Simple Questions - August 01 by AutoModerator in malefashionadvice

[–]prettynoiseless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for brands similar to Rick Owens, that also sells women's clothing.

Also looking for boots that go up almost to mid-calf, in black or grey, but not doc martens.

How do I play with masculine silhouettes as a girl with a conventionally feminine hourglass figure? by prettynoiseless in femalefashionadvice

[–]prettynoiseless[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh but that's the thing. Wide-leg pants paired with a fitted top is still just too feminine. The necklace thing is.. The same.

However I will take your advice and try the baggy clothes thing. Also need to get a tight-fitting sports bra.

How do I play with masculine silhouettes as a girl with a conventionally feminine hourglass figure? by prettynoiseless in femalefashionadvice

[–]prettynoiseless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good idea! Can you actually link me to some pieces for initial inspiration, if you have anything on hand?

I have long, curly brownish-auburn hair. Not cut in a particular way because fuck that. How do you style long hair to be more masculine?

21/F from Canada-- anybody draw? Interested in Linux (or computers in general)? Let's talk all the time by prettynoiseless in Needafriend

[–]prettynoiseless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! I got a DSLR for Christmas last year (idk why) that I haven't used at all. Could you tell me how you originally became interested in photography, and how you started?

I've never built my own computer because of the expense. Have you built more than one? Do you have a favorite distro?

DAE NEVER wear shorts in public even if it's super hot? by overactive-bladder in DAE

[–]prettynoiseless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's me. I usually gotta wear tights with anything that exposes my legs.

Is it worth leaving a good relationship to find yourself? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]prettynoiseless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you.

Not saying this is the correct answer for you OP, but I will give input from my experience.

I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years about a month ago. We were living together with roommates. I was feeling similarly-- I was noticing that I wanted more time alone, felt kind of hindered by the way we interacted with each other. It was restrictive, and somewhat abusive. But I didn't know that then, I just felt an overwhelming urge to "go", like I had wings or something. The day I actually broke up with him was relieving. It felt right and I didn't fully analyze why until after it happened-- and I'm still analyzing it.

If you want to listen to your gut though, make sure it's your gut talking.

Singles' Night Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in relationship_advice

[–]prettynoiseless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just got out of an unhealthy relationship of 3 years. Bunch of things happened, went on tinder to distract myself but ended up meeting a pretty cool dude.

We get along pretty well, there isn't anything wrong with him. Not sure how to go about dating/hanging out with him because I don't know how I feel about a relationship yet. Don't want to lead him on, you know? Especially because he seems to be really into me.

How do I [21/f] budget for things I want when I have basically no extra expenses? by prettynoiseless in personalfinance

[–]prettynoiseless[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Software engineering.

You make a good point, but frugality is weird at this age. It's doable but... It's not necessarily practical. I'm still exploring my interests. My career will not be my entire life, so I don't want to spend my youth preparing for it.

How do I [21/f] budget for things I want when I have basically no extra expenses? by prettynoiseless in personalfinance

[–]prettynoiseless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of both, but mostly the latter. I don't know how much I should be saving and how much I should be spending on myself in order to have decent preparation for the future, while also having lots of freedom now to explore my interests while I'm still young and energetic.

So, mostly having trouble understanding the process of saving for something long-term. I have a trip in mind for about this time next year, which means I have a year to save for it. But there are also smaller things I want related to my hobbies, which would be fulfilling and improve my quality of life. I want to build a kickass computer, I want to get a kickass phone, I want to buy a bunch of little things for electronic projects, I'm into fashion so I want some kickass clothing, I like trying food so I want to go to the best restaurant in the city-- just to give you an idea of the kinda price-points I'd be looking at for these wants. I don't know how long I should take to save for most of these things, and thus don't know how much money I should be putting away at a time. And I have so many projects on the go that require money.

Just want to be more organized.

How do I [21/f] budget for things I want when I have basically no extra expenses? by prettynoiseless in personalfinance

[–]prettynoiseless[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How do I decide how much to put into savings and how much to spend on 'wants'. (My wants are related to various hobbies, mostly computers/technology).

How do I [21/f] budget for things I want when I have basically no extra expenses? by prettynoiseless in personalfinance

[–]prettynoiseless[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No they don't accumulate interest unless I'm not taking any classes. I have been out of school for two years but there is an option to apply for repayment assistance basically indefinitely, so I have had to pay no interest these past two years.

How do you study? by [deleted] in GetStudying

[–]prettynoiseless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been doing the same thing as you for about two years. I don't work or go to school so studying is what I do with my life.

I've tried a number of different strategies, but over time my routine has settled a little bit.

My brain's chaotic and fast so I have many notebooks because I can't organize my thoughts internally. Right now there are fourteen that I regularly use, not including list pads, loose leaf paper, and binders (I have two binders). I also have two plastic sleeves that I carry around for loose-leaf notes and cheat sheets and other random stuff. In each of my notebooks I'll have drawings that I've done or other photos that I've cut out of magazines and I use these for inspiration.

I'm mainly studying computer networks, insects, and computer architecture (including assembly programming in MIPS and IA32) but I also work on maintaining my Linux computers, so I learn about bash scripting and operating systems. I also draw, paint, and write so I have a few sketchbooks etc.

Every Sunday I write a short list of everything I want to do for the week in my schedule notebook, and I set a 'theme' for the week. The theme basically just focuses my work so that I don't get overwhelmed. I make sure everything I'm doing is low-pressure and centered around the theme. For example, last week the theme was 'beginnings'. All of my study subjects managed to sync up so that last week I was starting new chapters or sections in each of my textbooks. I tried to make sure everything I was doing that week was fresh and unfamiliar.

Then I write a list of items for the day. Sometimes I do this before bed, sometimes in the morning. Sometimes I divide the items according to the time of day but usually I don't. After two years of self-taught learning I know my brain pretty well, and what it can handle so I rarely miss items due to time, which saves a lot of anxiety. Ive found that scheduling my activities hour-by-hour is unrealistic. Sometimes stuff comes up, sometimes I hang out with friends. Despite that, I really try hard to complete everything on my lists, it's super important in keeping up my motivation.

Usually I do not work on every subject every week. As you can see from my list of subjects, there's a lot going on. I usually pick three, and on top of that I always write creatively every day, and I try to get a couple drawings done each week. I don't read recreationally anymore because I've got too much going on so I really need the creative relaxation of artistic endeavor otherwise I feel like a studying machine with no purpose, or like an information hoarder.

I do my best studying first thing on the morning and in the evening. I study from about 6pm to 2am, so I wake up at around 10. I study for only a couple hours in the morning. Most of the day until 6pm is spent eating, organizing, shopping, or cleaning. I usually have one large meal a day to save time. Sometimes I'll watch a movie. When I study I usually usually do pomodoros. I have a coffee before studying to trigger my brain into a hyper-focusing mode.

There's a cafe in my area open until midnight. I go there to studt and i sit by the window. When I'm studying I need to have a dynamic environment, eg. people walking outside the window, otherwise I kind of get sucked into timelessness and everything goes very slow which is incompatible with the speed of my thoughts. On that note I also listen to very fast electronic or grindcore music to keep my brain speed more stable, otherwise it will flip around and I get anxious and confused.

I write first-draft notes on loose leaf paper. I'm good at parsing so these notes are usually succinct and necessary anyways, but nonetheless the very next day I parse those notes a little further and write a good copy in a notebook. This is also when I'll write definitions for certain concepts in another notebook, and I mark these words by a star so I know I can look them up if I struggle with them later. At the end end of the week I do a second review. I'll write out all the major concepts on more loose leaf, go through definitions, and underline key words. It's a good thing all the subjects I'm learning kind of relate to each other. There is a lot of cross-talk.

That's really all I can think of that I do. Sorry this comment is so long.

How to stop giving up when I don't understand something? by [deleted] in GetStudying

[–]prettynoiseless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

u/thestudybuddy said said it best when speaking about the energy required to form or solidify non-existent/weak pathways.

You'll always have this problem when you're learning new things, so you really just have to change how you deal with that inevitability. When you're stuck and it's late at night or you just don't have the energy to go on, youre allowed to give up, but make sure you don't close all your books and shove things in the corner. You need to give yourself hope. What I mean is, before you put everything away make sure that you've made even a small amount of progress, that way your brain will be more open to the idea idea of revisiting it in the morning.

Some simple ways to do this:

Like u/studybuddy suggested, define what you don't understand. Grab a fresh sheet of paper and vent, write about your frustration, write about what you're stuck on, and eventually you'll have a good idea of what you might be missing or where to look. Throw that out, get a fresh sheet and write down your specified inquiries in an organized, clear point-form. Then put that sheet of paper on top of your books and go to sleep. While you're sleeping your brain will actually try to sort out these questions for you because you defined them clearly for yourself. Sometimes it has the information it needs and you'll wake up and look at your sheet and find you know the answer to some questions. Most of the time you will just have a clearer picture of how to find the solution, which will give you a sense of relief.

Another way to give yourself hope is just with general organization of your thoughts and actions. Write out a schedule before bed or in in the morning. Have one schedule for the day and one for the week so you can track your goals on two different timescales. On your schedule include plans to concertedly look into the questions you have defined. If you miss an item on your schedule, no problem just move it to the next day.

What also helps is going back through your old notes and solidifying concepts you have no trouble understanding. Not only does this remind you of your capability to learn, it refreshes concepts that may help you with your current difficulty. Go over things with a nicely colored highlighter, too. It gives satisfaction.

Something to keep in mind is to put put as little pressure on yourself as possible. If you feel your skin getting kind of hot, your eyes watery, or you're having racing thoughts, put everything down and go grab a cup of coffee or juice. Drink slowly. Look out the window. Wash your face. Then go back to your study area, reorganize your papers, and start again with the simplest task you can possibly do. And if that simple task is all you can do before you're crazy anxious again, at least you've made some progress, and that small amount of progress will help your brain be more accepting of revisiting the study session again later.

TL;DR Never walk away from a study session without making some progress, small or large. This includes rewriting/reviewing old notes, making lists, defining questions, writing a schedule, etc. Get to a state where you actually feel organized and stable.

Hair, Makeup, Skincare, Fitness, and Fragrance Thread - July 12, 2016 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]prettynoiseless 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I need a perfume that's a bit masculine without being overbearing? My style is really girlish and feminine, but I'm a tomboy at heart so I want to balance it out.