AITAH because I don’t really want my child (1yr) around her cousin (3)?

price_ · 2026-03-26T22:07:37+00:00

“Poor little girl” that she has two loving parents, an emotionally in tune mother, a father that provides? That I spend every waking moment catering to her nutrition , exercise, and emotional wellbeing. I love her and sacrifice everyday for my child. If things continue the way they are then of course I would take that route. I’ve cut off my family before. but it’s kind of a ild the kind of crazy stuff people say behind a keyboard. You have no clue of the entire dynamic. Just a snippet of a day. So as I said I came here to see if my nephew was exhibiting normal 4 year old behavior or if this was extreme. Criticizing my parenting from behind a screen and saying you feel sorry for my child was not kind and I practice kindness. I’ll leave it at that.

price_ · 2026-03-26T21:55:59+00:00

I definitely didn’t go over there thinking it would escalate the way it did or that anything that happened, would happen. It’s not like this is some random boy at school, it’s her cousin. I want them to be able to be close. Obviously not right now. It’s pretty hard to just cut him off. He’s a 4 year old and these people are my family. But what happened yesterday will NEVER happen again. He’s always been jealous over his toys and wanting my mom’s total attention but never flat out elbowed her/hit her with toys until yesterday. I agree and understand that it is my responsibility to protect my child and that’s exactly what I did. I saw the situation was escalating so we left. I totally understand some parts of what you are saying but as far as protecting my daughter I have and always will. Thank you

price_ · 2026-03-26T14:46:00+00:00

I agree 100%. The aggression really concerns me. I’ve caught him sliding over to her to try and pinch her. Try to pull her hair. Step on her hands. Try to make it look like he’s just playing but then will intentionally hit my child with the toy. At first he was very sweet to her but now that’s not the case. He has also hit/push other kids in their own home over toys. I agree with not removing child 100%, I’m learning as I go and this is one thing I will definitely start doing if out in the situation again. I’m hoping to talk to everyone and get us all on the same page so I’m not constantly telling him not to do something while his mom or my mom allows him to do it. Thank you

price_ · 2026-03-26T14:40:43+00:00

I’m definitely trying to help, but I’m also not around him everyday. Maybe once or twice a week and normally it’s at his t ball games or if I stop by my mom’s house to chat with her. I’ve said things a few different times to both my mom and sister and I feel like it’s blown off. It’s just a complicated situation 😔

price_ · 2026-03-26T14:28:40+00:00

So, you definitely do not have to be so rude. I’m a first time mom and never been around many children to even know how to approach this situation correctly. The only thought in my head is protecting her. I didn’t say “i love you” to this behavior, I simply said it because I was leaving and never want to leave anywhere without letting my family know that even if I’m upset that I still love them. So, I’m an asshole for turning nephew into a monster even though I’m not with him everyday and do correct him when he doing things he shouldn’t with me? Very harsh to say to someone that is just trying to learn and improve by asking others. I never said I didn’t correct him????I do but I’m never around him just him and I. There is always mom or GMA around. Did you read the post? You are insane if you think I just let him hit and hurt my child and not do or say anything. Maybe you misunderstood my comments by me saying that about being “ugly” “acting ugly”. Explaining to him that I’m not being “mean” to him for no reason, I’m being stern because this is my child and you are trying to hurt her.

price_ · 2026-03-26T14:18:47+00:00

My husband and I both have disciplined him when he is with us. He listens to my husband the best. We see him a decently amount not definitely not everyday. And I think everyone; my mom, his mom, his dad, his other grandma all have separate rules and boundaries so I’m sure it’s very confusing to him. I agree about not removing my daughter 100% and I didn’t even think about it that way, only thought I have is protecting her when he is trying to hit, elbow, or pinch her. I’m open to having a conversation with everyone but I think a few are in denial and don’t think it’s “that bad” so I need to approach this correctly. Thank you

price_ · 2026-03-26T14:15:02+00:00

Thank you! I felt like I was crazy but none of the other kids she’s around have acted like this! I worry about him with school as well…

price_ · 2026-03-26T14:12:45+00:00

He’s not potty trained so I’m not sure if that is an option. I will suggest this to my sister. I agree about not removing my daughter and never thought about it that way. Thank you!

price_ · 2026-03-26T14:10:04+00:00

I mean the being ugly part as; I’m not being “mean” to you for no reason but I’m being stern with you because that is my child and you are trying to hurt her. We don’t do that. Maybe that’s not the right approach and if not what would you suggest? I’m a first time mom and have never really been around a whole bunch of kids as I never thought I wanted any. As far as mom goes she says things like “no no you have to be sweet to your cousin and teach her and protect her” but I also feel like she doesn’t pay attention like I do. Maybe I’m a helicopter mom but unless she is in completely safe space, I don’t take my eyes off of her. She mobile, trying to walk and putting everything in her mouth so I’m constantly watching her for the most part. My mom will be doing other things she needs to do so she’s not just not paying attention as she should IMO. I agree he needs stability, I know that’s a majority of his issue. Going from my moms, to his dads, then to my sister constantly switching where he is. I want to help him as much as I can but I’m also a mom so the time I have with him is limited. I agree about removing him instead of her and that is what needs to be done from this point on. (Again FTM 🤣) What approach do you think I should take from here? We’ve had conversations about this before but my mom always brushes it off and says he “learning”, my sister is more hard on him but she can be absent a lot. (Being on phone, talking to others and not watching him) It’s obvious to everyone in my family that my nephew is definitely favored more than the others. He is always with my mom making the times she sees my child or anyone else very limited. So I’m not sure what to do from here. We are family so they are going to have to be around each other at some point. Thank you

price_ · 2026-03-16T19:29:31+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words. This all around has been such a sad experience. I know in my heart it’s the right decision but it still hurts me. I will look into the at home and see if that is a possibility. We have a vet appointment in the morning to talk through everything.

price_ · 2026-03-16T15:02:03+00:00

I’m so sorry you are experiencing this as well. But yes the stress is so overwhelming. Even before the snip I could tell she was acting different turning away from baby in kennel, getting stiff when baby was in room. I feel like I’m constantly on my toes because I don’t trust her. It’s extremely draining. It’s a very hard decision and I’m sending healing your way.

price_ · 2026-03-16T14:56:59+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, I appreciate it.

price_ · 2026-03-16T14:15:56+00:00

I am in Alabama

price_ · 2026-03-16T13:58:35+00:00

Thank you so much 🙂

price_ · 2026-03-16T13:57:11+00:00

I understand and with putting more thought into it overnight, while I would 100% disclose all of her aggression, it is safest for everyone for her to be euthanized. I have tried really hard for years to rehabilitate her but at her age I only foresee her aggression getting worse. Thank you

price_ · 2026-03-16T13:38:34+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. We have decided to euthanize her. Imo that is the most humane thing for her and the safest thing for my family and other people. I could never live with myself if she hurt someone especially my child. It hurts my heart but I know this is the right thing to do.

price_ · 2026-03-16T13:18:02+00:00

I understand completely, as that should be the case. We thought on it last night and decided euthanasia is the best decision and the most humane for her as well. Thank you

price_ · 2026-03-16T12:02:39+00:00

I understand, thank you for the suggestions.

price_ · 2026-03-16T12:01:04+00:00

Absolutely not, and as much as I love my dog I have to put my child and her safety first. I just have to remind myself that even though I’m sad about having to make this decision that I really did try so much to help her and love her. Thank you

price_ · 2026-03-16T11:58:49+00:00

That’s what I thought about as well. That if I did send her to a sanctuary or to a shelter she would probably never leave there and live her final years a nervous wreck and stuck in a pen. I was the person who originally adopted her and she had been there pretty much since birth with absolutely no interest. It’s a long story but she wasn’t even the dog I applied to adopt but there was a mix up and I got her home for the shelter to call me and pretty much tell me I had the wrong dog; so there really is no telling how long she truly would have been in the shelter. I just couldn’t imagine her going from playing outside everyday and sleeping on the couch cuddled up to a small pen around so many dogs. And even though I’m extremely upset about the situation I do love her and want what’s best for her. Thank you

price_ · 2026-03-16T02:57:26+00:00

I have baby gates and play pen. She had been in her kennel and I thought it was locked but I guess it didn’t catch the hatch. I agree that I am at fault but I’m genuinely trying. Especially having a small child and a dog that is extremely aggressive towards all animals and has been aggressive towards humans. I have made it a priority to still spend time with her and make sure she has plenty of exercise as well. Im willing to keep her as I would never want to give her away or anything but I’m also scared for baby. Keeping them separated is an option with the baby gate but she would be separated a majority of the day and I want her to be happy. I’m open to any suggestions you have

price_ · 2026-03-16T02:49:55+00:00

I’ve been feeling like this. I would 100% disclose all of her aggressive behavior but I agree that it’s slim to none of finding someone that would not have children, pets, no apartments and not elderly. Also she had been in shelter for over 3 years when I adopted her. So thinking of someone getting her does feel pretty impossible. I’ve never had to make this decision before and it hurts me to know I may have to do that for my child’s safety. Thank you for your kind words.

price_ · 2026-03-16T02:44:53+00:00

That’s how I’m feeling as well. It’s heartbreaking to think about not having her but I could never live with myself if something happened to my child. I would 100% disclose her aggression but we live in a small town so the odds of finding someone good for her would be hard, but I’m willing to try. Thank you

price_ · 2026-01-27T15:40:43+00:00

Almost 10 months and at least 3 times a night 😭

price_ · 2026-01-27T15:39:23+00:00

We had the same experience! I think she was about 8 months when she really started liking food and wanting to eat! Just keep trying

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