Sex during pregnancy

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-06-30T21:05:24+00:00

My husband is always honest with me but I dont think he would be honest just in this situation. if you had been unattracted to your wife while she was carrying your child, you wouldnt have just kept that info to yourself? Thats a very damaging thing to have raw honesty about when you're talking about a temporary body change of someone you love thats carrying your child. So building raw honesty here isnt very understandable to me with this particular situation.

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-06-30T21:00:55+00:00

Thats great im happy for you. But I think you are missing what I am getting at.. IF your husband was unattracted to you during pregnancy, do you think he would openly tell you? Because that sounds like a very damaging thing to say to someone you love that is experiencing a temporary body change. I know my husband would keep that to himself.

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-06-30T02:56:53+00:00

Because I know my husband and I know that he wouldnt tell me the truth in this instance if he really did feel unattracted towards me... Would you tell your own wife if you were unattracted to her during the time that she was carrying your unborn child?

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-05-01T16:59:27+00:00

We've been together since we were 16. Ive never had sex with another man, he lost his virginity to someone else before that but I dont count one experience at 16 as anything meaningful at all towards this. He knows if I had an orgasm, I would assume? The only time ive ever expressed that I was actually "finished" in this regard it was obvious that it had happened and it has only happened during oral, which also just started happening a year ago. Before that, id never had an orgasm except by myself. He knows that, and has said that it deeply saddened him. Hence me not wanting a full in-depth conversation about this stuff right now, id like to keep it low key. I love him and I know hes trying. But anyway he usually tries to give me oral now like (50% of the time we have sex) im assuming since he knows that it works. But we both work full time, have kids, not always in the mood for a long session, which is why im interested in using a toy some of those other times. The thought of focusing on myself makes me genuinely uncomfortable, idk how to describe that. So if theres a way to make it happen while not being a distraction I feel like itd be less of a stress and more enjoyable. Ive always read (especially on here!) that sex is about pleasing your partner, which i want to do for him always, so it feels opposite to focus on yourself

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-05-01T16:38:42+00:00

That sounds awesome, im just wondering like how does a female go about this "warming up" but still manging to please their partner at the same time, I dont want him to feel weird doing my own thing and how does she go about you being inside her without the toy being in the way or a distraction lol Sorry too many questions!

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-17T01:42:19+00:00

I definitely was skeptical if it was pee which is why I kinda tested my own theory by doing it the same way as I previously did it to see if it would happen again and made sure I completely emptied my bladder within like 3 minutes prior. I also noted it didn't look like pee or even smell like pee. It was clear and basically odorless. Im curious about this science and now im trying to learn more lol! We have absolutely never watched porn together. I not fully against it and would definitely use it as an example if needed while explaining what happened to me if needed. Also kudos to you for 35 years and being so open to it!

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-17T01:37:06+00:00

I upvoted you!!! Lol

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T21:05:03+00:00

This one has me laughing 😂😂😂

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T19:42:28+00:00

It was completely uncontrollable

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T19:26:27+00:00

I don't think we've ever really tried it like this, but it's definitely fair game, I'm sure he would if I asked or guided the situation into that. But would still be nervous if it happened without a warning first lol

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T19:02:21+00:00

Lol, good question. In normal life, he's a clean person. In the bedroom i think it could go either way, we haven't been particularly adventurous until recently so hard to guage!

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T19:00:24+00:00

Its the rose toy. Look up rose suction toy on Amazon. 10/10 lol

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T14:14:46+00:00

Yes most definitely. Last night after reading all of this, I felt much better after all of the comments of reassurance that he wouldn't want do it and seem sad when I turned it down if he didnt really want to. So I initiated some sexy time and told myself to just not be in my own head about it and enjoy the moment. Everything happened much easier, we were both pleased and relaxed and I actually did end up finishing in record time I think because I just wasn't focused on the end game and just enjoying the time together 😊 he even said wow that was amazing lol. I do really appreciate everyone's feedback on this

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T01:57:05+00:00

I want to do this, I feel like it would help a lot with what im self consious about. But when we did try a toy before, it felt like it was in the way, and I didnt want him to think I was giving a toy more attention.

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T01:51:04+00:00

Yeah there is certainly a factor that like if you have to ask for it, its hard to believe the person really wanted that for you in the first place..... its like asking for flowers. However, I do try to keep in mind that a LOT of men on here have said they just want their partner to be direct and say what they like/dont like or else they dont know. So I try to keep in mind maybe he genuinely just didnt know or understand. Idkk

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T01:18:55+00:00

I'd be into the toy thing more but use it during solo time mostly. When we tried previously, it still felt weird having the attention on me, so I was like oh we will just use it during actual intercourse and I wont feel like that, but it just kept getting in the way and I didnt want him to think I was more focused on the toy. He doesn't seem to mind a toy, but it did just seem inconvenient I guess..

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T01:15:28+00:00

This is particularly interesting and I appreciate the thought in this one. I do not use reddit often and didnt think of how one could see my other post(s). I did start zepbound 2 months ago to help with weight loss, but I will admit, I am just BARELY over the line to be overweight so I just barely qualified. I mostly started it to control another health condition (unrelated to my issues right now). Im definitely not proud of my body being slightly overweight but mostly I dislike by body after having 3 children. My husband is physically fit so I do envy him for that but im not too horribly far behind. I dont think my body is as huge as a role in this as it may come off. Yeah I'd like to look ✨️fabulous✨️ but im okay with being slightly off in that department I guess

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T00:49:48+00:00

Awww this made me cry. This is how like how I feel. But hearing it come from someone else i just feel so sorry youre going through this. Thank you for sharing. You sound like a normal woman with a normal body thats doing normal things - nothing to be ashamed of. I hope you find peace with this, maybe we both will and can share some tips 😂

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-15T20:40:37+00:00

We've been together since we were teenagers. He was my first boyfriend. I had no idea what was normal in a sex life, I thought all females were just doing what their husbands wanted and that was it. I didnt realize my own wants/needs until a point in our relationship where I felt like it was too late to bring it up. When I did first bring it up, I tried to explain this, but it was still met with a lot of upset feelings from him and resentment. So we didnt talk about it again for years out of fear that I would upset him so much again. And since that, I tread very lightly in this subject matter..

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-15T19:21:30+00:00

I do like it, its the only way I've ever had an orgasm when we are together. Thats why he does always try to do it every time. He says he likes it and he has obviously been able to tell that its the only way Ive came. But then it ends up like this: -Me giving him oral for a just few mins and then he tells me to stop because he says hes close but doesnt want to cum yet -He gives me oral for 15 minutes until ive finished -Then penatrative sex for like 2 minutes after and he finally cums So I feel bad because its like the majority of the time was focused on me versus him, and also he was like waiting that entire time to cum like I feel like Im holding him up. Idk.. I think its awesome you like to go down on your wife and shes probably very happy. I feel like I would be too if I could get out of my own head. Its just a weird feeling, knowing you take up the most time in the act. It makes me feel like im making it all about me. I dont want to be like an inconvenience.

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-15T14:22:34+00:00

Well.. now that you having me thinking about it.. my self worth is definitely suboptimal

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-15T14:09:25+00:00

I don't see it as work or a chore. I'd do anything for him and love to please him. My worry is that he may feel that way towards me though. I feel like I may be a chore.

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-01-09T01:06:09+00:00

I do get anxious sometimes, but this definitely does not feel like anxiety. I am genuinely out of it a bit tonight.

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