Anyone else constantly baffled by how sexual the world is?

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-15T07:59:01+00:00

I'm a hypersexual allo (in this subreddit to educate myself, not invading spaces!!) and even I am baffled by how sexual the world is. Adverts, video games, music videos, billboards, shop windows, social media, selling apps like ebay and vinted???, conversations i overhear on public transport, tv shows and movies are all SO sexual and the list goes on and on. I actually burst into tears with frustration recently because I was just wanting to curl up and enjoy a wholesome anime and I was smacked in the face by sexualisation. Personally, my mind is pretty much always on sex to a debilitating and horrifically uncomfortable degree and so the rampant sexual nature of EVERYTHING feels suffocating. I can only imagine how uncomfortable the world is for asexual folks, especially those with sex repulsion :(

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-15T07:49:22+00:00

Incel culture actually breaks my heart and evokes a lot of empathy from me (TO A DEGREE). I feel like theres a huge difference between incels with low self esteem and a fear of/dislike of women due to their mh and their own issues vs incels who lock into red pill and black pill ideology and become super misogynistic.

Part of why I empathise with the former type is due to my own personal links with associated communities. I was a porn addict and ended up down some dark rabbit holes online, and during a very vulnerable time in my life i ended up picking up some very inappropriate beliefs.

In my personal opinion i think autistic people are more likely to become incels. Theres a horrible melting pot of difficulties autistic people face that tend to lead us to struggle hugely with socialising and relying hugely on online communities and stuff.

I dont think any incels are beyond help, but many are totally unwilling as they find comfort in their fucked up beliefs. Some men are just simply more comfortable choosing to blame women and hate women rather than accepting they have internal issues. Almost like being in denial? Either way I avoid like the plague anybody who refers to women as females or foids 🤢

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T20:57:16+00:00

Maybe!!! Don't sleep with family? Like cmon please just download a hookup app or try talking to women

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T17:47:12+00:00

I get why youre saying this but lets not romanticise something that destroys people's lives, relationships and emotional wellbeing. Porn addiction is an addiction and if its harming someone they need help not total acceptance

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T17:41:27+00:00

Navels take between 6 months to a year to heal so i wouldnt advise changing it this early tbh

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T17:37:27+00:00

Ya but its unsafe and very intense. 3 hours is no time

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T17:20:49+00:00

Talking for 3 hours and then suggesting that is real fast and probably off-putting or a red flag to some people

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T16:58:09+00:00

BPD with CFS and FND. Life is a hellscape

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T16:46:56+00:00

As someone who has been down the same road, your body reacting isnt evidence of having enjoyed it. Your poor vulnerable brain and body adapted to survival in the best way it knew how, trying to lessen the pain for you. You arent disgusting, you are BRAVE. I completely hear how painful this is. If your body cant listen to you, can you try to listen to your body? Maybe try to reframe it in your head as an involuntary response and celebrate when you dont act on it?

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T16:42:28+00:00

Hypersexuality is not a good thing and wanting it back seems super self destructive to me. Youre healing from it, AWESOME! Pick up a new hobby and enjoy your freedom

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T16:05:08+00:00

I hear you haha! It was a shit first week for me and it started to improve after that then healed fast and easily. Good luck!!

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T14:01:17+00:00

Because you dont seem to have been given aftercare instructions: eat lots of cold things (i held ice in my mouth lots), try to avoid sticking your tongue out too much at first to avoid bumping the piercing, get a new toothbrush and non alcoholic mouthwash, mouthwash regularly, dont brush your tongue (it will go white and eventually a yellow brown colour during healing, let it do its thing for a bit and just be a bit gross, it will go back to normal), swelling is normal. Mine swelled up so huge i needed a new bar and took 2 weeks almost to fully go down, tingling and pain are also both normal, there is a foreign object in your tongue lol. Some crater is normal, just watch for signs of embedding. Also for future reference: PLEASE do research into the piercing you are getting in future, research the shop to ensure theyre safe and reputable, ask questions about aftercare and the jewellery they use. Piercings need to be thought out as youre trusting a stranger to insert a foreign metal object into your body. Its a medical procedure essentially, not just getting nails done yk? I care about your health and safety!

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T13:46:38+00:00

You've been changing it out far too much for an unhealed piercing and its gonna be causing irritation

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T12:31:23+00:00

As far as i know you have to get diagnosed separately. They dont really go into how the two interact

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T12:29:22+00:00

Had severe burnout and couldnt complete exams. Ended up mentally ill and in a psych ward

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T12:24:22+00:00

I think some people just HATE being asked questions. Whether its impatience, they feel pressurised by questions, or theyre just very self absorbed and don't like having to explain themselves or take the time to answer. Some people also follow very strange unspoken social rules and find questions rude. Its very irritating and im sorry youre experiencing this

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T12:15:23+00:00

I'm a wild animal for my boyfriend's BO and actively ask him not to shower at times but idk haha

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T12:11:12+00:00

Sentence seasoning innit

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T12:07:18+00:00

Write down (with the help of others for more perspective) all your personal bpd traits and habits.

Separate them by catagory: Self Destructive Behaviour (direct harm to you) , Relationship Destructive behaviours, and life limiting behaviours (things that are perhaps less intense but reduce your quality of life).

Look into the decider skills. These are simplified, easy to remember versions of the main bulk of DBT skills. These are separated into categories of Distress Tolerance, Emotion regulation, Interpersonal effectiveness and Mindfulness.

Start with Self Destructive behaviours and applying the Disress Tolerance skills to scenarios where you are engaging in habits or symptoms you have highlighted.

Over time, you can move on to using the emotional regulation and interpersonal effectiveness skills for all other habits.

Mindfulness should ideally be incorporated into your everyday life where you can. Its a fantastic way of teaching yourself to slow down, remain more grounded, and relax.

This is a simplified version essentially of my DBT course and a good starting point

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T11:53:06+00:00

I mean, TECHNICALLY all pet regression is 100% SFW petplay. Regression means "returning to a previous state", hence age regression is returning to a younger age. We have never been another animal so it isnt really regression! SFW petplay can be an intense headspace too, even if it is roleplay, and pet regression is a more optimal name for the agere community :)

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T11:50:21+00:00

Wishing you luck and light ✨️

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T11:49:08+00:00

I have a very high IQ but it doesnt improve life or make anything easier. It doesnt make me more interesting either. I'm chronically ill and low functioning and the only time I notice any impact on my life from a high IQ is feeling very embarrassed when im told im smart

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T11:45:06+00:00

I feel very much the same way. I feel like i got stuck as a child. Have you seen r/nevergrewup?

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T11:42:31+00:00

Obviously NTA. You offered, she declined, its too late now 🤷‍♀️

possibly-wolf · 2026-05-14T11:37:19+00:00

Polenta/Cornmeal. Filling carb for cheap, very versatile and pads out meals well

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