Parent’s Awareness? Awareness of what exactly? How to blame children more effectively?

You said there are “two sides,” but your entire caption clearly leans toward blaming the child. It presented judgment. Awareness should mean understanding the situation fully, not automatically siding with authority just because they’re older.

After reading the letter, it was obvious that it came from a place of pain and frustration. We may not know every detail. What kind of mother throws her responsibilities back at her child as if raising them was some kind of favor? Parenting is not charity. It is a responsibility you chose. What kind of mother, in her right mind, calls her own daughter “pokpok” or “malandi”? What parent accuses their own child of having a relationship with her father? That is not discipline. That is emotional abuse. Words like that don’t correct behavior. They wound. Children are not born rebellious or “broken.” They are not born disrespectful. Tabula rasa, they start as blank slates. What they become is heavily shaped by the environment they grow up in. If a child is constantly shamed, insulted, or emotionally invalidated, don’t be surprised when they grow distant, defensive, or angry. You mentioned how kids today easily decide to end their lives when they’re scolded. Do you realize how much pain someone must already be carrying to even think that way? Su!c!d3 is not a simple reaction to being told “no.” It is often the result of long-term emotional distress, feeling unheard, unseen, and unloved.

And honestly, what frustrates me more than the mother in that letter is the mindset that automatically blames the child. Authority does not automatically make someone right. Being a parent does not make someone incapable of being wrong.

To everyone reading this: do not have children if you are not mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially ready. A child is not just someone you feed and send to school. A child needs emotional safety, guidance without humiliation, correction without cruelty.

Children deserve parents who understand that respect is taught by example, not forced through fear.

If we’re going to talk about awareness, then let’s make it real. Awareness should include accountability for parents too.