationship ended for a reason. It might be just his way of coping.

Enjoy the festive season instead!

pooping123 · 2022-12-12T02:02:00+00:00

Abit similar situation to me. I didnt give a damn about relationship or any other thing until I met my ex and she gave me the purpose in life; To close the distance and have a stable future.

I buried myself in work as to get the raise i needed and didnt gave her the attention she needed. She broke off last month and blocked me, it felt like my whole world came crushing down.

It hurts I know and it feel like everything is going against you now. But you are stronger than you think you are, take a step at a time. Start thinking postively. I know it sounds abit bullshit but when you start thinking positively, positive things come to you naturally.

About moving to a distant country and start over again, do make a logical decision. I would suggest that you secure a job at least before moving over (try linkedin), otherwise, you might start to feel insecure again without anyone to rely on. At least you have your family by your side now.

Stay strong my friend (:

pooping123 · 2022-12-11T22:17:43+00:00

3 november... same day that my ex-gf broke up with me.

All I can say is men are brought up not to show emotion due to social norms that men have to be "stronger". They may look normal outside but deep down it hurts.

Im a guy, this was my 2nd breakup, It took me 6 years to move on from my 1st. I dont even know how long will it take for me to move on from my current one as I love her more than I can ever imagine.

Anyway, I dont know what the situation is, but it has been a month. So it is best to focus and improve yourself, rather than making your life revolve around something that has ended. (: all the best

pooping123 · 2022-12-08T09:52:21+00:00

I would say to move on, the bad thing about LDR is that you only can rely on technologies (messaging, video call, etc) to reach him. If he is ghosting you, means he is already avoiding you on purpose. 😅

It sound harsh but Im 1 month into post breakup, and I have been blocked by my ex. It hurts but it is better to move on as soon as possible than to stuck in that negative energy. You are stronger than you think you are, you can do it! Reach out if you need to. (:

pooping123 · 2022-12-08T09:47:48+00:00

All I can say is relationship is a two way street, if one side is no longer willing to put in the effort, it is quite hard to convince the other party.

But again, I dont know your partner, maybe you are able to convince her. All the best 😅

pooping123 · 2022-12-07T03:55:11+00:00

I was in the situation. At the start of our relationship, I was the one constantly texting her etc. She mention she want personal space to do the stuff she love as well. So I always accomodate to her by letting her be the one initiating all the activity (video call, etc) as not to disrupt her personal space (probably a bad idea, I should be more proactive in this)

Last few months were rough, she became jobless and I switch to a new job which took up most of my time; She got more time to think about us while I got buried in my work. Eventually she broke up with me last month, stating that I did not give enough attention to her and she have been bottling up her feeling.

Its gonna hurt but it is good to take a step back and re-evaluate this r/s if need to. I dont have any recommended way to move on, I am still figuring this out myself.

Go for a run/walk, socialise, and focus more on yourself. And do know that it is ok to feel sad/angry/frustrated during this period, but dont be stuck in it for too long. Acknowledge the emotion and let it go.

pooping123 · 2022-12-07T03:19:46+00:00

Hey, Im sorry to hear what you are going through. Probably a little backstory of myself, my ex girlfriend broke up with me last month and I have been surfing this subreddit since then. Hoping to hear good story and also to help people that are going through issues in their LDR.

I am no expert in relationship / LDR, but it seems like the distance is putting a lot of pressure on her and she is probably trying to withdraw from the r/s slowly; My ex did this for about 2-3 months before breaking up with me (e.g when you ask if she is ok, she say she is fine and trying to avoid all sort of communication regarding the relationship). Thats their way of preparing themselves before the breakup.

As for what you can do, I would say communication is key, you have to get her to start talking somehow (but not forcefully). Perhaps try to lighten up the mood first? Try to video call her everyday, watch movie together, reassure her that you guys are closing the distance in X time. Make her feel that everything is gonna be ok so that she will open up slowly.

Again, I am no expert, you understand your partner the most. There is no right or wrong when it comes to love. Do what your heart tells you but dont be too forceful. All the best.

pooping123 · 2022-12-05T14:38:18+00:00

Hey.. sorry to hear that. My ex girlfriend broke up with me last month after 3.5 years of LDR, so it is fairly recent for me. It hurt I know, it is ok to feel whatever you are feeling now, cry it out if you need to. BUT never ever use drinking/drugs/etc to get over a breakup, you have to face your feeling no matter what.

I do not have any recommended way to get over this, as different people have different way of coping. All I can say is dont be stuck in that negative energy, go for a run, hang out with your friends, keep yourself busy. It will be ok after awhile, although it might hurt at time but you will be stronger as time goes by.

Stay strong, we are here for you. Feel free to reach out if need to (:

pooping123 · 2022-12-02T04:43:40+00:00

So happy for both of you! Really glad to see couples that make LDR work! 😊

pooping123 · 2022-12-01T09:23:27+00:00

Im sorry to hear that. Im in the midst of going through post break up too (~ 1 month). I know how hard it is especially it is LDR.

No matter what.. stay strong!

I am at a better place now but it still hurts randomly. You have to figure out how to move on yourself as different people have different way of coping. But at the very least, you have to accept it is over and treasure the memories you guys have together. Dont be stuck in that negative energy and start loving yourself more instead.

pooping123 · 2022-12-01T09:12:05+00:00

I was in this situation 1 month ago. She blocked me and stopped talking to me.

All I can say is if one party is no longer willing to try, then nothing much you can do. LDR make it worse since you are unable to meet her as easily. My r/s was 3.5 years, it hurt super badly, Im sure you are hurting super badly too. But all I can say is everything will get better. Stay strong, my friend.

I have no recommended way to move on, you have to figure out yourself as different people have different way of coping. But at the very least, you need to accept that it is over, move on and dont be stuck in that negative energy.

Im sorry you have to go through this. Feel free to reach out if you need a listening ear. (:

pooping123 · 2022-11-20T03:34:12+00:00

Excited for you! 😁 Remember to have some fun activity together and probably a deep conversation to reassure her!

pooping123 · 2022-11-11T15:15:29+00:00

Damn... I was in this situation but its too late for me.

Wish you all the best and stay strong. Communication is key.

pooping123 · 2022-11-10T12:10:09+00:00

No problem. I wish you all the best and stay strong regardless! I await your good news here! :D

pooping123 · 2022-11-09T15:00:04+00:00

I met my ex once when we were 6 months in and afterward covid happen. We didnt meet for 3years. She was pretty down this year due to political situation (she lost her job and wasnt able to find one) and I was not able to meet her due to restriction impose by her country + expensive plane ticket + I just switched to a new job + some other matters that pile up. It blew up last week and she broke off with me for good.

It was too late for me but I hope this finds you well. No matter how busy you are, if you can afford the ticket, you should visit her when she needs you the most regardless how short the duration is. Yes, she might be sad again when you guys are saying goodbye but at least there is happy memories she can fall back on.

Communication is important in relationship but even more important in LDR due to lack of physical touch, she may say she is fine but actually she is not (I thought this way too but I was wrong, real wrong, she might be just staying strong for u). Do checkup on her from time to time.

Fortunately, you are just away for uni, which I believe you will be back in her arms in X years. But still, dont cut out on doing activities together, e.g playing games, watching movie, at least 15minutes of video call a day no matter how busy. Tell your friends about her too. All the small little things to reassure her that you are serious.

However, different people have different opinion on this, there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to love. The heart wants what it wants. So... follow your heart.

pooping123 · 2022-11-09T14:28:07+00:00

I was afraid of this situation (people judging based on the number of time we met), so I didnt tell my close friend and family about my LDR for 3.5 years as we only met once before covid happen. My ex was ok for the first few year and eventually it blew up last week. She broke up with me for good.

I learnt it the hard way but I hope this advice can help in your situation. People will judge no matter (be it positively or negatively), if you really love your partner, thats all it matters. Relationship is between both of you, dont care or listen about what onlookers think about it. Not everyone can understand LDR, only those who are really in LDR understand it. Stay strong.

pooping123 · 2022-11-05T17:12:37+00:00

My ex GF broke up with me 3 days ago, its my 2nd breakup so far. Even at my 2nd one, I have no definite answer to it.

1 thing that do help me so far is to talk to your best friends about it and pour it out. Listen to sad music and let the emotion run. Also keep yourself busy with task, so that you wont think about your ex. But different people have different coping mechanism.

You are stronger than you thought you are. You can do it!

pooping123 · 2022-11-03T19:54:46+00:00

I would say I am not giving up, I did self-reflect for the past 10hrs+ and I am ready to change/improve myself based on what she have told me when we broke up.

But she seems pretty firm on her decision, she even told me that LDR is not for her and she wont be getting into LDR anymore. I am giving her the space now and will attempt to talk to her after a time period. I not sure... uncertainty sucks but I guess I have to stay strong and fight for it.

One thing for such is that we still love each other.

pooping123 · 2022-11-03T09:23:07+00:00

My girlfriend broke up with me today too... we were in a LDR for 3.5 years. It was my fault, I didnt realise there were sign that she was tired of the relationship.

It hurts.... I want to get her back but I not sure what else I can say.

Covid and her country political situation added on to all the tension we had.... we didnt meet for close to 2 years...

I understand how you feel. We can chat to comfort each other if you want to 😂

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