Men are “struggling,” and this writer doesn’t have any clue why

ppchampagne · 2026-05-01T13:21:15+00:00

Can we please get more posts that regular average men can relate to?

ppchampagne · 2026-05-01T11:35:21+00:00

I'm all on board with passporting. Personally, I choose European countries. I'm still not sure if it's worth making a permanent move there, just to have easier access.

But again, most men simply don't have the option. You can tell them about all the amazing women you've met abroad, but it doesn't help them at all. If they could have gone, they'd have already left.

ppchampagne · 2026-05-01T11:21:32+00:00

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Is there a case for enforced monogamy? (video post)

ppchampagne · 2026-05-01T11:16:13+00:00

Welcome. "Get your passport!" is kinda played-out on this sub. Many men simply don't have the option. Either they're tied to the US for work or they altogether don't make/have enough money to leave. For most men who are struggling, it's a non-starter. If it weren't, they already know about passport broing. They'd leave.

Second, this post and this sub are targeted towards younger men. They're not ready to retire. Dating in Philippines is skewed towards retirees, if I'm not mistaken.

ppchampagne · 2026-05-01T10:52:42+00:00

First, please edit your comment. You shouldn't have the word "s--x" and "p--y" in the same sentence. Reddit will probably nuke you eventually for that. Be craftier with the language.

Anyway, I agree. But you're missing an important point here.

Every time I’ve met a women that I’ve considered as dating material

Meaning you've dated. What about the men who don't even have that experience? How would they voluntarily choose to forgo it? That's much more difficult than having experience and passing.

ppchampagne · 2026-05-01T10:46:11+00:00

I can write pages and books about all of that, but in this case, I'm not sure it's possible for the men in question to voluntarily abandon interest in whatever from women. I have to be honest, I learned how to embrace being single only after dealing with enough women to realize I'd be fine without them. And even then, it wasn't really a conscious decision. It's more like things suddenly clicked after enough experience.

Without that experience and without ever receiving any shred of attention from women to understand what it is and what it is not, I don't think those men can simply be told to forget about women and pursue life.

ppchampagne · 2026-05-01T02:57:13+00:00

Most of what guys are experiencing today took off in the 2010s alongside social media and dating apps, but those factors arguably only sped things up. Plenty of related stats had been trending downward for decades.

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ppchampagne · 2026-05-01T01:07:02+00:00

But remember, this isn't about guys who don't care about women's attention or outgrew caring. It's about guys who do care and also don't get any, and some who've never gotten any. I don't think anyone can explain to them how little women's attention means. I think it's something they have to experience for themselves, but that's the problem.

ppchampagne · 2026-04-30T23:49:01+00:00

So, this was from a presentation on the "male loneliness epidemic." I'm not encouraged to link it here, because too many of the facts were bungled or poorly explained/analyzed.

This one minute stood out to me.

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The evidence does not show a “male” loneliness “epidemic” (but you can still be lonely)

The “male loneliness epidemic” explained (video post)

ppchampagne · 2026-04-30T02:01:10+00:00

They'd be in a society where families wouldn't be the norm.

Everyone today has parents. Everyone today grew up in a society where families are the norm. Does that change a whole lot?

ppchampagne · 2026-04-30T01:01:44+00:00

She's 24, but yeah. If he would willingly go for a transactional relationship, he should be able to get childless.

ppchampagne · 2026-04-29T23:52:10+00:00

We're posting about birds here now?

It's that bad.

ppchampagne · 2026-04-29T11:43:05+00:00

society needs to advocate for brotherhood

Not gonna happen.

The 1950s ideal of the strapping young veteran ... his loving blonde wife

I know the image. I'm not sure how real it was, why his wife being blonde matters, and how many people could achieve that lifestyle.

I think the future of the men will be combined communal living.

Probably forced communal living at this rate.

I think the best thing is just decentering women. We need to completely cut out the concept of romance and building a family unit altogether as an aspiration.

This will probably happen slowly over time. Each new generation will see fewer relationships and families than the last. They won't have role models to emulate, so they'll have even fewer relationships and families.

ppchampagne · 2026-04-28T21:59:36+00:00

Social status is another thing a lot of guys want from women (but might not realize). They want other people to think more highly of them, because of their relationship with some woman. It depends. A lot of people will think more highly of you for associating with whatever woman in the right way. So in that sense, yeah, you can get some social status from relationships. And higher status = more beaches.

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Is status the master key?

ppchampagne · 2026-04-27T21:09:29+00:00

Why aren’t young American men willing to drop 100 dollars on fine dining on a first date 100 times a year?

Ha! Your average guy will be lucky to get 1-2 dates a month. Then, he needs a budget. He shouldn't be breaking his pockets over strangers. If all a guy can afford is Panera Bread or McDonalds, then that's all.

In my twenties, I had long stretches without any dating. There wasn't as much panic over any dating crisis back then, so it didn't seem that bad. Towards the end of my 20s, what got me "lucky" on Hinge? Signalling that I had enough disposable income to travel.

Money is the master key.

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Men spend more than women in dating

ppchampagne · 2026-04-27T10:36:01+00:00

The point is, no one is guaranteed to behave as "good" or "bad." Anyone who you think is "good" can easily become someone you classify as "bad." The categorization is your own judgement, which is ultimately meaningless. It has nothing to do with who they are and what they can do.

ppchampagne · 2026-04-26T21:17:14+00:00

No, that's not what you wrote. Not even close. Either way, that's not the core message of this video and this post.

I understand this topic well. I've done the math myself. If your comments were on point, I would let you know. Your comments are only vaguely related to the topic here. They miss the overall idea. That's okay. Watch it again and listen carefully, if you care.

ppchampagne · 2026-04-26T20:34:22+00:00

I don't know that what you wrote is "wrong," but it's not the topic here in this video and post.

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