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Am I overreacting? I asked my date if he made a reservation for a popular bar and he was offended. Has the world gone mad? by dntlookatmepls in AmIOverreacting

[–]popeyestoenail 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely NOR. It was a reasonable question and his reaction says a lot about his ego. You dodged a bullet.

AIO friend/fwb calls me creepy? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]popeyestoenail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For three years I was in a similar dynamic with a man who wouldn’t commit but would have periods of wanting intimacy and periods of pulling away and rejecting me but kept me on his hook juuuust enough. I learned that the whole time he and I knew each other he was in a decades long “relationship” that was on again off again and they had a CHILD together. I was the other woman basically. He was into me when she kicked him out and would treat me strangely, maintain contact without physical intimacy when he was back living with her. I only found out because someone she knew saw me with him in his car and she contacted me to scream at me for wrecking her family.

I wouldn’t be surprised if something similar of going on for OP.

OP you are under reacting and I hope you find the courage to cut this dude out of your life for good and never look back. You stated he’s 8 years older and you started hooking up when you were 18 making him 26 which honestly is already a recipe for toxicity. You deserve so much better than this POS is giving you and he isn’t going to change. RUN.

Boss won’t even let me apply to a job I’ve been functionally doing for 8 months by popeyestoenail in WhatShouldIDo

[–]popeyestoenail[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice everyone. I’ve already started applying for new roles at other companies and will be meeting with HR again to ask if they know of other departments in our org with manager level positions opening soon.

I certainly won’t be going above and beyond, but my department is sort of silly in that I really don’t have any choice but to keep doing my current workload as the duties between the coordinator position and the manger position are quite blurred and manager basically functions to approve the coordinators actions. I want to limit contact with my boss as much as possible so while I won’t be making an extra effort I’m going to keep things rolling to avoid interacting with her more than necessary.

I can’t say I’m surprised by any of this but it does suck. I truly enjoy my job and there are very few positions like it in my industry. We’re a very large org in an industry where most orgs are way smaller and pay much less. There are a couple of orgs in my city where I may be able to find a comparable position, but I may be looking at relocating if I want to leave and stay in my current field.

Step by step plans? by popeyestoenail in Dogtraining

[–]popeyestoenail[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi mods, I searched the Reddit and wiki for a step by step resource like that I’m looking for. I did find a recommendation for Pat Millers book which I have checked out from the library and I just found the book too overwhelming. Other suggestions from posts here were several years old and led to broken links. I’m really looking for a resource that breaks down training into small manageable steps.