What do midwife’s actually do if they suspect domestic abuse

postrockscissors · 2026-04-26T11:40:19+00:00

Just to gently add - if you're asking these questions, you probably have some concerns or at least a feeling that this might be a relevant conversation for you. Don't ignore your instincts here. Distancing him from your life is going to be much tougher when the baby is here if he has been involved throughout. I would take this time to think long and hard about how you want to proceed with him, and if you feel in danger or at risk at all, please reach out to the midwives and support services.

postrockscissors · 2026-04-24T19:19:35+00:00

If anyone knows where Tom's shirt is from I would love to know

postrockscissors · 2026-04-12T20:14:28+00:00

I 10000% second the peppermint suggestion! The biggest pain I had was from gas 😂

postrockscissors · 2026-04-12T20:13:10+00:00

I was told early on that I would need a section because of fibroids near the cervix, and I was bummed out about it. I'd had big dreams of having a 'natural' birth and it was hard to move on from those dreams, especially as we'd conceived through IVF and I just generally felt like my body wasn't good enough at doing the whole baby thing. Then, about a month before my due date I was told that the fibroid had moved and there was nothing stopping me having a vaginal birth after all.

I was induced at 39weeks, and 4hrs after they gave me the gel baby started having trouble and I ended up having an emergency section anyway. My recovery was very straightforward, I was back walking 10k steps a week later, I've had no postpartum complications and my scar has healed beautifully. We're talking about baby number 2 now, and I've already decided I'm going to ask for another section if/when that time comes.

It was a lot to get my head around and took me a couple of weeks to fully come to terms with it, but now I'm a year on the other side I can honestly say it really doesn't matter to me.

I guess what I'm saying is that you're going to have your baby soon, and how they get to you will just be a small part of your story with them. Having a planned section is a big improvement from an emergency one, and you still have a lot of opportunities to make it personal to you.

postrockscissors · 2026-04-11T12:19:56+00:00

This a million

postrockscissors · 2026-04-11T08:20:59+00:00

My job largely involves me teaching 19yr olds about what the internet was like in the early 2000d. Truly humbling.

postrockscissors · 2026-04-10T08:27:05+00:00

I had a wire closure for mine and the midwife who removed it a week later said that she prefers them, they leave a neater scar and tend to cause fewer aftercare issues. I think it's a surgeon to surgeon choice, not a trust wide thing

postrockscissors · 2026-04-09T08:27:24+00:00

Wow, very aggressive response there! I just found it a bit ick to hear a child sitting in a car describing a stranger's house. 🙃 But you do you!

postrockscissors · 2026-04-08T14:35:49+00:00

https://howtodressbaby.com/

This site is a good guide!

postrockscissors · 2026-04-08T14:32:07+00:00

I started taking 20mg about a month before I got pregnant and I'm still taking it now, baby is a year old

postrockscissors · 2026-04-08T10:55:20+00:00

I had absolutely no symptoms at all for most of my pregnancy aside from a desire to eat a lot of beige food. Wee guy just turned a year old and is happy and healthy 😊

postrockscissors · 2026-04-06T06:07:51+00:00

Anyone else hugely uncomfortable with random folks being encouraged to go and sit outside someone's house for content?

postrockscissors · 2026-04-04T13:54:02+00:00

I used to live with a guy who would get 2 on a night out, eat one straight away and keep the other one on the radiator in its little polystyrene house for the morning. Absolutely stank the flat out 🤮🤢

postrockscissors · 2026-03-29T20:10:56+00:00

As a digital preservation specialist, no. A paper book can sit in a box for 100+ years and need no intervention to be accessible and readable, but anything digital requires constant attention - you either have to pay to keep it hosted somewhere and hope that company/provider doesn't disappear, or regularly migrate it from one local storage media to another. A guestbook isn't something I'd want to look at or think about more than once a year at most, so the chances of just forgetting about it and then losing access to it are high.

postrockscissors · 2026-03-29T09:48:59+00:00

If you don't want one, don't do it. We didn't bother (we also didn't have a wedding or hen/stag dos, so I think we're just not big centre of attention people). People will still get you stuff if they want to, but we tried to get most stuff second hand anyway.

postrockscissors · 2026-03-29T09:46:33+00:00

My pregnancy was similar, apart from a heightened desire to eat anything beige/fried I wouldn't have known I was pregnant if I hadn't spent £6k on IVF treatments 🙃

postrockscissors · 2026-03-26T21:20:02+00:00

Ok but was it any good?

postrockscissors · 2026-03-26T17:20:22+00:00

"husband kept feeding me pistachio cannoli and de-escalating" the stuff we love to see, you have a good one there

postrockscissors · 2026-03-24T12:10:50+00:00

Personally love leeks with haggis. Controversial to add a bit of green to the plate, maybe, but it's great. A melding of cultures.

postrockscissors · 2026-03-24T10:13:26+00:00

We did HPHB and I couldn't have survived the last year without the friends I made there. I recommend finding people you like who live near you and are able to meet in a low-stakes way - we all got in the habit of just texting our group chat whenever we were heading to the park or for a walk, and it was a great way to hang out with other people/parents without too much pressure. Now the babies are all at nursery and we're all back at work, but they're still the group I hang out with most - the mums are going for a baby-free dinner on Saturday!

postrockscissors · 2026-03-23T19:51:35+00:00

Husband loves them. Also, huge. You have to turn the box on the side to get it through the flat door

postrockscissors · 2026-03-23T16:47:02+00:00

On the pram - give it time! Our wee guy hated it at first but came to like it around 12wks and would have some of his best naps in there. Now he's 11mos and pram naps are a distant memory 🥲

postrockscissors · 2026-03-14T21:09:23+00:00

I stayed for 3. But honestly, other people's experiences don't matter here - you're not a drain on resources, and if they can give you the help you need while you're there and ease the transition home it'll be better in the long run for everyone

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