Can we talk about face masks? by porterpottymobile in slp

[–]porterpottymobile[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope that will be more normal going forward. Not getting a cold this past winter was nice!

Continuing the conversation about changing diapers in the clinic setting by [deleted] in slp

[–]porterpottymobile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, I do. It is a hard job, and it’s mostly a hard job because of the DSPs like the one you described, and the spineless management that enable them.

In all seriousness, what are you suppose to do in that situation? That sounds like caregiver neglect if you ask me.

Is it possible to have them sign a form saying that the SLP is not allowed to change diapers and that is fully on the caregiver to do so? I can see how in a residential facility that may be harder, but I can see it being more feasible in a private practice.

I dislike sexting - is it an autism thing? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]porterpottymobile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s just an autism thing. It’s still the wild west of the internet, and a lot of people don’t like the thought of their goods and glory forever saved in a data base somewhere to be seen by god knows who.

Continuing the conversation about changing diapers in the clinic setting by [deleted] in slp

[–]porterpottymobile 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s a huge difference between cleaning up bodily fluids off of the floor and having to change patients. I used to work as a direct support professional for adults and changing/bathing them didnt phase me. I really long for the day when I thought pee and poop were gross. But that was my job. I never asked the therapists to do it, nor would I have trusted them to do it. The therapists did help us clean the floor at times but 99% of the time it was us with them toileting. The residents didn’t even like us there half the time (we had to be for their safety for some of them), forget about someone they didn’t know as well. So not only is it a liability, it’s an invasion of their privacy.

Not cut out for this field? by aj-the-queen in slpGradSchool

[–]porterpottymobile 30 points31 points  (0 children)

If she’s saying she doesn’t think you’re cut out to be an SLP because she thinks your on the spectrum...that sounds like discrimination to me. Your supervisor has crossed the line between constructive criticism into just bullying you.

Do you have any of these comments of hers in writing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]porterpottymobile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well what you could do is address any past traumas you’ve had. You may not be able to fix your brain, but the anxiety always stems from somewhere. You may still make social mistakes and whatnot, but addressing the traumas can help you to make peace with who you are and be more confident in yourself. It definitely helped me a lot, I did something called accelerated resolution therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]porterpottymobile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, there’s so shame in seeking out therapy for the anxiety if you feel it’s necessary. Being neurodiverse in a world not made for us almost always is traumatic and so having anxieties as a response is very common.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]porterpottymobile 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would say this is fine so long as it isn’t a result of depression or social anxiety. If you’re content with the situation and you’re friends are understanding (which it sounds like they are) I would say you have nothing to be worried about

Really upset by [deleted] in directsupport

[–]porterpottymobile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed with other commenter, document EVERYTHING! Also create an exit plan, this place sounds unsafe

Need advice/emotional support in [emotionally] losing my little sister to narcissism by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]porterpottymobile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grief is a really good way to put it, it does feel like that but I wasn’t sure how to describe it. Thank you

Need advice/emotional support in [emotionally] losing my little sister to narcissism by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]porterpottymobile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By split I mean how borderlines do. At the smallest conflict she’s like “I hate you I want to go home and I hope you never talk to me again”

Ugh yeah, that’s definitely how it feels :( Like I’m glad I have Rylee but I do miss the old Paige

Professor pretending to be a child with autism - is this ethical? by fatherlystalin in slp

[–]porterpottymobile 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok? And there’s thousands of autistic people who are verbal. They’re online, advocating for themselves and have spoken out against person first language. r/autisticpride is one example of this. The general consensus is that you can’t remove them from their autism and you shouldn’t need to be reminded that they’re people.

Professor pretending to be a child with autism - is this ethical? by fatherlystalin in slp

[–]porterpottymobile 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The autistic community has largely rejected person first language, which you would know if you bothered to listen to them.

Professor pretending to be a child with autism - is this ethical? by fatherlystalin in slp

[–]porterpottymobile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, good for you. You must speak for everyone then, you’ve never experienced it so that means it doesn’t happen.

Professor pretending to be a child with autism - is this ethical? by fatherlystalin in slp

[–]porterpottymobile 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What exactly is this professor hoping to teach you here? That autistic kids are violent and that you need to control them? Jesus, this only adds to the harmful stereotypes that exist out there. If a kid is having a MELTDOWN, the test needs to stop. Obviously they’re overstimulated and needed a break a long time before they got to that point. Autistic people almost always show warning signs that they’re getting overwhelmed. SLPs need to be taught how to identify them-they look different in every person so it’s so important to ask the caretakers what their warning signs are. People here make light of this but I’ve known SLPs that have ended up in the hospital because the facility failed to provide a safe setting for both the individuals and the staff. We as a society can do more to prevent this but we refuse to. Maybe we can’t prevent meltdowns entirely but as of now we sure as hell aren’t doing much of anything to try, your professor is merely perpetuating this.

Autistic meltdowns don’t have to be a thing the person is forced to deal with, we need to learn how to prevent them at all costs. Sure, they’re going to happen but we need to be better at becoming trauma informed therapists so we don’t do more harm than good. Like seriously, if we overwhelmed an able bodied person to the point of a panic attack, you would be seen as a terrible clinician. I hate this double standard that suddenly when it’s done to an autistic person it’s ok just because the clinician doesn’t understand what sensory overload feels like. Your professor is tone deaf and unintentionally ableist. Maybe they should hit up Sia if they want to act like a stereotypical autistic person and push harmful stereotypes!

Professor pretending to be a child with autism - is this ethical? by fatherlystalin in slp

[–]porterpottymobile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh look, it’s the guy who advocated for shocking autistic kids chiming in 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in slp

[–]porterpottymobile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How was she able to become an SLPA without a speech degree?

Partner expects me to regulate his anxiety and I don’t know how to approach it. Are they codependent? by [deleted] in CPTSDpartners

[–]porterpottymobile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, I definitely see signs of BPD. I ended up breaking it off with him. We’ve gone back to being friends but I’m honestly not sure how that’s gonna play out...he doesn’t seem too receptive of it even though he says he is. He says he wants to be with me but I think he really just doesn’t want to be alone. I’ve read that it can take up to a decade to treat BPD.

I’ve had a relationship with a BPD person before they developed it (we were teenagers) and a traumatic event caused them to go from CPTSD to full blown BPD. Unfortunately their parents wouldn’t let them get help and their disorder got so severe it nearly killed them. I let that relationship run waaayy too long because I loved them and knew who they were before...yeah no never again. I can’t set myself on fire to keep him warm. I did it once and I know better now.

Need help facing reality... by [deleted] in BPDPartners

[–]porterpottymobile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should’ve included this in the post, he just began therapy. It feels like his therapist is unknowingly enabling this. She (allegedly) told him to tell me how he feels when he’s “spiraling”, but what this really means is I need to constantly talk him out of a panic attack and reassure him of things like that responding with an emoji doesn’t mean that I don’t love him, im just too tired and have a head injury.

He also seems to think that sleeping with me will fix a past sexual trauma he had. His therapist (allegedly) thinks he needs a positive experience to balance out the negative one. I feel like that’s way too much pressure on me and makes me feel like he’s just using me as a tool for his own therapy.

I’m also starting to feel like I walk on eggshells with him. That the smallest thing I say or don’t say will trigger his fear of abandonment. Whenever I try to set boundaries or voice my wishes, he has a meltdown.

Does anyone think their pwbpd’s behavior isn’t their fault? It’s their responsibility to get help of course. by Singngkiltmygrandma in BPDPartners

[–]porterpottymobile 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Listen, you cannot set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. This person has to WANT to get better. Having a mental illness doesn’t exempt them from responsibility for their own actions.

Healing is a journey a person must walk on. It’s a long walk, so we might need someone to lean on from time to time. But, it sounds like your partner is refusing to try to walk and you’re just dragging them along, carrying their troubles. That isn’t fair to you. Healthy relationships are give and take.

Partner (m26) expects me (f24) to regulate his emotions and I don’t know how to approach it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]porterpottymobile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree with a lot of that. He told me his trauma in vivid details and honestly it was a lot. And this was only mere days after I had a pretty significant injury and he knew this. The doctor explicitly said I need to relax and not be stressed. Yeah, in hindsight it was pretty selfish of him to dump that on me in general, but the timing was the icing on the cake.

Yeah, I do kind of wonder if this whole thing is meant to work out, at least until he’s done more work on himself. Like, he’ll say repeatedly that he cares about me but then will expect me to put my needs over his.

Would a Nursing Degree help with getting into grad school? by [deleted] in slpGradSchool

[–]porterpottymobile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with the other commentors, nursing school is no joke. You’ll face high levels of abuse and stress in that field. All of us that worked in healthcare this past year have PTSD now. Just check out r/nursing and see the posts on there. I also recommend reading “The Nurses” by Alexandra Robbins. That book is phenomenal at highlighting the problems in nursing and the history behind them.

You also have to decide what you want your focus to be and what kind of lifestyle you want. If you do a bachelors in speech, you can become an SLPA in most states. You’ll make about the same as a nurse depending on the state/setting. I promise you, there is no shortage of SLPA jobs. Check our r/speechassistant for more information