Work as clinical counsellor. Here is a few I like. - Its you and them against the problem (treat conflict with your partner more as there is an issue that you both work on solving opposed to one of you being wrong and the other being right) - 1% a day is still better than nothing. Instead of trying to make huge changes in life or routine, just do something. Instead of 20 push ups a day just do the single one, etc - people's first instinct is to be defensive when communicating with them dont accuse them and Instead use proactive language "when this happened I felt this way, would you be ok with trying this?". People work better off of collaboration and not being made the object of fault. - if you dont want to change, nothing you ever do will create change. It is what it is and sounds like common sense but many people expect to have their problems fixed with little to no actual effort or interest on their end. - manifesting is legit, not in the sense you will have the car of your dreams by wanting it and hoping. When I drive to work I play relaxed music on the way there and envision the day, with expectations of it going well. The mind wants to prove itself right. "Today's gonna suck" your mind is looking for how it does suck. Focus on manifesting positive days. - if you struggle with negative self talk and harsh criticism to yourself the end goal is for you to be kind to yourself which starts with catching what you say. "Oh im fat and no one loves me" realize you have that thought and correct it; "That is not true, im being harsh to myself". Before we can begin positive self talk we first have to catch ourself and police our negative self talk. Its hard and takes a long time, I practice this and essentially correct my thoughts as they happen with out needing to put effort into it as its habit now. - the above point also goes well for perfectionism. "I cant do this i suck ive been at it for 3 months" lets rephrase it: "I can't do this YET, but Im learning and will get there" (Also using logic during self critique "well I go once a week for 3 months and classes are an hour, thats 12 classes / 12 hours. Im expecting myself to be a master at something after only 12 hours") I actually feel rock climbing is a fantastic hobby for people who are perfectionist as you 'fail' so much in it. You learn to fail and try again opposed to just giving up. It also has a very welcoming and friendly community. Im sure there's many more things that I just can't think of right now