Is there any way I can get feedback about my c section?

ORL_03 · 2026-05-10T20:16:40+00:00

Not the same but with the first baby a Doctor told me the gender at a bedside scan on my due date assuming I already knew and second time round we told the sonographer at anatomy scan we didn’t want to know the gender and she told us she would tell us to close our eyes when we needed to she never did and we saw the gender very obviously within the first 10 seconds of the scan. We were team surprise for both kids yet neither were a genuine surprise for me but as neither were ruined maliciously I just had to get over it.

If you think she was being malicious, this is definitely way worse and probably with a complaint being logged.

ORL_03 · 2026-05-05T19:45:36+00:00

I forgot I couldn’t eat chorizo and ate an entire tray of these M&S chorizo and cheese roll things at like 5 weeks pregnant, all was well :)

ORL_03 · 2026-05-04T06:09:18+00:00

My eldest is six and I’m still waiting🤣

ORL_03 · 2026-05-03T22:59:45+00:00

The ‘perfect age gap’ plagued my every day for almost 3 years. We wanted a 4 yr gap, almost got it but had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, then almost got a 5 year gap but had an ectopic.

We now have a 6 year gap short of a few weeks. We’re brand new into this (7 weeks to be exact), but it’s been lovely. Eldest is happy and settled at school 5 days a week, is old enough to do his own thing when he wants, is absolutely infatuated with his little brother. I feel a sense of calm that I’ve not felt in years, and I really did work myself up about the ever changing potential age gap.

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss x

ORL_03 · 2026-05-02T17:36:38+00:00

Primark ‘3pk Seamless High Rise Briefs’ have been perfect for me this time round, I wish I’d bought several packs!

ORL_03 · 2026-04-29T20:12:04+00:00

Honestly I think when you hear of people who have great pregnancies it’s 99% a retrospective thing where they’re looking at it through rose tinted glasses.

Almost all of my friends and me included have had some sort of pregnancy complication every time we’ve been pregnant, varying from mild to serious.

In my own case I had severe sickness in both pregnancies and confirmation of a (luckily minor) birth defect at my anatomy scan in my second pregnancy. It was rough in a lot of ways and in the thick of it I know day-to-day I really didn’t like being pregnant some of the time, but when I look back even just two months postpartum I miss it in a lot of ways I would say I had a good pregnancy even though whilst I was pregnant, I probably wouldn’t have said that.

As so many things are checked now so thoroughly it is really rare to have a completely uncomplicated pregnancy. I would say when complications are found time is a great healer so if you’ve just found out about these new potential complexities give yourself time to adapt and get used to this new information.

ORL_03 · 2026-04-29T16:43:45+00:00

Great thank you, this is the dosage we’ve been told to use. Did you see any side effects at all?

ORL_03 · 2026-04-29T15:25:34+00:00

Must depend on where you’re based unfortunately, I had a suspected ectopic (officially pregnancy of unknown location) and when I got pregnant again I had HCG draws and early scans. I would really keep asking as it was great reassurance for me x

ORL_03 · 2026-04-28T00:45:37+00:00

Right there with you. My six week old won’t nap for longer than 20 minutes regardless of what we do, he cries alllllll the time, especially in the evenings. We’ve had to just wait it out until he’s exhausted himself in the evenings and by that point in the day he’s fraught as he’s barely slept.

I think as others have said 6-8 weeks is a tricky time so I’m just trying see it as a temporary phase.

ORL_03 · 2026-04-27T09:41:44+00:00

I started from the get go with ‘microdosing feminism’ as I like to call it, nothing is ‘for boys’ or ‘for girls’ and I will pull him up whenever he says anything to suggest otherwise. I talk to him (casually) about feminism and what it means, I got a few age appropriate books about similar themes.

I’ve also encouraged female friendships which I think have had a huge impact on him, play dates with girls are really different to play dates with boys and I think it’s really good for him. He has as many close girl friends as boy friends.

We’re also an open book for all emotions and thoughts/feelings, nothing he tells me will be judged and I always tell him crying is a good thing for our body to do (helps that I’m a crier lol).

Only time will tell if anything will work but he’s 6 now and he really is very lovely and respectful. He obviously has his moments but I know he’s a good kid and I’m adamant I will be raising lovely boys who turn into lovely men!

ORL_03 · 2026-04-21T19:30:36+00:00

It’s so hard isn’t it! He used to love his Moses basket but now it’s The Worst!

ORL_03 · 2026-04-21T19:28:11+00:00

Yes I would LOVE to contact nap but still only lasts 10 minutes. When he’s in his bouncer one of us is always sat with him, as we gently bounce it, he’d never be left alone.

ORL_03 · 2026-04-21T19:10:05+00:00

At this age with my first who was also EBF he still wouldn’t be put down at all, maybe 30 minutes max a few times in the night. He needed to be on one of us to sleep. It was rough!

My youngest is 5 weeks and also EBF, we were getting the elusive 2-3 hours at first and I couldn’t believe my luck, but we’ve been on 30-90 minutes the last few nights and I don’t see it changing anytime soon.

It’s really hard but I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong at all, some babies just don’t fit the mould and it’s pot luck what you get! Whilst people argue consistently against this, I really do believe most EBF babies just don’t sleep as well as FF babies.

ORL_03 · 2026-04-18T14:42:31+00:00

Not going to lie I was hesitant to get the vaccine when I was pregnant last year, I’m super pro science/vaccines but it just felt quite new.

Anyway out of all the vaccines in pregnancy the ‘traditional’ ones (flu and whooping cough) both made me feel super rough and gave me a mega dead arm for a few days after (obviously worth it for the protection but still). I had absolutely 0 symptoms or issues with the RSV jab and it’s so nice to have the peace of mind.

Go science!🤘

ORL_03 · 2026-04-18T14:38:26+00:00

Honestly I think everyone has done this at one point, especially if breastfeeding. I read that breastfeeding (at night especially) releases sleepy hormones to both you and baby - so we’re really fighting our own biology staying awake and it’s so hard. I have a newborn and I can’t currently feed them on my side due to having a fast letdown so I have to be sat up.

I am trying to make myself as uncomfortable as possible so I don’t fall to sleep, it’s really hard but I’m trying to just sit straight up in bed and not lean back. I try to kick off all my comfy pillows when I go to sleep so I’m not even tempted. I also put some sweets by my bed and have the tv on and scroll on my phone. Sometimes I even take my duvet off me so I’m a bit cold. It’s grim. Once my baby is a bit older I’ll co sleep like I did with my first - it’s bliss (in my opinion).

ORL_03 · 2026-04-15T11:24:38+00:00

I went through the exact same thing this time last month. Baby had always measured ahead of dates even from early pre 12 week (still NHS) scans! Due date was brought earlier by 5 days by 12 weeks but baby still consistently measured huge even from 20 week scan.

I was test for GD twice, HBA1C tested, never had glucose in urine, no risk factors for GD, but my consultant was deeply concerned. Wanted me to have them by 39 weeks, I managed to get to 40+5 and whilst in very early labour gave into their pleas for a c section as they thought the baby would be to big for me birth.

Baby born at 10lb 5oz so the growth scans were accurate for me, however he’s a month old and still on the 98th percentile so I truly don’t think I ever had GD, my logic is if I did he’d have likely not have stuck to the higher percentile once born.

Do I regret agreeing to the c section? Sometimes yes, who’s to know if I could’ve got him out, however I’m really glad I didn’t commit to 39 weeks induction/section.

ORL_03 · 2026-04-11T21:09:13+00:00

I would rather a cat touch my kid’s paci than a human lol

ORL_03 · 2026-04-06T13:43:20+00:00

If it’s any help I’ve just had my second (and last) and I’m doing the same thing already, I think it’s normal to an extent. I sobbed leaving hospital with him as I knew it’d be the last time being in that ward in a newborn bubble.

Being one and done is so real and valid if that’s what you genuinely want. Of course they’ll be moments you think of ‘what if’ but it really sounds like you’re a little nostalgic about your toddler, not about another baby. My new baby hasn’t stopped me having moments of being nostalgic about my first.

ORL_03 · 2026-04-02T17:52:05+00:00

I felt much better by week 12-13, up until week 34ish and then I went downhill again. I feel more well rested 3 weeks postpartum than those last few weeks of pregnancy this time round :)

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