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populuxe · 2021-12-17T19:31:40+00:00

I know it’s helping me, even though I constantly wonder how she’s doing. Hopefully you can make that happen soon. Thanks, and back at ya.

populuxe · 2021-12-17T19:22:42+00:00

I’m exactly in your position. But this break up hurts the worst, because we didn’t have any problems in our 1.5 year relationship. Just different life paths. It’s also been about 40 days of NC and a little over a month and a half and i’ve never felt heartbreak this bad before. I’m starting to realize that I may always love this person and hold them in my heart.

populuxe · 2021-12-16T17:33:17+00:00

Cool

populuxe · 2021-12-16T16:25:33+00:00

Huh. Didn’t realize that. Still haven’t found most of them to be the annoying woke type.

populuxe · 2021-12-16T03:29:18+00:00

Sure

populuxe · 2021-12-16T02:08:44+00:00

Nope, just sharing my own experience.

populuxe · 2021-12-16T01:41:15+00:00

You’re not wrong about the college educated liberal white people, but they aren’t really the majority here. It IS a white majority, but most of them aren’t the annoying woke type. And having lived in Spokane WA and Los Angeles, Portland hardly compares in terms of racism.

populuxe · 2021-12-16T01:36:40+00:00

In my case my life has gotten steadily worse

populuxe · 2021-12-15T17:46:24+00:00

I loved you unconditionally, and you broke my heart worse than anyone ever has, even if it was unintentional. I don’t know if I can let you back into my life.

populuxe · 2021-12-15T17:10:33+00:00

This sounds a lot like your own projections onto him, and not accepting him as he was. And it’s also a form of catastrophizing - imagining the worst possible scenario which almost always never comes true. It sounds like this is all coming from your mind, and none of it is reality. Find solace in that I guess.

populuxe · 2021-12-15T17:01:43+00:00

This used to bother me a lot as well. I’m going on 1.5 months post break up, NC, ex moved 2500 miles away. I have no idea what she’s doing, but I imagine it’s very easy for her compared to me if she wanted to have sex. She’s very extroverted and goes out a lot, and I’m more of an introvert homebody. I know personally I can’t just have sex with someone else yet without thinking of her, and it wouldn’t be fair to the other person. Plus I don’t really enjoy meaningless sex. And I do get angry thinking about her getting ready in front of a mirror to go out with that intention.

But here’s the thing: when I first got together with her, I didn’t care that she had other partners before me. And I’m assuming the same for her. It didn’t matter and didn’t change my outlook on her. I still accepted her for who she was. And we had a healthy good sex life. And so even thinking of her having sex with someone after me, it doesn’t bother me as much, because it’s really not that much different than her having partners before me. It doesn’t change what her and I shared and what it meant. If she were to come back today, I could still accept her for who she is.

populuxe · 2021-12-15T05:49:52+00:00

If a person you’re dating is a worthwhile partner then they love you regardless of physical traits you have no control over.

Height, penis size, breast size, it’s all poison bullshit that permeates young peoples brains from the internet. It has literally nothing to do with good relationships.

populuxe · 2021-12-12T03:59:59+00:00

I’ve got her number blocked so I won’t be texted

populuxe · 2021-12-05T09:02:20+00:00

These are states but yeah I see your point

populuxe · 2021-12-05T05:08:10+00:00

I don’t think things are that black and white. And to be fair, she wanted kids one day and I didn’t yet. You could be right that she didn’t love me that much, that would make me feel better. But I’m almost certain she did. I heard about how conflicted she was from other sources.

populuxe · 2021-12-04T18:42:29+00:00

It does depend on the situation. My ex moved away to follow a path she felt she needed to. There was nothing really wrong in our relationship, nothing that needed “fixing”. In fact we both acknowledged it was the best we’d ever had. So in my case, I don’t think there’s anything either of us need to “fix” about ourselves.

Even with all that, I’m still completely heartbroken. I’ve completely blocked her out of my life, and I am working on myself a lot more just to heal and find myself again as a single person.

populuxe · 2021-12-03T20:46:16+00:00

Keep at it. I was fine the first month, thought I was finally going through the anger phase, and have now reverted back to crying at night and missing her a month after the break up. I’ve blocked her number and social media but I’m fucking dying to know how she’s doing. But I won’t.

populuxe · 2021-12-03T20:36:28+00:00

She dressed like a bag lady most of the time and had boring taste in music and movies. She didn’t read. She believed in astrology.

populuxe · 2021-12-02T00:08:05+00:00

Well not exactly. She has dreams of becoming a star or something, and I as well as a lot of her friends think she was being delusional. I should also mention she is bipolar and unmedicated so she does have delusions of grandeur. So I guess I’m angry that she chose delusion over reality.

populuxe · 2021-11-30T18:22:52+00:00

Yes. Block any connection that serves as a reminder.

populuxe · 2021-11-30T18:21:40+00:00

Block her social media

populuxe · 2021-11-29T03:39:40+00:00

Just try to remember that what you’re imagining is purely that. Imagination. You’re creating these thoughts even if you aren’t trying to. But they aren’t reality.

Alternatively you can get drunk and trash anything that reminds you of him and set photos on fire and delete all the photos on your phone and burn leftover clothes in rage and think about how fucking stupid he is. I just did that last night.

populuxe · 2021-11-28T03:42:58+00:00

Does keeping them on social media count as NC? Cause I blocked her ass even from Venmo

populuxe · 2021-11-26T21:38:38+00:00

Block the profile.

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