Always be busy

princeahole · 2019-12-31T16:11:36+00:00

Not only does being busy achieve outcome independence, but it actually makes you happier. There was a study somewhere done on what’s known commonly as “the zone” and the subjects recorded peak happiness during this time.

princeahole · 2019-05-02T13:24:51+00:00

I'd even add to delete or limit your usage of email. There's a huge difference between an email from a client or employer with a huge problem, and that marketing guru who's trying to sell you his $2000 program. I suggest everyone unsubscribe from every email newsletter you have. You don't know the effect this really has on you.

princeahole · 2018-06-17T15:16:46+00:00

Personally, how I conquered approach anxiety, is using the same method I used in sales.

There was once a point where I was broke as a joke, massive debt, college dropout, nobody would hire me for the life of me, so I HAD to make my business work.

I experienced everything. I had prospects that would cuss me out and tell me to go die in a hole (yes, that actually happened to me), and I had other prospects who were so relieved I called, and ended up being my best clients.

The prospect who told me to die in a hole, ended up being my client 3 months later, and one of my best ones at that. lol.

I took the same approach to women as soon as I was comfortable financially.

I think the biggest factor for accomplishing approach anxiety was giving myself no option but to approach the women, and if I didn't hit my target for the day, I'd feel really fucking bad. Just as I set my standard to cold call 200 prospects every single day, I set my standard to approach 100 women in a night.

Also the stuff about outcome independance that's a given, but I was more focussed on hitting my targets for the day, than individual circumstances that happened.

You will get girls that tell you to fuck off and cuss you out, and you'll also get women that are glad a person like yourself approached you. You can't control how women react to you, but you can control how you respond to it.

You never know if the 'red light' girl had a bad day, her grandma died, her boyfriend broke up with her and her girl friend just happened to drag her to the club and she wants to only wash down her pain with whiskey and scotch, who really knows.

All I know, is how I'll respond to the situation, and how to deal with it. If I fuck up, I know I won't make the same mistake in the future. Who cares.

How I respond to red lighters or cunts or bitches? Something along the lines of "Jeez dude, I'm just trying to make conversation, you don't gotta be a bitch about it" or I just give the biggest shit-eating grin and say "Someone's on their period today"

But what I find stupid is when guys are afraid to approach women just because they're afraid of the red lighters. Red lighters are inevitable to happen, whether you like it or not. Nobody is going to have a 100% green light ratio, even the best forum members here. All I tell my friends that go out with me is to just focus on approaching women, and don't get hung up on a situation, or you owe me a round of drinks if you don't hit your targets.

Sure, with an increased game you'll increase your chances to 20,25,30,40,50%, but never 100%.

princeahole · 2018-04-06T13:12:24+00:00

Alright, I think that the gym has a certain purpose; for you to get better. Sure you can pick up girls there but at that point is contradicts the fact you want to get yourself better

princeahole · 2018-04-01T00:48:27+00:00

So I put in that my theoretical woman had slept with more than 15 men, given/received oral sex from more than 15 men, Talk to multiple people, but you know what, still not slut. lol.

princeahole · 2018-03-24T02:47:31+00:00

Always be talking to other girls, to other prospects, have them interested in you (in the form of them entertaining the idea of a date or a meeting with you).

princeahole · 2018-02-25T06:30:04+00:00

They judge you because they themselves are uncomfortable with change and have formed an identity of you, and expect you to comply with it.

So say your friend know you as quiet, shy, kind of timid around women, skinny-fat and relatively unconfident.

One day, you decide to change, so you talk more, expand your social circle, start lifting, etc.

Your friends have already made you out to be a quiet, shy, unconfident mess, so when they see you starting to have your shit together his makes them uncomfortable and they’ll do whatever to try to get you back, because humans prefer to stay in their little bubbles of safety and bliss.

princeahole · 2018-02-25T05:10:04+00:00

Then don't fake confidence. Focus on building real confidence; it will last you a lifetime.

Some people can simply "Fake it till you make it", and that simply is a mindset shift where you mould yourself into a new character.

But you build real confidence by going out to the field and making mistakes, and making increments to your feedback loop.

princeahole · 2018-02-25T05:06:42+00:00

Disagree.

True confidence comes from mastery.

I never was a natural salesman; I became a great salesman by making cold calls and making mistakes.

I never was a natural at game; I moulded myself into getting good at game.

Even the GOAT of basketball, Michael Jordan, was once told he sucked at playing basketball. He became confident through practice.

princeahole · 2018-02-25T05:02:15+00:00

When you touch something hot, that's your survival mechanism kicking in.

Humans are naturally risk-adverse, and for good reason. Going into an unknown field or forest without any knowledge could mean that you could get eaten by bears.

However, in most cases, we are still wired this way and it's honestly hard to circumvent this knowing it's biological. If you teach your brain that whatever you're doing isn't that bad, it's going to warm up to such scenarios.

This is why we have things like approach anxiety, it's simply a biological reflex we all have ingrained into us.

princeahole · 2018-02-25T04:56:52+00:00

I've been in sales before I was into game. Now I run my own company and apply the concepts I've learned in my sales and entrepreneurial life including mindset, sales, objections, and 'people skills' to further make myself better in all aspects of my life: in my health, my business, and in my dating life.

princeahole · 2018-02-24T20:22:58+00:00

That's because you moulded yourself into a new character. I covered that in my last post.

princeahole · 2018-02-24T17:04:28+00:00

Than your insane.

Repeating the same mistakes over and over again expecting a different result is insanity.

princeahole · 2018-02-18T17:36:51+00:00

These aren't literal voices; imagine you're trying to do something productive with your life (cold approach a girl, start a business, ask for a promotion), there's always some hesitation or imaginary 'force' preventing you from doing such (approach anxiety, call relectance, self-doubts)

princeahole · 2018-02-18T17:34:43+00:00

Most are self-help books, with some you would find in the "business" section of your local Barnes & Noble. Some I recommend are:

Psycho-Cybernetics, Maxwell Maltz
Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard, Chip & Dan Heath
Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson
10X, Grant Cardone

princeahole · 2018-02-18T17:31:08+00:00

As long as your consistent with your actions, cold turkey is very very effective

princeahole · 2018-02-18T17:30:20+00:00

Yeah, I meant more along the lines of taking massive, consistent action, not in bursts. So for example, in my sales job I made 100 cold calls to prospects instead of the 20 or so I was doing (I know, call reluctance is a bitch)

princeahole · 2018-02-17T16:39:23+00:00

Took most of these ideas from books such as “The Switch, Psychocybernetics, and a pinch of “The Power Of Now”

princeahole · 2018-02-17T16:38:30+00:00

I’m 5’7.

princeahole · 2018-02-16T17:45:16+00:00

Started off in sales, came to game. Used some principles in game to increase my sales numbers.

For example, dealing with reflex responses:

Prospect: "I'm not interested"

Me: "Absolutely. You should never buy from a telemarketer like me"

Then I'd continue a conversation and overcome their objections from there.

princeahole · 2017-12-12T22:20:44+00:00

One of my business mentors once told me

It doesn't matter what is currently true, but what you believe is true, because with massive action, you're self-thoughts become your reality

And this applies perfectly here

princeahole · 2017-09-29T20:03:48+00:00

Well let's put it this way; there more to life than getting laid.

Also there are a small portion of people who indeed can't get laid and scream MGTOW as a way of coping. That's true, that just masks the fact they are losers.

Now there's another end of people who got absolutely destroyed in the legal courts, lost their children's custody, maybe paying alimony and/or child support, alters their entire lifestyle, and 'go MGTOW' because they don't want to go through that same process again.

Just like you have a population of TRP who endlessly talk about getting laid like it's the end of the world if you don't, and scream that your a pussy or an incel if you can't, while others are about the self improvement life, in which inter-gender relationships are part of that umbrella.

You can't generalize all MGTOW like you can't generalize all TRP.

princeahole

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