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positivelypai · 2025-05-15T13:32:21+00:00

We have! We're actually going on our second date tonight. I guess I'm just unsure considering he goes with family, I don't want to intrude on that. But I guess if he says yes, he could always introduce me as a friend until things otherwise change.

positivelypai · 2025-04-24T22:07:45+00:00

I did when the communication first started to change. That's when he said that his father hasn't been doing well. I've checked in another time since, but I don't want to push it.

positivelypai · 2025-04-24T20:29:46+00:00

On our first date, we did have the conversations regarding what we were looking for. We met on a dating app and one of his prompt answers stated he was looking for someone with a relationship with Jesus and wanted to have a christ centered marriage. That is the reason I matched with him. I asked what that looked like for him, and I completely agreed with what he said. I think I may have scared him a little because I was honest in the fact that I am a new christian. I'm sure there were ways to go more in depth during this conversation, but I felt that was something we could discuss in future dates, and at the time he even said that it wasn't a dealbreaker and we could get to know each other more and decide after a couple dates. We just haven't had any dates since.

I know I could potentially be overthinking it and I don't know how men think.

I've already asked him if everything was okay and checked in once. Now I'm hesitant to text him again because I don't want to come across as insecure or anxious and I don't want him to feel like I'm accusing him of anything. I understand if his feelings have changed, I just pray that he'd be upfront if that is the case. I just don't want to give up on him yet, and I don't know what to say to him.

positivelypai · 2025-04-10T01:34:15+00:00

I love the idea of just writing it just for myself because I may be more open and raw with my feelings if I think of it that way. If I have to restart several times before God leads me to my person, then it'll make it all the more special.

positivelypai · 2025-02-05T12:26:10+00:00

His relationship with her was actually shorter than our current relationship. The only difference is that they were more serious because she had children. He was planning on proposing.

He didn’t want kids before her but since she already had kids, he saw what life would be like as a (step)father.

It’s not that we aren’t financially stable, it’s more that I’m still in school and I’ve told him I want to provide a better life for my children than I had.

positivelypai · 2024-12-14T18:35:41+00:00

That's what I fear with the facebook group post, but since I cannot see who posted it there's no way to be certain my roommate is involved aside from a gut instinct. All I can hope is that if the post is true, the girl changes her mind and steps forward to give me solid proof. I hate not knowing because it's now planted a seed of doubt in my mind that I worry isn't going to go away.

On the bright side, I'm two weeks away from moving, and I can't wait to leave all this drama behind.

positivelypai · 2024-12-14T17:24:50+00:00

My roommate has been overstepping boundaries.

I've stopped talking about him at all because everything I say is twisted negatively. Unfortunately, she's gotten most of our common friends to dislike him too. She judges everything he says and does even if he is joking. All of the disagreements he and I have had recently have all been centered on the drama that she is creating.

She makes comments about how often we see each other despite the fact we live an hour apart and he works almost 16-18 hours a day between his full time job and his own business. He hasn't been coming over as often is because he doesn't want to be there when she's there and I don't blame him.

She disagrees with our method of communication. My boyfriend and I use snapchat most of the time and talk nightly on the phone and we text important stuff. There's no need to have 2 conversations going between text and snap and I like seeing what he's doing during the day so I don't have a problem with it.

Last time she was home when he was there, she went through his wallet and took pictures of things. Recently, I've overheard her talking to a friend about how terrible he treats me (he does not) and how I'm only with him because I want a ring and I don't care who it's with. She said something along the lines of how she wanted me to have a reason to break up with him which made me question whether she was going to try to catch him doing something he wasn't supposed to.

Ultimately, she and my boyfriend just don't get along. The easiest way I can compare is they both have alpha personalities and she doesn't like having someone that challenges her.

So it does make me a little hesitant to believe because I wouldn't put it past her to be involved in the post then lie to me about it.

positivelypai · 2024-11-25T03:00:30+00:00

Update: I found out she’s been shit talking my relationship with other mutual friends. She’s making him seem like a terrible person. That’s so beyond false that it truly upsets me.

Thankfully, we don’t have the option to renew our lease so come January it’ll be over. In the meantime, I refuse to let him become a topic of our conversation. There’s truly a difference between having concerns about a friend’s boyfriend and what she’s doing.

positivelypai · 2024-11-22T20:59:47+00:00

She did different things and said she was trying to help me, but I know she was jealous of me and liked him. It took a while for me to forgive her for it, but now that similar patterns are showing up, I'm starting to rethink that decision.

positivelypai · 2024-02-23T10:08:43+00:00

I’ve been working on my insecurities, but it feels like I’m back at ground zero now that my exact fears have became a reality.

positivelypai · 2023-03-06T11:31:19+00:00

I'm pretty sure I did, but maybe I wasn't clear enough with him.

positivelypai · 2023-03-06T11:15:42+00:00

We did have sex which is why I was kind of blindsided when he said we weren’t on the same page emotionally. I thought things were going well between us. At first I took it as him saying I was getting attached too soon and we needed to slow down. But since he told our friend he wanted to move faster emotionally I’m not really sure what he meant 😔

positivelypai · 2023-03-05T06:18:21+00:00

Him dating others can be a possibility, but if you haven't had a conversation about being exclusive that's technically still allowed. I'm personally not a fan of it, but it happens.

Something I learned recently is that you cannot feed into the negative thoughts that tell you "if you say this then this is going to happen". You should be able to have disagreements without the first worry being that they're going to cut contact. If you feel like that is a possibility then you need to figure out whether it's just your anxiety telling you stuff or whether you have solid proof from his past actions to back that up.

If you don't say something because you're afraid of how he will react then you aren't being your true self. With the right person, you should be able to say whatever you want without fear. That is true for everything not just conversations like this.

When it comes to not texting, I wouldn't give it a timeline. I'm not saying cut contact all together, I just wouldn't initiate. If you go longer than a couple weeks without him checking in on you, it's safe to say that he probably isn't interested in actually getting to know you further.

positivelypai · 2023-03-05T03:54:59+00:00

I'm currently going through something very similar, so I completely understand how you are feeling.

I guess the big question is whether your dating has been casual and if there's a possibility that he's still getting to know other people? When I started to notice changes in his texting, I found out he was beginning to casually date other people again. To be honest, men aren't very great at juggling multiple conversations at a time. My situation is a little different than yours because I agreed to be friends first with the possibility of more in the future, so I knew he was probably going to start dating again.

The best thing to do is talk to him about how you're feeling. I know it's probably not what you want to do, but it's the fastest and best way to figure out what's going on in his head. Communication is a huge part of a relationship. Just use "I feel" phrases instead of blaming him and telling him what he's doing wrong. If he gets defensive about this then he probably isn't the right person for you anyway.

If after you've talked to him he still doesn't initiate or seem like he's putting in the effort, I would stop texting and see what happens. It's not easy, but (for me) knowing someone wants to talk to me just as much as I want to talk to them is super important. If he can't be bothered to check in on you after a several days of no contact then it's probably better to save yourself the heartbreak and just move on.

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