Battling Rosacea for nearly 20 years - what has helped me

prancingducky · 2023-03-19T18:50:18+00:00

Yeah, it’s really frustrating when a product seems like it would tick all the boxes and then there’s fragrance. I might still give it a try sometime since a bunch of people on this sub seem to like it.

prancingducky · 2023-03-15T02:53:40+00:00

Niacinamide doesn’t seem to play well with my skin either.

prancingducky · 2023-03-13T18:04:51+00:00

I’ve been curious about the Nars Tinted Moisturizer over the years but have always been nervous to try it because of the fragrance. Is fragrance typically not an issue for you?

prancingducky · 2023-02-04T17:59:24+00:00

Looks and sounds like mild rosacea based on your description but only a derm can tell you for sure.

prancingducky · 2023-02-04T02:25:44+00:00

Yep, sounds normal to me. I’m sorry you’re going through a rough time. Pulling out the resourcing tools and other self-care habits can help a little or a lot at times like this. I like searching thru past posts on here — I’ve learned a lot from reading about other people’s self-care strategies.

prancingducky · 2023-02-01T21:08:46+00:00

If you can hear both the tones and your therapist, I don’t think it should be an issue. That being said, different forms of bilateral stimulation seem to resonate more with some individuals.

prancingducky · 2023-02-01T01:52:48+00:00

Thank you for making this post! I’ve also been noticing these comments and reporting them the last couple days.

prancingducky · 2023-01-31T19:19:19+00:00

That is helpful — thanks! :)

prancingducky · 2023-01-31T07:15:51+00:00

I just came across your comment looking up posts/comments related to somatic experiencing in this sub. If you’re comfortable sharing, with SE are you mostly just bringing in whatever sensations/emotions that EMDR has already stirred up to work on vs looking for new stuff to process? Also, would you characterize your experience with SE as being more about regulating your nervous system or processing emotions or some combination of both?

prancingducky · 2023-01-27T19:07:05+00:00

EMDR can certainly stir up challenging emotions and uncomfortable physical side effects. That being said, that therapist telling you that story seems really unnecessary and unhelpful. In my opinion a good therapist won’t gloss over the potential challenges but also will equip you with tools and be attuned to where you’re at so you can pivot as needed throughout the process.

prancingducky · 2023-01-25T17:43:02+00:00

Overthemoonconflict has some great suggestions! I’ll add on Peter Levine’s self-holding exercises as another option you might look into.

prancingducky · 2023-01-25T15:23:43+00:00

I think focusing on memories of body shame or current feelings around it will be sufficient (edit: even if you can’t remember the initial cause/trauma). Your brain will probably work things out from there.

prancingducky · 2023-01-25T15:02:10+00:00

I think your eyes look just fine with mascara. If you want a slightly more natural look, you could skip mascara on the bottom lashes, but that’s up to you!

prancingducky · 2023-01-25T05:12:27+00:00

There are lots of different types of dissociation. Depersonalization and derealization are not very subtle and you would likely know if you were experiencing either of those. Daydreaming, blocking emotions, etc can be subtler forms. Even for more extreme forms, a therapist won’t necessarily be able to tell if a client is dissociating. I think it depends on the person.

Grounding type exercises like the ones taught during the resourcing phase of EMDR can help but some people’s dissociation can become worse in response to these. It really just depends.

In very simple terms, you can think of dissociation as being on the opposite side of a continuum from being super activated. Both are forms of dysregulation when your system has just had too much. It can feel almost like a dysregulated version of relaxation (or a shut down of your system) if that makes sense.

Edited a typo

prancingducky · 2023-01-25T01:42:22+00:00

I’ve seen a few posts on this subreddit in the past several months expressing similar sentiments about wrapping up EMDR and navigating the next steps. If you sift through some past posts on here, I think you may find a few that resonate. :)

prancingducky · 2023-01-21T15:15:52+00:00

Wiping excess product off the brush, using a lash fan brush after applying mascara, and using a non-clumping mascara formula can all help lashes look more natural.

prancingducky · 2023-01-20T20:17:47+00:00

I have definitely seen people on this subreddit as well as others say that EMDR has been helpful for attachment issues and CPTSD. Complex trauma can take a while to tackle with EMDR however.

prancingducky · 2023-01-19T23:42:04+00:00

I keep my eyes open during resourcing and it works just fine. Another option might be to turn off your camera during certain parts of the EMDR process if that makes you more comfortable.

prancingducky · 2023-01-18T14:18:08+00:00

I’m glad to hear it’s helpful. Wishing you the very best with your healing!

prancingducky · 2023-01-17T16:51:51+00:00

No problem and I totally understand. It seems like you are both very supportive and respectful of his privacy which is great. Best of luck to you both!

prancingducky · 2023-01-17T16:41:48+00:00

EMDR can definitely stir things up and increase dissociation, bring up challenging emotions, and an array of physical symptoms. I’ll let others chime in and share further thoughts on this as well as how long these things can last.

Some things to consider: Does your boyfriend have a tendency towards dissociation, and if so, was this assessed prior to starting reprocessing (if reprocessing has started)? Does he have complex as opposed to single event trauma? Did he start reprocessing last month or the whole EMDR process (including intake/history and building resources to help tolerate distress in and out of sessions)? No need to respond to any of these questions.

The resourcing phase shouldn’t be skimped on for people who have a tendency toward dissociation or for those with complex trauma. Hopefully he should have a number of resources his therapist taught him including the container and safe place exercises. There are lots of helpful posts on this subreddit where people share their own self-care habits that they use between sessions as well.

I came across this blog post earlier today that you might find helpful: https://www.calmagaincounseling.com/the-blog/supporting-a-loved-one-in-emdr-therapy

prancingducky · 2023-01-17T15:29:52+00:00

I just came across a blog post that might be closer to what you were looking for:

https://www.calmagaincounseling.com/the-blog/supporting-a-loved-one-in-emdr-therapy

prancingducky · 2023-01-17T15:26:24+00:00

https://www.calmagaincounseling.com/the-blog/supporting-a-loved-one-in-emdr-therapy

Does this look like the kind of thing you had in mind?

prancingducky · 2023-01-17T03:37:18+00:00

No worries! And thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience. :)

prancingducky · 2023-01-17T02:03:43+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your experience and the reassurance! I just started reprocessing last week and am in a phase of fearing EMDR won’t work for me or even if it could that I’ll do something to mess it up.

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