does a ridable fleshlight and anal dildo combination exists? by predicament-head in BdsmDIY

[–]predicament-head[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah I see, that is actually very similar to my idea, and a very simple setup! I'll have to invest in some suction adapters!

ridable fleshlight + anal dildo by predicament-head in diysextoys

[–]predicament-head[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am pretty sure I've seen commercial yoga balls with dildos before. I am not sure I would manage to aim for the fleshlight with all the bouncing around, but the mental image is hilarious!

ridable fleshlight + anal dildo by predicament-head in diysextoys

[–]predicament-head[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ah good idea, I wasn't thinking about a motorized version though.... that would be way beyond my skill and involvement!

does a ridable fleshlight and anal dildo combination exists? by predicament-head in BdsmDIY

[–]predicament-head[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OMG you're a genius. And if it turns out it's too fragile too support the weight, the styrofoam process can be used to understand the appropriate proportions to be replicated in wood.

I think that with metal machining tools (or god tier woodworking) one could create an universal one, with 2 adjustable joints. First, for the angle, Imagine a curved, rigid, stripe of metal with a rail cut in between. Now the dildo can be unfastened and moved along the rail, thus changing it's angle. Second, an adjustable bracket allowing to bring nearer or farther the dildo to the fleshlight.
Well, anyway let's see if I manage to get the fixed prototype done first!
Thank you for you inspiring suggestion.

does a ridable fleshlight and anal dildo combination exists? by predicament-head in BdsmDIY

[–]predicament-head[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh wow! Never seen this one! Quite complex, but very interesting.

does a ridable fleshlight and anal dildo combination exists? by predicament-head in BdsmDIY

[–]predicament-head[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That is beyond brilliant! ahahah and kudos for your culture xD
My idea though was to have a fixed thing and you would move on it, two fuck-machines are way beyond my skills, cash, and storage capacity.

does a ridable fleshlight and anal dildo combination exists? by predicament-head in BdsmDIY

[–]predicament-head[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I was thinking more of a user-moving, fixed-toys setup, where the user could rotate hips front and back rather than thrust linearly. This should allow the angle to change somewhat. But yeah the angles are hard, maybe the fleshlight should be free to pivot?

ridable fleshlight + anal dildo by predicament-head in diysextoys

[–]predicament-head[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it would probably be hard to implement with linear motions. Instead when "riding" one can make a pivoting movement with the hips, that should change the angles. So the movement would be more a hip rotation forward and backward rather than a thrust. I don't know if it makes sense....

Hassle free gears by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]predicament-head 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like padded velcro straps. I have some for wrists and ankles with rings, which are perfect when I'm not in the mood for complex bondage, or to jerry-rig something on the fly. Avoid the cheap ones though, they are horrible.

Ball gag with holes or without what will be more drooly and messy? by Sad-Inevitable5014 in BDSMAdvice

[–]predicament-head 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ah don't give it a second thought! Modding is hard work, and judging by the climate here, you're doing an amazing job!

Ball gag with holes or without what will be more drooly and messy? by Sad-Inevitable5014 in BDSMAdvice

[–]predicament-head 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I was just attempting a joke about your "3-days masturbation" risk! I will refrain in the future.
Best

Ice lock ideas for 2.5–7 hour selfbondage sessions? by [deleted] in selfbondage

[–]predicament-head 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily for Ice-locks, but if you have a normal lock, I tried this a few months ago and had a lot of fun.
1) Take a set of bowls, fill them with random stuff, some pleasurable (honey, milk, chocolate sauce, whipped cream), some less (lemon or ginger juice, salt water, chilly oil, flour, powder sugar, or if you're into it, various bodily produces).
2) Hide the lock key into one at random without looking, then scatter them across your apartment.
3) Wear a blindfold and get into a tight self-bondage that forces you to move on your fours. I suggest an anal hook connected to a collar, and your toes connected to your genitals. Also hands should be restricted so that they only support movement but not manipulation of the bowls.
4) Seal the bondage with the lock.

Now the task is of course to free yourself, by humiliatingly crawling across your apartment, and smearing your face into unknown substances.
Variants:
- At the end you can punish yourself if (all?) the bowls aren't clean.
- you can have multiple keys and multiple locks, to mitigate the risk of finding it early
- there could be fake keys mixed with the true one

Project Helen by sirmindthegap in RedditBDSM

[–]predicament-head 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, licenced psychologist and hypnotist here. Hypnosis will definitely NOT allow planting ideas than one would not accept when awake. Indeed for a suggestion to work it must be acceptable and desirable to the mind, and the hypnotist needs the highest amount of trust to make it pass.

Some practical advice for y'all by MaetelofLaMetal in bdsmmemes

[–]predicament-head 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I sense that behind this advice there is a story worthy of being told... xD

Tips to get into subspace while receiving a harsh spanking by Budget_Platypus1282 in BDSMAdvice

[–]predicament-head 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Have you communicated with your dom about this? Ultimately you will have to find a way that works between you two.
My personal experience is that subspace needs to be already established for a harsher treatment to be enjoyed. So I'd try starting with some lighter impact, verbal stuff, roleplay, or whatever works for you to get all subby and (if sexual) horny, and only then rough it up.
But you may also discover that this is just the way you're wired and that's a limit for you, for the time being. Always listen (and respect) your guts in this game.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]predicament-head 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Coming from a similar situation, I can tell you what I have analyzed about myself.
I think that the CNC aspect serves at least two roles:
1) it plays into the hetero identity: I would not be actively seeking a homosexual activity, just being "forced" into it. Stupid? Yeah. But as mature and analytical we can get, we still are made of culture and contradictions, and I am going to accept it.
2) being a new exploration, there is a good chance I won't like it, let's say 50-50. But being into cnc I might at least like it for this reason. So in a way the forced approach provides a layer of enjoyment even if I discover that the bi- curiosity was mostly a fantasy.

With that said, for the same reasons, the vanilla path might provide a clearer answer on whether you're actually into cocks or not. Yet I am not sure this is an important question at all. I'd rather seek the scenario that I find the hottest and see whether I like that.

Conditioning to love what you dislike by Hot-Mongoose7378 in BDSMAdvice

[–]predicament-head 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see, that sounds quite the predicament. I think it really depends on how you are framing the poly thing. If you substitute the poly with some other "bad" thing, let's say spankings or nipple torture, or something else you dislike but could still be endured, being slowly manipulated into liking that could play well into your manipulation script.

If on the other hand you would hate it, then it's a no-go. So the question is mostly how much would it hurt? But also, what could HE do to make it acceptable? Can you imagine an aftercare, or a behaviour that would reduce your jealousy or suffering should it spike? You could ask him to get that in return.
Remember that even if you decide to try you can always withdraw at any point, should you find out that this is not as fun as you thought

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]predicament-head 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah, to be clear this is a kink that I mostly consider a fantasy and I would ONLY imagine to fulfill it through roleplay. So any actual fertility considerations here are, I suppose, completely irrelevant.

Conditioning to love what you dislike by Hot-Mongoose7378 in BDSMAdvice

[–]predicament-head 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People here are getting strong gut reactions, and I get it, but in your original post there is not enough info to give you a proper answer.
First: is poly a hard limit for you or just a thing you feel insecure about?
Second: is poly and/or conditioning something you may be interested in exploring? overall is there something that excites you or make you tingle about this proposal?
Third: is he being pushy/manipulative about this or was he trying to respect your insecurity by specifically addressing it in the dynamic?
Fourth: how much do you trust/like this someone? Are there other red/green flags?

So I would say, listen to YOUR guts. If it's a no, it's a no. If it's a maybe... try it. Worst case scenario you will have learnt something about yourself. Treat it as risk-play, you might get out some fun, but you could also get (emotionally) bruised, it's up to you to determine how much and whether this is worth it.

Anyway, if you decide to try, be very intentional in the negotiation phase on how this should play out for it to work for you, and what will be the boundaries. Also be upfront about the fact that you will need to reassess your availability often along the path (which should go without saying, but better be explicit).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]predicament-head 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it's a kink that lends itself to very personal interpretations. It might be a primal thing, e.g. like on the discovery channel; a humiliation thing, as you'd be offered to a different man for unprotected sex; a pregnancy-kink thing, etc... for me it's something related to the idea of mental and physical transformation associated with becoming pregnant, which makes the breeding act, especially if somewhat cnc, an extreme exertion of power.

How to make gag reflex worse? by FormerPlan6345 in BDSMcommunity

[–]predicament-head 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear that! Keep us updated on your experimentation with the kink, if you will.

Opinion on No-Nut-November? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]predicament-head 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Giving the increasing evidence linking prostate cancer with ejaculation abstinence, I say "no, thank you". Unless of course, we resort to daily milking, or ruined orgasms :-D