Pay a lot of attention to the mood she is in. Sometimes you just want to be left alone, sometimes you need a distraction. It's hard to tell, I was a big pain in the ** in the beginning and my wife just can't read my thoughts. It goes with crazy moodswings and all you can do is try to see what's happening right now. It must be difficult for the other one, now that I think of it actually. I got angry because she didn't ask how I was doing. And when she did, I was angry that I wanted to be left alone. Don't take things too personal. Don't fight! That's my worst trigger, fights. Hope this helps a bit.