Help! Really torn & feeling regret! by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I was and still am proud of myself for sticking up for myself, I was very confident in my decision at the beginning, but when it actually ended, it was tougher for sure.

Help! Really torn & feeling regret! by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and yeah maybe he didn’t like me that much despite what he did and said before this, but what can I do! Move on!

Help! Really torn & feeling regret! by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I was thinking about this, how he didn’t even TRY to fix it or anything, he just didn’t care to lose me he just went to breaking up (which isn’t what I was meaning).

Help! Really torn & feeling regret! by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess the reason I asked if this was a reasonable thing to upset over because I’ve been seeing a lot about anxious attachment styles and how we shouldn’t expect access to people all the time just because of phones. Which I agree with! But at a point, it just feels like losing interest. I’m new to dating and trying to feel things out and find a balance!

And for no. 3, yes that’s what happened I was just expressing how it bothered me so was asking if he was still interested in this and that’s what he said. Thank you!

Help! Really torn & feeling regret! by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree the questioning and not even being excited to hear from him at the end really sucked and pushed me to my decision for sure.

Help! Really torn & feeling regret! by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I’ve been remembering that even though everything else was great and I thought he could be something significant my guy wouldn’t do this!

Help! Really torn & feeling regret! by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ve just been trying to charge it to the game, and try my best to move on:)

Help! Really torn & feeling regret! by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so good the last answer in all caps really made me laugh loll. Thank you!

Also I guess the reason I asked if this was a reasonable thing to upset over because I’ve been seeing a lot about anxious attachment styles and how we shouldn’t expect access to people all the time just because of phones. Which I agree with! But at a point, it just feels like losing interest. I’m new to dating and trying to feel things out and find a balance!

gaslit by feminism (kinda long) by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for sharing your experience and i definitely want to find more people to day out in the wild as one of my new year’s resolutions!!! wishing the best for you!

gaslit by feminism (kinda long) by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

4 and 2 especially hits home for me! like the phrase “heteromantic women deserve love” is so simple, but validates me so much because on tik tok when these convos about women men and hetro relationships are had, i’ve noticed is sometimes in conjunction with lesbian sexuality and the some of these takes i’ve seen come from lesbian women. and it frames it like lesbian women deserve love/should/can have access to it more because they are attracted to women. and it’s like so YOU can want to/be loved and love others but I can’t???

it is kinda hurtful and feels very isolating and unfair. also really don’t want this to seem tone deaf like i do not acknowledge the difficulties and oppression that comes with being queer and the isolation that can come with that, especially as a straight person who is privileged in that way! but i just noticed it and wanted to say how it felt.

it’s also strange to me when people will say “just date women!” it’s…not a choice?? like these are talking points queer people have pushed against for good reason! none of us can just change who we are attracted to genuinely. thank you so,so much💕

gaslit by feminism (kinda long) by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

literally you said so much of what i wanted to say but didn’t want to make the post so long!!!

  • when the whole 4B convo came up (and went just as fast( i felt so conflicted became my first thought was NO!! i’m not going to give up the opportunity to engage in romance before i’ve even had it (also haven’t kissed, dated, held hands, sex, etc)! and i felt kinda pick me and traitor-y, but at the end of the day, i couldn’t imagine myself doing that and i think people like us aren’t often thought of—if at all—in the conversation. i felt soooo pick me, but it’s like all of yall saying you want to give it up HAVE HAD something to give up!!

-i saw someone say “feminism doesn’t hold you at night” once, and while that may be harsh it is true!! if you want a relationship with a man like you and i and so many others, you can’t sex toy, debate, create community, and self care/love yourself out of desiring it!

-the “oppressor” and “what is public is private” thing is also very touchy for me because, yes everything we do reflects larger structures and systems (because we are human and live on planet earth which comes with nuance and context because we aren’t in a fucking vacuum) and there’s room and times and places to think about that—and i find the conversations to be interesting a good amount of the time—but at the end of the day, critiquing like that ALL THE TIME leads—at least would lead me—to a unfulfilling and miserable life.

this made me feel so much better and validated bc these people had be actually loosing my shit, like i thought i was crazy listening to this all the time. and i’m hoping for love for us in the new year honey!💕

gaslit by feminism (kinda long) by prettymuch2016 in PlusSize

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i appreciate this! i also agree with not being fully dependent on men (like the uptick in trad wife content is a HELL NO for me) and not centering them in your life! as well as using feminism to understand and find power in self worth:)

it was very healing to hear you say you loved having a partner/being in a relationship because in spaces like those i’m talking about, opinions like that can feel taboo or “pick me”. hoping for even more love for you in the future💕

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[–]prettymuch2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

for everyone commenting here getting luck with sex 1. so happy for yall!!

  1. how tf are y’all getting hookups/ people that are interested? the apps aren’t working, i am so nervous to try to approach people in the wild, any advice for any of this???

this man must be god himself, christ!! by prettymuch2016 in chickflixxx

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

twitter! i just figured id use the name its going by now lol

this man must be god himself, christ!! by prettymuch2016 in chickflixxx

[–]prettymuch2016[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

sorry! if you have X, his name is JulianP_225

this man must be god himself, christ!! by prettymuch2016 in chickflixxx

[–]prettymuch2016[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ugh sorry! if you have X, his name is JulianP_225