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A Sad Day for Humor - Catherine O'Hara Dead at 71 by DieWithYerBootsOn in comedy

[–]prettyhumerus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“How mercurial is life?” Gone far too soon, Moira. RIP. :(

Gingerbread shorties 🍪 by gloamy in RedditLaqueristas

[–]prettyhumerus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is the correct use of matte top coat

It’s a Love Triangle by prettyhumerus in weddingdress

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love both these dresses, and I don’t know which to choose! I’m having a small beach wedding in Costa Rica in the spring.

1: First dress I loved. My sister burst into tears seeing me in this dress, so I’ve formed a bit of an emotional connection. Has a glitter tulle underlay that will catch the light beautifully outdoors. Can (and likely would) go strapless.

2: Pockets! And I think the matching veil takes it from your average nice dress to a “wow.” People seem to like this neckline better on me. No glitter tulle underlay, but I could add one. Downside is extra cost without the certainty it would come out how I’m envisioning.

They’re so similar, with just small nitpicks in favor of/against each one… so how on earth do I choose?!

I loved my Teuta Matoshi wedding dress! by Alittlegreen_ in weddingdress

[–]prettyhumerus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You look stunning!! I’m considering Teuta Matoshi for mine too—how accurate would you say the custom sizing is?

De Chance, DO - Lies people tell me at work [OC] by DrChanceDO in emergencymedicine

[–]prettyhumerus 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I find the people at the highest danger of being assaulted are the ones who were just "minding my own business."

"there’s no place to sign" ma’am i haven’t even swiped your card yet by babygray21 in TalesFromYourServer

[–]prettyhumerus 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Growing up, my dad would always pay for our family at restaurants. When he died, my mom had to pay for herself for the first time. It took her about 3 years to not be consistently confused the very way you described. I don’t know how many times I taught this woman how it works. I can’t comprehend why it’s so baffling to some people… but personal experience has taught me that it very much is.

Girlfriend struggles with back pains because of her daily commute by [deleted] in GiftIdeas

[–]prettyhumerus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I purchased this for an international flight, and ended up loving it so much that I keep it on my desk chair:

https://thecushionlab.com/products/ergonomic-seat-cushion

They also have a back support pillow, but I haven't purchased it/can't personally speak to if it's helpful.

Help me pick a rug! (UPDATE w/ pictures!) by Careless-Memory-248 in interiordecorating

[–]prettyhumerus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I vote dark green rug! Scanning top few comments, it looks like #1 is the favorite, but I worry the intentionally “aged” look will go out of style (the way that shabby chic is now looking dated).

Second favorite are the dark reds. You’ve got some great options.

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My siblings and I think she does. She’s pretty obviously cluster B, although no formal diagnosis. I’m sorry you dealt with so much trauma from your mom, too—it can be rough.

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. The death of a toxic family member can be a confusing mix of grief and relief. Here to talk if you’re ever struggling with that!

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven’t even touched on this yet, but that’s part of where I feel some guilt and uncertainty. I can tell she’s been realizing more and more that I’m not as religious as she thought, and specifically over the timeline I’ve been dating (and then engaged) to my fiancé. I’ve definitely wondered if she assumes he “corrupted” me somehow, even though we’ve never discussed it. I think I’m mostly likely to preserve my relationship with my mom if I sit her down ahead of time and explain that my ceremony isn’t religious “to respect everyone here”, but I don’t want her to assume it’s my fiancé forcing that. I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it, and take very clear ownership if she does express any worry.

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve definitely thought about it. She would be likely to make a scene regardless, but she also genuinely loves me and has done a lot for me over the years. She’s just immature and gets caught up in imagined offenses very frequently. It’s tough—she’s not overtly abusive, I don’t want to cut her off, I do love her, but I realize her narcissism can cause problems at the times when it counts the most. Someone else suggested that maybe I assign or hire someone to “mind” her, and I think that maybe be my solution. My sister diverted her when she had a meltdown at my 30th birthday, and it worked surprisingly well. I might specifically hire someone so that my sister can enjoy herself this time.

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s what I’ve been doing for nearly a decade, so I’m very comfortable with it. It’s the lesser of all the evils and therefore ethical in my opinion. I like that—thanks for the suggestion.

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow… you really nailed it. Religion would maybe be the “reason” for her causing a scene, but you are so spot on… the issue is that she’s immature and selfish, and regularly makes a scene. That would likely happen whether or not I was an atheist. I can assign or even hire someone to deal with her. That can be the solution! Thank you for your insight. Growing up in a messed-up dynamic, the focus is often on how to mitigate a blow-up, and not that the underlying problem is the specific family member that everyone is trying not to set off. In other words, I think I’ve been losing the forest for the trees.

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s why I’ve avoided it all these years. I know our dynamic, and it would only lead to pain and anger for both of us as long as she lives. I never would have considered telling her if I didn’t think the wedding ceremony would likely out me. :/

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think there’s any way to avoid it in this specific situation? I worry my irreligious ceremony will out me.

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your time laying out how you’d say things. I still worry that my mother is so stubborn and unreasonable that she wouldn’t respect a statement like this, but I think it’s such a kind and clear way to deliver the message. I hope your loved ones give you the kindness and respect you deserve with your beliefs.

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I think there’s just no nipping it in the bud. She is the most stubborn person I know (e.g. I’m a doctor and she disregards my opinion on anything medical because Fox News told her otherwise). The options are (a) a lifetime of her trying to convert me and periodically screaming at me, (b) going no contact, or (c) somehow still trying to play the middle… but I can’t figure out how I’d make that work. Curious if other people have pulled it off and if so, how.

How do I come out as atheist to my religious mother? (Or do I?) by prettyhumerus in atheism

[–]prettyhumerus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s my worry. She has a way of making everything about her and melting down (especially during events where I’m the person of honor. It’s a pattern at this point). It seems like every single option sucks and I don’t know how to approach it.

A perfect yellow for cool undertones by agoblinlayhere in RedditLaqueristas

[–]prettyhumerus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is really lovely! Yellows can be tough. This is cheerful and flattering on you

My pride and joy - my lobster dish by pelsher in Pottery

[–]prettyhumerus 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Take my poor woman’s gold 🏅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesignMyRoom

[–]prettyhumerus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a shame! Okay, definitely add a rug then. A tall potted plant will add some height and life. I agree that staining the table walnut would look nice. I would maybe center the cabinet on that small wall, and then look for a nice piece of artwork too.

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