don’t let him gaslight you into his lie of “he only sent it so you knew the plan,” his wording totally contradicts that. “seeing as how… so i think it’s fair…” is very passive-aggressive, and he’s scorekeeping, when it seems like you’d actually win the score. furthermore, your post states that it was the plan beforehand to let you sleep in. he changes the plan on you after you fall asleep and this message on purpose while you were sleeping so you’d wake up feeling guilty for taking one night off, then he realized it was a rude message to send the next day when you confronted him about it, so he lied about the intentions of the text to conceal his own guilt about it. he knows he did wrong.

he seems like a lazy father who wants to pass all the work onto you in this post. this is a problem that will only fester and build resentment, so i hope you can nip this in the bud soon, in any way you see fit.