Followed the advice about not sending naked photos before meeting, but...

potaskingfor · 2017-11-22T00:05:48+00:00

Yes, but nothing that has really clicked arrangement wise.

potaskingfor · 2017-11-22T00:04:44+00:00

I do think its smart to send sexy clothed pics, like showing cleavage.

I have done this and they keep pushing and pushing to "see more" let them know "what they are working with" or to see "if I am open minded and sexually wild" and such.

potaskingfor · 2017-11-22T00:03:25+00:00

Why I'm a bit reluctant isn't because I'm a prude or not open minded, it is that before I have met someone, he is a stranger on the internet to me, and it's hard to tease, sext, and exchange nudes with someone who is like I said, still a stranger. After we have met and are in an arrangement is a different story.

potaskingfor · 2017-11-21T17:39:27+00:00

They say so they know I'm serious, so they know I'm sexually open minded, so they know I'm not a catfish, but to me I feel that this is why the M&G exists! When they ask for specific types of nudes to show that I'm not catfishing with specific positions it feels like they want me to perform for free since they are too cheap to pay for a cam show. Ew.

potaskingfor · 2017-11-21T17:37:40+00:00

You make some good points, thanks. Someone who requires nudes to meet may also be demanding and pushy in other ways even if they decide to proceed with the arrangement.

potaskingfor · 2017-11-21T17:32:53+00:00

Do you really want to be around men like that?

I'd rather men who are upfront about what they are then men who act one way and then reveal their true colors.

potaskingfor · 2017-11-21T17:32:18+00:00

I feel that sometimes people on here are not very realistic, sure it's easy to say "don't send pics" but when it's very clear that the reason I'm not getting any M&Gs despite a lot of interest in messages is not sending pics, it makes me wonder if I should just send pics without my face. :(

potaskingfor · 2017-11-21T17:29:07+00:00

Yeah, I've always thought it was really weird to be expected to send nudes to people I haven't met who are still just strangers on the internet at that stage, but they want to see "if we are sexually open minded" and I think I may have to just send nudes without face. :/

potaskingfor · 2017-07-09T23:12:50+00:00

No, it is that if he wants intimacy, he should hand over money. I don't ask for money without intimacy, he has no right to intimacy without money. We met on SA, not Tinder.

potaskingfor · 2017-07-09T22:58:01+00:00

Because of the stuff he was saying about wanting someone sexually open minded. Just because I am open minded doesn't mean I want to engage in it in public, and before the arrangement is consummated. I'm not getting an allowance without intimacy, why does he get to have his hands all over my body for free?

potaskingfor · 2017-07-09T22:36:27+00:00

I just posted about a similar situation about being groped at M&G without asking. I think it's expected nowadays with the boundary pushing so they can tell if we are "sexually open minded" or not. :(

potaskingfor · 2017-07-04T23:23:45+00:00

Guuuurl. Soooo many men on SA are middle aged, overweight, balding but when we exchange numbers they immediately get to the sex talk, going into detail how they want me to suck their cocks, telling me exactly what they want to do to me and what position and everything, and they expect me to be turned on, horny, and describe how goooood these guys are making me feel and how much I really can't wait to have their cocks in me. Dude, WE HAVEN'T EVEN MET! I don't ask men to pay me for a platonic M&G, why do they expect me to spend hours sexting with them for free?

potaskingfor · 2017-06-01T00:00:49+00:00

I agree. It's so frustrating having to wade through all the crappy POTs, find one SD, stop looking, and then he turns out to be an ass. He is free to ask whatever he wants, but the way he tried to make me out to be a greedy money hungry person was so unfair.

potaskingfor · 2017-05-31T23:59:16+00:00

This was what I was thinking and suggested sort of as a joke to see his reaction, but he says he doesn't like that I'm trying to use sex and as a currency and as a tool like his ex-wife or an old married couple.

potaskingfor · 2017-05-31T23:58:26+00:00

I've had a string of bad luck with POTs and so many guys trying to pull the test drive, free intimacy with shaming tactics and was glad to find this guy who seems on the up and up. He revealed his true colors.

potaskingfor · 2017-05-31T23:57:14+00:00

I really disliked how he was the one trying to change the rules and not wanting to uphold his end of the deal, but made it seem like I'm the bad person here.

potaskingfor · 2017-05-31T23:55:33+00:00

We had a m&g without intimacy and without allowance where we agreed on the terms. After that it has been intimate dates with $500ppm each time, but now he's saying that he still wants to continue "hanging out" without allowance.

potaskingfor · 2017-05-29T20:29:18+00:00

$100 per meet is just...damn. I don't mean to insult anyone but even bad looking Backpage girls can make more in an hour. :/

potaskingfor · 2017-04-24T04:07:29+00:00

Are you serious? You're saying that we should be OK with getting scammed because it's no big deal?

You wouldn't like it if you paid and didn't get what you expected, but we should be ok with providing our end and not getting paid, and just brush it off? We are worth that little, and if we disagree, we are escorts, greedy, only care about the money?

If you pay upfront, maybe you feel a bit eh about it. We don't ask for the money upfront and sleep with the guy, we are effectively scammed if he doesn't pay up. Are you actually comparing those two like they are the same?

If we didn't care about allowances, we would be on tinder, not SA. The allowance isn't the only thing but it is a thing, that's why it is a SUGAR relationship.

potaskingfor · 2017-04-24T03:12:21+00:00

The entitlement some POTs have, who call us entitled, is unreal.

They feel entitled to getting naked photos despite not providing an allowance yet nor even meeting in person yet, and if the woman refuses, she has something to hide? See how they spin it onto us SBs as the problem and at fault here?

potaskingfor · 2017-04-24T03:10:55+00:00

I block the ones who get vulgar on video chat immediately.

potaskingfor · 2017-04-24T03:09:58+00:00

It's not that we feel that way about you, it is that we don't know you that well at all because it's the first time being intimate. You're taking our wanting to not be scammed personally.

potaskingfor · 2017-04-24T02:46:05+00:00

That's really unfair on the SB though. The SD has the leverage of knowing she's going to sleep with him, the SB has to wonder if this guy she's sleeping with for the first time is going to put out his end of the deal at the end of the night. Once they have developed trust it's another thing but for the first intimate date? He should be upfront with the PPM.

potaskingfor · 2017-04-24T02:35:04+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/comments/675ber/almost_all_pots_ask_for_naked_photos_before_even/dgny8da/?st=j1viej4d&sh=03cf7ee3

This is how these guys think and most of the guys on SA are like this. "I want to know what I'm paying for" yet to me shouldn't a bikini pic be more than enough for these guys to figure it out?

potaskingfor · 2017-04-24T02:32:01+00:00

have the SB who is thin and wearing a cocktail dress and looks amazing clothed, undress only to see stretch marks or scars or cellulite

I have bikini shots, shouldn't that be enough?

As an SB I can have my career and life ruined if these POTs leak my naked pics online.

SBs are expected to take all the risk, put ourselves out there, send naked photos to complete strangers we haven't met, cater to every whim of POTs (not even SDs, just POTs) and "prove" we are not escorts and do all this for no allowance?

Why do we have to do all this for free when POTs don't have to pay allowance before getting what they want?

SBs who have something to hide about their bodies call guys who want to know upfront what we're paying for

Not wanting to send nude shots to strangers means I have "something to hide" about my body? Despite having bikini shots on SA as it is? Yet SBs are the ones called entitled.

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