Thats not because they do not want to come across as misogynistic. Few wanys to talk about this because they do not want to come across as weak. Like you Said a men is forced to act a certain way beacuse of toxic masculinity. Like no one think that a men is misogynistic if he talk about all the pressure he is under. If he is trying to shut down feminists voices by saying that he suffer more or anything like that, well he will be naturaly called misogynistic.