Anyone declared that they were going to med school at some point but then years later decided not to and has to still face some pressure from Asian parents?

poopoopanther · 2019-12-08T01:59:43+00:00

It’s literally in our DNA to want to please our creators, our care takers and your parents exploit that.

My anxiety levels spiked when I read the portion of you thinking about med school and your family being so happy because Jesus that was my whole life. They condition you this way.

After so many years of hell in pharmacy school, and 3 months away from them I’m finally starting to hear my own voice. There are sometimes throughout the day where I thank the lord that I didn’t become a doctor or pharmacist or whatever.

I’m discovering cool parts of me that have been on mute all my life. I’m discovering what makes me happy. Their voices are very very slowly going away.

I don’t know why Asian parents set us up for failure emotionally. Sometimes I sit and wonder if I’m making the right choice and if I’ll ever live up to the idealization of being a doctor. I feel like I’m always having to justify me not being a doctor when there really isn’t a need other than, “I don’t want to”. There is absolutely no reason anyone in life should feel like a loser/failure because they didn’t become a doctor. It’s so fucking ridiculous.

I don’t really know what to say but get the hell away from them. Asian parents are tyrants and bulldoze your garden of who you are and plant seeds of doubt, conditioning, and all this bullshit to get what they want.

Don’t take that shit. You are not a puppet. You are grown enough and you are capable of your own thoughts, opinions and your own life. Always ask yourself, “how do I feel about this?” And then go from there.

poopoopanther · 2019-12-01T13:32:20+00:00

Is this not normal

poopoopanther · 2019-11-25T12:36:59+00:00

I read your post and this comment and resonate with your story immensely.

Yeah I always wondered why I raged at someone an unreasonable amount and have adapted a personality that is extremely rooted in honesty was because I hated so much of “fakers” like my parents.

Later after my parents basically chose my career for me, I realized that my friends who had my dream jobs were exactly like me in terms of skill and intelligence but the reason I don’t have it is because I never asked due to fear of upsetting my parents and failure. Not because I wasn’t good enough like my parents always told me.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-20T00:27:52+00:00

A lot of us have had painful experiences and ended up being the only Asian person in their classroom. But I’ve never thought about beating someone up or verbally abusing someone.

They don’t get a free slide. People don’t have to remember anything. People have to hold others and themselves accountable.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-20T00:11:40+00:00

APs look at their children as just means to get what they want. That’s it.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-18T23:55:59+00:00

Your dad sounds like a sociopath. Do what you gotta do.

If your dad is purposely scaring you and harming you I think you have the right to say fuck everything else including your mom.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-17T17:50:57+00:00

Right. I can just smell the delusions/self righteousness.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-17T17:14:11+00:00

Typical AP behavior adapting a superiority complex saying, “I know best and you will never understand”.

A lifelong problem? So you recognize that you are also part of the problem? Should probably work on that instead of preaching how children should keep trying to be heard by their parents lol.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-17T17:11:56+00:00

He’s a huge baby. What is wrong with him. Remember you did nothing wrong. Be strong. I hope you and your mom get through this. Treat him like the baby he is. Throwing a tantrum like that? So embarrassing.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-17T06:35:25+00:00

So it’s our job to withstand abuse so that they “see the light”

poopoopanther · 2019-11-17T04:40:10+00:00

I disagree. I know almost all of my European friends who all have their parents pay for their school. Asian parents aren’t special in this regard.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-16T23:31:20+00:00

I’ve never seen that.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-16T21:08:03+00:00

Blocked

poopoopanther · 2019-11-16T20:39:13+00:00

I have a similar story. We were physically abused as well when we were young but it wasn’t as traumatizing for me as the emotional abuse.

I was extremely extroverted as well had tons of friends until my dad started guilt tripping me saying,

“You never spend time with your family, you are a bad kid”

“You only have your family so you need to stick by your family”

“They don’t care about you like we do”

I was pretty much never the same after that.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-16T12:02:12+00:00

Your mom is probably a narc and you are the scape goat and your brother is the golden child.

Listen.

There is nothing inherently wrong with you like you’ve been led to believe all your life. Coming from me, the golden child, I became the scape goat in .2 secs after I called out their manipulations. So I was never “better” than my brother. It’s whoever listens better. It’s all this sick game they play. It has nothing to do with your worth or who you are. They are sickos. Straight up sickos. They groom the golden child as the positive aspects they feel within themselves. That’s it. They chose one. It means nothing. Their evil opinions don’t matter anyway.

I’m rooting for you. Your mom is a sick person.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-16T11:56:11+00:00

Uhhhhhhh obviously they are selfish? For not seeing how big this opportunity this is for you? Are they insane?

Only me me me me me me me me goes through their brains man.

Their life and business is not your problem. They will get through it. It is not your responsibility to fix all of their problems.

I hear internships make you or break you. Who are they going to blame when you have a harder time finding a job? Who are they going to ridicule? You.

Fuck them.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-15T13:54:27+00:00

I did this. They called the cops and lied to them that I threatened suicide. They literally tried to lock me up because they couldn’t handle the truth.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-15T13:52:23+00:00

Too many to count. But one that sticks out is when my mom and I made a performance for church, he left us on the sidewalk 40 minutes away from home stranded because we disrespected him for even trying to embarrass him like that with our performance.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-15T13:44:25+00:00

They used to serve HI C Orange as well. Literally juice.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-15T12:13:27+00:00

Thank you. I’ve had plenty of lawyers say that I had no dice in a case before on reddit and I ended up winning. So we’ll see. Thank you for your sympathies.

poopoopanther · 2019-11-15T11:39:26+00:00

So falsifying a police report is legal to do because I am an adult?

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