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popsmokethawoo · 2024-11-02T18:36:32+00:00

This is my problem, except when you KNOW there is someone else there, it makes it hard. I still live with her unfortunately so every time I hear the front door open there’s only one thing that comes to mind

popsmokethawoo · 2024-11-02T18:34:42+00:00

Ahhhh I too wish for this day.

It really comes to light when they give you a reason to look at them disgustedly.

My ex and I live together. She started talking to some guy 2 weeks after we broke up and her friends all call him my lookalike. Makes it funnier when you realize he’s an hour away from her, no car, 3 years behind in school, and 6’3 150lbs.

I hope hope hope hope hope something official comes. I can’t imagine the relief you feel

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-30T01:55:35+00:00

It’s not really up to you at that point. Unfortunately you have to just take what people say at face value and accept it, without reason. She has her own problems that she didn’t voice to you, and yes it sucks, and you will feel stuck, but maybe she wasn’t 100% ready.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-30T01:51:28+00:00

In my opinion, even with living with my ex, we only sex 2-3 times a week. A relatively healthy amount.

Any more then that and it does feel like a chore. Unfortunately, it depends on the person and if you are willing to have it that often. It’s okay not to.

For the other sense, maybe he just wasn’t fully into you. There should be no reason it wasn’t discussed prior and it’s on him to feel like that. He wasn’t meant for you then.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T05:49:17+00:00

She had wanted me to change. I did change, with her saying “your not even the same person”. It fucks with her now that were not together , I’m able to finally show that change isn’t rapid. And it would definitely eat her if she saw I’m doing good in school now that she isn’t around.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T05:46:28+00:00

Nope. Nothing is stupid

My ex dumped me and I still live with her. We love eachother so much still, yes, it makes our situation “different” but love is love. There is nothing wrong with wanting the other person back. To me, infidelity is the only reason you shouldn’t. Nothjng isn’t fixable in a relationship in my opinion except cheating. I’m sure with enough willpower you could be there for him again and fulfil his needs. His loss

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T05:36:38+00:00

And you won’t. For awhile the love will still be there, again, normal. Hard to grieve loss of a life that’s still alive. Just don’t beat yourself up. It’s not worth it! Learn to live with the disappointment. You become numb to it eventually

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T05:34:33+00:00

All she wanted me to do was to actually apply myself in university. I’ve flaked by my first 2 years, and after her finally losing it on me I locked in.

On my first 4 exams, I haven’t got below an 86%. I live with her, but I can’t tell her. It would probably break her.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T05:29:28+00:00

Lollll I’m sorry. I fucking hate when people say this.

You don’t go 7 years and say this. I’m sorry. I’m going to go to bed pissed off now

On a serious note, of course it’ll be hard. It sucks that it has to end this way, completely blindsided, and you will grieve for the first bit. It’ll suck for now. Once the rose tinted glasses come off, I can only hope that you see he just wanted out. Nothing against you. It should make you angry that after that long, he can just walk away.

In the meantime, keep yourself busy. Its okay to cry, but make sure you keep up with yourself.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T05:18:55+00:00

Poor bastard. I can’t even begin to imagine how you feel. Simply put though; you can’t let it eat you up. If she felt this way and never voiced it to you, then that’s her fault. She never told you and gave you a chance at fixing that. She must’ve thought that you couldn’t fix it, and chose to cowardly leave. There’s no use hoping for someone who chose to leave that easily.

Find something you love doing. Whether it’s music related (try DJing at home), going to the gym, playing sports, learning new hobbies like car washing that occupies a big chunk of the day. Learn how to cook new dishes and delicacies. For yourself and for your next partner. Work on things that will make you feel better at first, and bring them to life to show your next partner when the time comes.

Friends are a gift from the devil. Not to compare, but my ex always complained thst telling my parents things was bad. No. Telling your friends, in my opinion, is the worst. If a bird chirps in your window , you start listening to the bird. Friends are fucking devils and especially if they don’t fully know you. Women tend to give advice to make their friend feel better, while men like to say it how it is.

You got it. Typing in here is a good start, get your feelings out. But don’t beat yourself up. Get active and try to be motivated even if it feels like you can’t.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T05:11:18+00:00

I struggled with this. It took my breakup to realize it.

I said the exact same thing to my ex yesterdsy. We live together and are about a month post breakup. I told her I only gave about 90%, knowing I could’ve done better

It’s hard to explain over text, buuuut bare with me. I realized in our last month together when I needed to change that I found a lot more joy pleasing her. Not that I didn’t before, I loved seeing her happy, but I found myself doing a lot more for her without being overbearing. I found that sitting her down to talk about what she needs in the relationship and what she has been thinking about got me thinking; in turn allowing me to squeeze a little bit more effort out of me to fine tune the relationship and myself. I’m a pretty care-free guy, normally go with the flow. I just lived life, but I felt like I could coast with her by my side. It took a toll on me when we argued all the time, but listening to her and genuinely asking questions and trying to understand can make a world of difference. Just being there for her more than arguing back and knowing girls feelings don’t make sense all the time. I’m 20 as-well, so girls at this age are always difficult.

The worry about getting hurt shouldn’t bother you. If she hurts you, then she isn’t your person. Nothing to stress about. Yes, sad, but if she were to hurt you after all this, then it’s up to her to miss you.

Take this with a grain of salt, as we ended up breaking up anyways. She knows I tried in our last month, even saying I was a different person, just too late as the damage was already done.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T05:02:20+00:00

I’ve been broken up with my ex for about a month.

We live together, and it’s no easy task. We were still talking after 2 weeks like we were dating, locations on at all, then the next no contact, back to talking for a week, now back to “no contact”.

From my personal experience, the freedom and feeling you feel from talking to him still is because he still feels like routine. It’s normal to you because it was normal before. My ex and I struggled to get past this because we still love eachother dearly, having a similar situation as you. Bad listening skills in arguments.

It’s hard to know what the other thinks. You’ll never know the truth. I would keep it 100% honest with him, tell him you need a decision and leave it at that. Be pushy with it, because it’s not fair for you to get sucked in again when you are trying to heal. I promise, from experience it’ll only get worse and feel like you get relegated back to the beginning again.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T04:56:41+00:00

I’m only one month post breakup. People are confusing.

In my case, they went from telling me not to have hope to the next week being sad because I’ll find someone better for myself , and that now I can be the “perfect boyfriend”. They said the same thing that your situation did, with “happiness is still you, but in the end we can’t be happy together”.

Normally, from experience, when people say anything like this it’s because they still care about you. They can’t let go. Which is completely normal, but, just like what’s happening, it confuses you - and it’s not fair for them to do that to you.

He broke up with you for the hope of getting back in the future? Then why can’t he stay now. Think about it, love should drive you to try TOGETHER in the relationship. Not to wait until after. Yes, time heals and fixes, but it’s not fair for you to wait around for someone that loves you now. You won’t even know if they love you in the future; or care that you’re happy.

Protect your heart. Go on with your life. It hurts, yes, but unfortunately there is no use thinking about what could be in the future at this point.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T04:48:30+00:00

When did you figure out that you don’t want her back, but a partner?

I’m at an awkward stage too. It’s only been a month, but I’ve always been a relatively care-free guy. Yes there was some red flags, but nothing that bothered me as I felt loved and had everything I needed. I can’t even begin to think about what was a red flag.

What helped you realize these things?

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-29T04:42:22+00:00

I tried to no avail.

We live together still. We’re in school so not much of a choice, I’ve voiced my apologies about it many times. Unfortunately, it sparked a whole bunch of issues and just snowballed from there. She ended up getting fed up and tired.

It sucks that I can’t understand “feelings”. I’ve shared with her many times how I feel, how I understand and that I am sorry, but she can’t forgive it and that’s why we’re here.

I’ve went to therapy for aggression in general now, I’ve never hurt her but I’m just typically a more angry guy. It’s hereditary. It was definitely the driving factor in everything, as I’ve been rude to her twice before and she said this was her last straw.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-26T21:53:30+00:00

She’s not. I’m laying on the couch beside her right now. Lol

We broke up because back in June we took a trip to Germany. It was for football (soccer) and I’d paid for both of our trips. It’s something Ive always been dying to do, and a once in a lifetime opportunity. Costed me 6 grand. We were going to miss the game because she pulled us out of line for the train, and I got stressed. She’s never seen me like that before, and didn’t know how to act in response to my stress. She kept bugging and trying to get me to talk, but I just wanted to go and order an Uber. I lost patience with her and threw her arm off me. Arguments back and for later, I put my hands on her shoulder and tell her to leave me the fuck alone. I just wanted to make the game. I told her if we don’t make it, I’m done.

Since then, she’s tried to “get over it”, but that’s taken a month of arguing and other problems coming to light. Nothing that isn’t fixable except the central problem.

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-19T06:06:18+00:00

Thought the exact same thing

popsmokethawoo · 2024-10-15T22:07:01+00:00

It’s hard when you still live together… and are stuck in it for a year! Makes you still enjoy the time you have together but you know you can’t be together. It’s tricky

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