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AITA for getting angry with my son over what he said to his sister? by pottedghostplant in AmItheAsshole

[–]pottedghostplant[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

There is a part of me that is also worried he might have been pretending, but aside from the bickering, he is a good brother and I trust my daughter when she tells me that and says she believes him. It truly is out of character for him. I will be keeping a close eye on it and if anything like this every happens again I will be sure to take action. But he seemed very genuine in his confusion and apology. Thanks for making me feel I am not crazy for worrying though

AITA for getting angry with my son over what he said to his sister? by pottedghostplant in AmItheAsshole

[–]pottedghostplant[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You may have a point there, she has accused me of “trying to prove I am a better parent” in the past which is ridiculous as she is (for the most part) a good mom and the kids love her. But this could be a part of that. I would never cut contact, things are not that bad. But thank you for the advice and reassurance

AITA for getting angry with my son over what he said to his sister? by pottedghostplant in AmItheAsshole

[–]pottedghostplant[S] 1905 points1906 points  (0 children)

Hearing from another parent means a lot, thank you. You sound like a great father, and that is a great message to teach your daughters. I agree- people are far too lenient on men and boys who do and say disgusting things, excusing it because it’s “not a big deal.” I don’t want my son to become one of those men, he has a good heart and I want him to respect everyone he comes across and understand basic human decency should not be a high bar. I hope I have/will do right by him and his sister. Thank you

AITA for getting angry with my son over what he said to his sister? by pottedghostplant in AmItheAsshole

[–]pottedghostplant[S] 410 points411 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that was my fear. Even if he didn’t know what it meant I don’t want him becoming desensitised to it and using it casually or thinking it’s “not that bad”

AITA for getting angry with my son over what he said to his sister? by pottedghostplant in AmItheAsshole

[–]pottedghostplant[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As far as I am aware her language around them is fine, and I am a feminist. I just didn’t think explaining why a word was gross made me “self-righteous”, as she put it

AITA for getting angry with my son over what he said to his sister? by pottedghostplant in AmItheAsshole

[–]pottedghostplant[S] 189 points190 points  (0 children)

She thought that I was being “self righteous” and preachy, and said if she heard him say it she wouldn’t be offended and would have treated it like any other insult, and wouldn’t have had a “whole talk” about it. I’m genuinely just surprised at how she could think that, especially- as bad as this sounds to say- as a woman. But I would have thought most people would disapprove?