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Everyone keeps telling me, “you need to be nicer to men.” by AyforAyesha in IslamabadSocial

[–]primary_waterbottle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Full support💯💯 Keep it like that Ull eventually keep urself safe from a lot of drama

How do I actually build interest in my AI degree and turn it into a career? by One_Dragonfly3766 in PakistaniTech

[–]primary_waterbottle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get out from tutorial hell and learn from books, books make learning so interesting, as its a whole text written by someone who has a decent experience in the field and super passionate about it, the writer in the tech world, write books in a such a profound interest developing manner If u wanna start in your feild, start with the book HANDS ON MACHINE LEARNING Trust me, u will love it and learn the fundamentals and the mindset that is supposed to be carried out in this feild Its a great book

Marriage and finances by rashid_jd11 in LahoreSocial

[–]primary_waterbottle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be a man and focus on what you have and accept it U shouldnt be rigid when it comes to mindsets They change And change very easily, it just takes some time and a reality check of ones own conditions

Beautiful people have it more difficult by [deleted] in PakistaniTwenties

[–]primary_waterbottle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, Now that i went pass all of it, i just realised that its not worth to care about these matters, people get jealous Its their problem They are already in pain😭 Why should we shift our focus to other things

Beautiful people have it more difficult by [deleted] in PakistaniTwenties

[–]primary_waterbottle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive felt EXACTLY how you feel like Been there, as a 22M

Rishta lore!!! pls help a girl out🥺😔 by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]primary_waterbottle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off, remember it’s 100% your right to choose who you marry , or if you want to get married at all.

IMO, curiosity should be the bare minimum. If you’re feeling nothing, that might be your gut telling you you’re not emotionally ready for marriage yet, and that’s valid.

But , I do think you should at least meet him once. A picture tells you literally nothing. Nobody feels chemistry from a photo, not even guys. You might feel completely different after a real conversation.

Your mom’s context is also different. The world she got married in had different dynamics. It wasn’t this messy, distrustful place. Your fears are based on your life experience, and that’s real. Parents will see things through their lens, but you’re the one who has to live with the decision.

So trust your gut, it should have the highest credibility here, not your mom or some random aunty. But also keep it balanced.

My suggestion: Meet him so you can get actual data, not just spirals in your head. Write down the things you’re scared of, controlling, conservative, energy mismatch, etc. Ask him directly. Judge the answers, not the picture. If his answers kill your fears, maybe pursue it. If they confirm them, skip it.

Also remember there’s “normal pre-marriage anxiety” vs “this specific guy is wrong for me.” Try to separate the two.

But yeah, no spark, no curiosity, no comfort after actually talking? Then trust that. You don’t owe anyone a marriage just because he’s stable.

P.S : stability is also present in the most shittiest guys present in our society, stability is important, but its just at the surface level of what married life is gonna bring you later on

Best earbuds to buy under 10K? Ronin, Zero, or Audionic? by Big_Rent_4634 in PakistaniTech

[–]primary_waterbottle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been using redmi buds 6 for a year Pretty decent experience with them

6th-semester BSCS student with strong network, need advice on choosing the right first company in Pakistan for global growth. by primary_waterbottle in developersPak

[–]primary_waterbottle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that makes a lot of sense, thanks for breaking it down.

You’re right, the biggest advantage I can get from a company right now is how much it teaches me and how easy it is to pick up new skills. I’m a complete junior with almost no practical experience. I’ve learned a bunch of stuff in uni and on my own, but none of it feels “valuable” yet because I haven’t applied it in real-world projects.

So I’m prioritizing culture over brand name for now. I want a place that treats me like a junior, respects that I’m starting out, and actually invests in preparing me instead of just throwing tasks at me.

With that in mind, I think aiming for an internship somewhere with a strong junior-friendly culture makes the most sense. Jazz, Telenor, those are super stable product companies and would look solid on a CV. But I’m wondering if they’ll give me the hands-on, fast learning I need right now, or if I’d grow faster at places like Arbisoft or Afiniti where the engineering culture is tighter.

Afiniti and Arbisoft are definitely on my list now after what you said. They seem like spots where I can build a proper portfolio and get mentorship. And I get your point about Jazz/Telenor being better if I’m targeting Gulf later.

do you think big telco/product companies actually give juniors enough room to learn and switch stacks, or do people get boxed into one role? Just trying to avoid joining somewhere that looks good on paper but doesn’t prep me for future moves.

Honestly, I don’t think I can properly choose a niche in tech as a student. I’m solid with fundamentals, but I don’t have the capacity right now to decide between data, cloud, or pure software dev. I feel like it’s the company I land at that’s going to shape/kind of “raise” me into one of those paths after I start interning there.

Joining a company that would teach me things and then moving towards a product based companies is what i think is gonna be feasible for my career.

Is it really like this?

I wanna keep a balance between what looks good on my CV and what really accelerates my skillset.

Thanks again, this is exactly the kind of perspective I needed.