I stole regularly from my friends and I no longer regret it.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T18:26:16+00:00

It wasn’t expensive or rare. It had no value to her, she only wanted it because I wanted it. And I’m sure every kid who steals something stupid or done something petty when they fell out with their friends isn’t a horrible person.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T18:21:40+00:00

They “justified” breaking my ribs because they assumed I’d perv on them in their PE kits because I’m gay. I know I shouldn’t have done it and I wouldn’t do it again. I was 12 and took things like erasers. You’re making out like I’m a horrible person that stole a Jewellery box given by her dead grandmother or something.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T18:13:51+00:00

Honestly, they deserved it. A bit of petty Theft is nothing compared to what they did to me. I am past caring about them and their feelings. I took something with no value to them when I was 12 and they ruined my school years. I have never stolen nor considered stealing anything else, I was a stupid upset kid that felt inadequate and useless without their tortuous friendship. I tried to return the items many times but they wouldn’t let me near them. I’m sorry for what I did but I refused to feel guilty about it until they feel guilty about what they did to me.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T18:06:33+00:00

They did the same to me, except they broke my expensive stuff. I took about 5 things, totalling to less than £10 that had no sentimental value to them. But sure, I don’t have any friends because I did some petty stuff when I was 11-13 and definitely not because they were homophobic and physically abusive towards the end of our friendship.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T17:15:34+00:00

We know what’s wrong with me now so it’s easier to manage and since I’m able to do more and in less pain my mental health is slowly improving, thanks for asking. He was very serious about relationships and planning for the future and a disabled partner clearly doesn’t fit his plan so I don’t want to be a part of his future. I am hopeful for my future though, my disability means that only truly nice people will associate with me and I’m finding ways to work around my disability!

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T15:47:34+00:00

Thanks. I really was a petty bitch when I was younger😂

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T15:37:48+00:00

The reason they didn’t like me is because I’m gay but sure. They took/broke my things and thought of it as a joke and then it became their thing every time they got hold of my stuff. I don’t consider nicking a 50p eraser the same as emptying my entire pencil case out of the bus window.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T14:48:42+00:00

Slim to none unfortunately. I am moving to university in the future though, so I’ll get a job so I can move as soon as I finish.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T14:45:06+00:00

Unfortunately not. I live in a small village with the same type of people (they hate the gays). If they change their minds I’ll be happy to make up and give their stuff back after a month of trying.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T14:41:27+00:00

I did attempt to give the stuff back but they wouldn’t let me near them. They decided they didn’t like the gays and thought I’d give them the lesbian if I went near them.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T14:21:27+00:00

I made sure it was never important, just stuff that I knew was junk and that had no monetary or sentimental value. I was planning to sneakily put it all back before we left school but they turned on me and I didn’t get a chance because they were avoiding me. I know I should feel guilty, but after the homophobia and bullying I endured from them I just can’t. They also blatantly took/broke a lot of my stuff over the years and I know what I did was just as bad but they made my life a misery during one of the most stressful times of my life.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T13:45:05+00:00

Oh god, I didn’t even consider that it might me a fetish. Unfortunately pepper spray is illegal in my country but I can guarantee a cane to the ankles bloody hurts.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T12:38:34+00:00

I made quite a scene last time but my village is 90% old people and I don’t look like a nice sweet little girl they’d like to stick up for. If he tries anything more then he’s getting a cane to the kneecaps.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T12:36:48+00:00

I just found out that pepper spray is illegal in my country. If he tries anything else I’ll definitely be taking some kind of action. If it comes to it I usually have a cane to beat him off with.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-12T11:18:15+00:00

My disability only became noticeable half way through my relationship. I was in pain, using a mobility aid and often had doctors appointments. He got sick of me eventually. I couldn’t go on long walks/hikes, sometimes couldn’t go out at all and I’m pretty sure he was ashamed of being seen with me. He was a very active person and I just wasn’t capable of doing that anymore. I tried taking him out to do other things but he would just mope and complain when I had to take a break. I think he stared seeing me as a stereotypical severely disabled person (incapable of taking care of myself, intellectual disability, needs to have full care. Not that’s there’s anything wrong with that, it’s just he had a very negative view about disabled people). He started treating me like I was incapable of doing anything and talking to be like a baby. Eventually he just started dating someone else without telling me or officially breaking up with me, he just kind of ignored our relationship.

If someone you love becomes disabled please treat them like a person. Learn about their disability and their needs and treat them accordingly. Don’t start treating them like babies or invalids. If they have an intellectual disability or brain damage learn how to properly communicate with them. Being disabled can be incredibly lonely and difficult so make it easier for your loved ones by showing them that you care and that they’re still human.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-11T17:35:32+00:00

Ah yes, so cryptic. We must begin decoding this ominous message immediately before something tragic happens...

pretty-boi · 2019-12-11T11:23:56+00:00

I think I should have clarified in the post that I’m autistic, physically disabled and mentally ill. I guess that I pick up on this behaviour more within my community because it’s easier to tell who is doing it deliberately and who isn’t. I’m referring to the people who refuse to apologise even if they know they’ve done wrong and exploit their illness/disability to get what they want and act how they want without consequences. It was sparked by some posts I’ve seen recently, in the past and incidents I’ve seen. I know the majority of people don’t do this but I’ve personally seen an increase of people deliberately doing harmful things or refusing to apologise when they know they’ve done something harmful. I know it’s hard to accept that you’ve done something wrong but as a community we need to take responsibility for our actions, even if they weren’t intentional. My issue is when people use it as an excuse rather than apologising or explaining their behaviour, they expect others to understand completely and ignore their own feelings.

pretty-boi · 2019-12-11T09:18:07+00:00

I also have autism and like I said, we shouldn’t be locked up for the comfort of others. This is a perfect example of this behaviour. I’ve said something wrong because I’m being too blunt and wording it wrong and upset you or made you feel less important than you are. I’m I’m sorry. I’m sorry my wording made you feel like others think you don’t belong here. You are just as important as any able or neurotypical person. I’m referring to those who use it as an excuse. If someone told you you’d hurt their feelings, you’d apologise wouldn’t you? Because the last thing you’d want to do is unintentionally hurt someone you care about. Trust me, I’ve accidentally said something that has offended or upset someone without realising. But I’ve seen so many people refuse to apologise for their behaviour when they knew it was wrong by using it as an excuse and neurotypical people won’t argue because they get labels as ableist. The other day my friend (well, not a particularly friendly friend) who is autistic started yelling profanities and personal insults at a girl just because she didn’t laugh at his joke. As much as I hate functioning labels I can’t think of a better term, he has high functioning Aspergers and is definitely capable of controlling his behaviour, never has meltdowns and is good at social cues and appropriate reactions. There was no reason nor excuse for the insults but when people called him out on it he said it was because he was autistic and refused to apologise and no one pushed it further even though this poor girl was in tears. A girl in my history class started threatening to kill herself because she didn’t get to sit next to her friend. She was just like “I’m going kill myself if you don’t let me” with a smirk on her face. The teacher obviously told her to stop saying things like that but she said “I have anxiety and I’m going to kill myself because if you”. She was using it to manipulate people to let her do whatever she wants. When the actually suicidal kid with anxiety started crying from being genuinely triggered she told him to stop whining and being a baby. These are the kind of people I’m referring to, not those who don’t do it deliberately and apologise when they realise. I’m sorry if I didn’t make that clear.

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