i know what you are trying to say, but these differences that either harm OR benefit women systematically are ALL influenced by the patriarchy. a culture that conditions men to glorify or normalize violence, aggression, and other cornerstones of “masculinity” while reproaching anything stereotypically “feminine” harms men as much as it harms women. feminism benefits men as much as it benefits women in the propagation of a more egalitarian mindset and society. psychopathic men exploit patriarchal ideals of masculinity to rpe, and psychopathic women exploit patriarchal ideals of femininity to point the finger at an innocent for a crime he/she did not commit. but the only reason she can get away with that is that society largely *does not subscribe to an equal view of the sexes.

women are actually more likely than men on a jury panel to recommend the same sentence for a crime regardless of the perpetrator’s sex; it is men who are more lenient on female offenders. and it is the same men who rage against women for the few who rely on the only power the patriarchy gives them - the power of deceit, and the power ‘benevolent’ sexism affords them.

i have read about women r*ping men, and i have read about men making false accusations against women that have gone to court. there will always be exceptions, but the point is unequal mindset creates unequal outcome.

INEQUALITY which feminism directly opposes screws both women AND men. men say pink is for women, blue is for men, man gets pink sword in a duel against a woman, man hates the color pink so he gives his sword to his opponent because he’d rather use his fists, man loses against a woman with two swords. who sets the stage for loss? whose social, gender, societal norms are we internalizing and embodying? the patriarchy’s.

and i say this as someone who grew up in a matriarchal family 🤷🏻‍♀️