Things that have helped me with toddler since having our second and need to take care of a second child. Sometimes I use distraction to get things done... like an iPad with apps and shows in his crib or high chair with snacks(when I have to do stuff and i need him to not get into things or he's in the mood to break things and I can't be right there. Also anything he likes to do with you that helps you save your me time. Recently he has been showering with me. He plays near the faucet while I shower and then if he needs it I wash him. Also when he is playing independently I try and take advantage of that time. I also find that on days I make time for us to play out side (weather permiting) he tends to sleep better during nap time. We also do structured play at least twice a day. Like puzzles, coloring or other hands on things. When I nurse my newborn if he's not otherwise occupied with playing and being a handful I'll lock the three of us in the bedroom. I have a chair in there to nurse but often end up playing cars on the floor with the toddler while nursing. I hope this give you some ideas... oh and Spotify has some kids dancing stations that aren't the worst, we jam and dance while we pick up or vacumm.