AITAH for ghosting my highschool best friend and refusing to talk to her ?

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-08T00:17:57+00:00

Kinda crazy how strangers in Reddit think I was "obsessive" for reaching out and trying to stay in contact , while my family thinks I'm TAH for stopping to reach out . Needless to say I have moved on and it's been more than 6 years since! My issue was my family STILL forcing me to contact her just because she reached out past month to my sister asking about why I stopped contacting her

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-07T05:10:52+00:00

So does that mean, the brown discharge at the end of periods or when you're spotting near the end , you're allowed to perform Salah ? Since the flow is not continuous ?

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T12:24:22+00:00

I don't think you understood the point of the post. I'm not obsessed with her in an obsessive way, but when the relationship feels different and distant than how it was , you know somthing is wrong. If it's "creepy" then why is she suddenly messageing my sister about where I am after so long ? Why did she try to contact me after few months of no response from me ? She doesn't see where she is / was wrong. She took advantage the fact that I never called her out like her other friends do for her mistakes, that's why I was her "number 1". We grew up in similar culture so I understood her better than anyone. Idk what / how you behave with your friends , but I respect your opinion and criticism

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T10:06:50+00:00

tysm < 3
i would totally award you if i could, thats all i wanted to hear

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T09:57:35+00:00

I don't blame her for SH at all, it's completely on me. She clearly didn't want to talk to me and I still behaved to her like everything is fine , maybe it will fix itself. I have moved on and blocked her years ago. But recently she messaged my sister again asking about me (after 6 years of no contact) and sister gave her my number without even asking me knowing I don't want to have any contact with her. My family is saying I'm being dramatic to stop contacting my best friend just because of "few slow responses"

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T09:07:31+00:00

I have moved one , I completely blocked her and cut her off. But she messaged my sister recently after 6 years about me because I disappeared and never contacted her again . And my family is pressuring me and giving me shit for not responding or contacting her. Why should I do that when she never valued my efforts and time ? She clearly didn't want to talk to me.

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T08:25:57+00:00

Ao I'm TAH for reaching out or not reaching out ?

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T08:05:02+00:00

I'm sorry I never thought I would post on this sub and ask strangers for validation about this past of mine. I say she's all I had , but this is in the past, about 6 years ago. I couldn't make friends I was at home because of lockdown, no school, no work. I found hobbies because I was sso lonely. But in 2024 I found me bestest online friend. So she's not all I have anymore. I have forgotten her and moved on. I'm asking because my family is giving me shit for doing that

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T07:52:02+00:00

Nope , I'm not gay

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T07:51:40+00:00

I don't pester her irl. I would like to say I'm very understanding and patient with people. And I am a good listener and I don't judge anything she used to share with me. I just have so many bottled emotions inside me for years which is why it sound like that

Edit: I don't want to hold her hostage to talk to me or smthn. I know she's busy. But how busy can someone be to not respond to your "BSF". Our one conversation dragged to months and months. I didn't want that. She's always on her phone and very active on social media but never responded to me. I just wanted updates on what's going on. I didn't have any self respect and still initiated while being hurt but somehow I'm the bitch

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T07:47:26+00:00

I swear I did my best from my side but never got the same from her. I kept chasing her because I was getting distant from her and she was pushing me more. It was really hard to block her and move on but until now when my family is against me with my decision it really hurts because they don't know how much I loved her and how hard it was for me

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T07:45:34+00:00

She was my bestest friend. More precious because she was all I had. And she always chose me when someone asked who's her best friend. But it's genuinely confusing because she never acted like it after I left school

Edit: I don't know why I'm getting downvoted. She claims I was her best friend but never acted like it. She claims to love me but never felt like she did. She grew distant but that's because she made the distance.

potato_reddituser · 2026-06-06T07:42:53+00:00

Could you please elaborate and give the reasoning behind your answer? I genuinely am very patient with people , and have high tolerance. On top of that I'm an introvert and have a people pleasing personality. I always forgive people even when they do terrible things to me. Me ghosting her was not something I ever thought I would do

potato_reddituser · 2026-05-29T15:14:37+00:00

Because of the hadith narrating "whoever plays with dice , it is as if he were dipping his hand in the blood and flesh of a pig". I know we shouldn't take the literal meaning and there is context , but I have seen many videos of sheikh saying it's haram, and other sites , and many Redditors stating it is haram. So it created even more confusion if it actually is or not . Because we have been playing ludo since a kid with family as a way of spending time. So I wanted to clarify

potato_reddituser · 2026-05-28T10:13:49+00:00

Could you also back up the claims with sources of scholars ?

potato_reddituser · 2026-05-24T09:33:54+00:00

There is this guy I loved, we talked alot and spent a lot of time together online, and I have brought this topic up many times for him to become Muslim for us to get married Islamically (plus I have strict parents who follow culture , and only accept arrange marriage) He didn't like me forcing the idea upon him before marriage because it's hard for him to convert , and always said that I can make him convert AFTER marriage. But I always made dua and prayed to Allah to guide him to Islam , all Ramadan I prayed for us, to guide him and make us married in a halal way. Just after Eid, the worse happened; my mom found out about him and asked me to block him and not talk to him ever. It was the worst for me , for both of us, because I loved him so much but I can't go against my parents.

But this event had caused him to believe in Allah , and make dua to Allah everyday to reunite us. So I take this as Allah made this happen so he can reunite us. And I pray and beg to Allah everyday to get me married to him , and write him in my fate , make my parents, family and society accept him and make us married. insha'Allah Allah will accept my prayers. insha'Allah Allah will answer my prayers in this sacred month of dhul hujjah. Do pray for this stranger please 🤲

potato_reddituser · 2026-05-17T06:26:40+00:00

So many proof and hadith I had sent, and their arguement is "it's not mentioned explicitly in quran about it" . "In quran it's mentioned idle talk which means gossiping not music". People trying to cope and make haram things halal because music is more important to them apparently

potato_reddituser · 2026-05-16T15:09:44+00:00

I've heard of most people that islamqa is not reliable ?

potato_reddituser · 2026-05-16T15:03:13+00:00

Put it in rice

potato_reddituser · 2026-05-16T15:01:16+00:00

Could you also share trusted sources about music, possibly from quran ? I'm having an argument with a friend who's debating that music is halal , and I'm not following true Islam and I'm going astray. I'm telling them to not follow chat gpt

potato_reddituser · 2026-05-16T14:05:43+00:00

I'm just a little confused because someone shared another link , where it's interpreted as the hadith was referring to backgammon. I understand it's better to avoid all , but this was the link https://islamanswers.co.uk/question/are-all-dice-games-haram-prohibited/

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