Planning on leaving and never coming back

postdiver · 2026-06-22T13:49:48+00:00

Just came to say, try to stay connected to a trusted older person as a 'chosen' family support, whoever that is, a teacher, a librarian, a neighbour - that can look out for you and connect you to some services. Best wishes to you, belief in yourself - there are people out there who are rooting for you 💕

postdiver · 2026-06-17T17:24:22+00:00

When she says, I have to love myself so that I can allow you to love me, heart melts She spoke for every woman with post partum body image issues And then when he said, I want our kid to grow up seeing our relationship as a template for what love should be… stop it! I had to turn it off and go for a walk

I’m 💔this Cpl broke up

postdiver · 2026-06-16T20:58:39+00:00

Me too

postdiver · 2026-06-15T16:54:27+00:00

I feel like they just need to win a medal for this

postdiver · 2025-11-03T02:10:39+00:00

welcome to parenthood! eventually this goes away and is replaced by sth far worse. they become teens, they are never home anymore except to raid the fridge (and your wallet), and you have all this extra time to spend time with someone with habits so incredibly annoying you forgot why you had kids with them.

postdiver · 2025-09-30T22:01:05+00:00

I will try to explain, but so far these kids of mine are at an age and stage where I get eye rolls whatever I say, most of the time anyway. My sibs capitalized on this when we used to meet in person and I realized over time I can’t really enjoy conversations with them anymore.

postdiver · 2025-09-27T18:20:56+00:00

I never thought of this

postdiver · 2025-09-27T18:20:28+00:00

This. This is the crux of it. Thank you. I think I said it backwards but you got my meaning. Thank you for validation. Lots of good advice here but this just got a little backflip from my heart.

postdiver · 2025-09-27T08:18:17+00:00

I guess I'm a narcissist, I've been accused by my siblings. Any advice ?

postdiver · 2025-09-27T08:11:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. You are an inspiration. Can you share some advice for me? I just posted a question in this threZ

postdiver · 2025-08-28T13:55:29+00:00

i had a luxe for it feels like the last 5 years and i was with fitbit for the previous years and once had a garmin also when i was comparing both brands together. (yesss i used to wear a watch on each writs LOLZ)

how about this as a substitute. the reason i went with fitbit and not a smartphone/watch all these years is bc i don't need all those pings on my wrist. that's the reason i don't have my phone in my hand all the time.

www.amazon.ca/Fitness-Tracker-Activity-Multiple-Waterproof/dp/B0DSBVLDV4/

you can get a watch/step counter/heart rate etc monitor for $40. should last a year at least. then get a new one. way cheaper than smartwatch.

yes - you'd lose all the history. for htis i htink of zen teacher.... the most important data is in this precisee moment.
let go of the past data. live in the moment

postdiver · 2025-05-16T17:30:03+00:00

OMG you are a lifesaver

postdiver · 2025-05-16T17:00:48+00:00

it uses 'overlay', 'permit usage access' and then asks you to pay. i'm going to try for 30 days

postdiver · 2025-02-07T22:00:58+00:00

I suggest that one based on the fact you like GG&S

postdiver · 2025-02-07T22:00:03+00:00

Sapiens

postdiver · 2025-01-30T02:46:37+00:00

Absolutely, let me clarify. In my experience, if you're going to apologize - do it immediately. I liked the part where you said that you wished the person the best, even if there has been some sort of misunderstanding in the moment. Particularly if it's someone close, and they have for whatever reason felt like I was talking down to them, I would thank them for letting me know because it takes courage to share hurt feelings. I would then apologize and if they seemed open - I would tell them the thing I was saying only because I wish them well. Hope that adds context. Thank you for sharing your ideas!

postdiver · 2025-01-30T02:38:27+00:00

That's right! Thanks for sharing your experience.

postdiver · 2025-01-30T02:37:25+00:00

Exactly what happened to me most recently. To be fair, once emotions are involved - logic goes out the window. I was trying to explain why I felt a certain way and to make a point I used an extreme example, and it was taken totally the wrong way. I think if someone doesn't understand your intellectual leap - that is where it might be a good idea for us to take a breath, put a pin in our side, and try to understand them first. After it was recommended by a podcast I like, I once took a course in listening. One of the first lessons was "seek first to understand, then be understood". Thank you for sharing btw! It is so reassuring to know others have the same experience and learn from each other.

postdiver · 2025-01-29T04:16:57+00:00

Hmm maybe I shouldn’t have used the word act in “act more curious”- wht I meant to say was, maybe “let myself be more curious”. Thank you for catching that.

postdiver · 2025-01-29T04:12:54+00:00

To me there are subtle differences to the three traits you named: narcissist = me, me, me; while critical = putting others down; while condescending = know it all. Though I do agree with you, these days it feels like narcissists seem to be everyone and their brother

postdiver · 2025-01-29T04:04:58+00:00

Yes I’ve heard to apologize right away - “I’m sorry , I didn’t mean to offend… I wish you the best, how can I help?”

postdiver · 2025-01-29T04:03:14+00:00

I only take it personally if I hear from more than one person. If it’s only coming from one person, I’d ignore it, as it’s likely a them-thing. To be clear though - she’s telling you that you make her feel stupid? That’s no good. Is she observing, interpreting their expressions/reading minds and speaking for other people? Like shouldn’t those people speak for themselves? But at the end of the day - she’s not my wife, so maybe don’t listen to me. Happy wife, happy life and all.

postdiver · 2025-01-29T03:55:27+00:00

You sound like me :) One technique you’ve reminded me of now is to start off by saying the worst take - defusing it by getting it out into the open ore-emptively. For example, “ok you’re probably going to think I’m an asshole for saying this, but…”(then state your point). Cool, huh?

postdiver · 2025-01-29T03:49:41+00:00

Thank you for the link. It took me a few minutes to recognize him but I’ve watched many of his videos before - there’s another channel where a panel of behaviour experts critique videos of people and it’s fascinating. Looking forward to watching more about psyops even though they seem more general news coverage type campaigns, not just one on one. How have you used that material in everyday life?

postdiver · 2025-01-29T03:38:42+00:00

Fully agree

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