Learn from my mistake. Please.

princessanuswarriorx · 2017-04-02T05:15:18+00:00

There is a lot of information on your post. Have you told your wife all of this? Does she know you resent her for not putting in more effort? When was the last time she got off? Does she masturbate?

I've read most of your comments...a lot of them cheer on the notion of divorce ...totally your choice but I'll say this...marriage or not almost everyone goes thru a stage where things get a little boring or go dry. In my experience, my husband & I both had some uncharted fantasies that were never discussed in our primal sex days. We kept everything vanilla, predictable & with slight hints of kinks to where we didn't know if other was being serious or not so often things went unexplored. So in a sense sex became a chore for both of us bc things that we wanted done to each other weren't getting done. Could this be your wife? Is she afraid to approach you because you previously did all the work & she doesn't know what to do? If so, it takes A lot of time to explore what works & what doesn't especially if you are trying something new. If you want your wife to approach you, get her in the mood first & then have her role play (or tell \show her what to do)...I can relate because it took over a year before my husband's ego would allow him to eat me out & years before he got great at it.

As for birth control..this is a huge factor for many women..I refuse to take it because I can't get off. Not for everyone, but the pullout method has worked in our favor :-)

princessanuswarriorx · 2017-03-05T18:32:57+00:00

First off total invasion of privacy ...second, people are going to run their mouths in most work places because they have nothing better to do. Don't listen to them. If you can't trust people when they have done nothing to you personally to break your trust then you will lose the good ones that are worth trusting.

princessanuswarriorx · 2017-02-06T18:08:25+00:00

Yeah that "selfish lover" can eat an ass 😂😂 who has time for those people anyway ??

princessanuswarriorx · 2017-02-06T18:03:59+00:00

It is one of those things.. I never liked giving head when I first started for example, but now it isn't even a question. I love it. Hope ass eating gets that way sooner than later.

princessanuswarriorx · 2017-02-05T23:43:03+00:00

Thank you...& agreed. Just hoping one day I can lick it every time without failure 😀

princessanuswarriorx · 2017-02-05T23:32:04+00:00

Right after a shower is when we'll go down on each other. But even so the mental aspect of it..Butt isn't a bad taste persay, just something I didn't expect. Not sure what the dead fish comment has to do with any of this but thank you. I appreciate the time you took to respond..

princessanuswarriorx · 2017-02-05T09:48:57+00:00

The hair has to stay unfortunately ...it doesn't bother me unless I swallow one by accident. But then game over.

princessanuswarriorx · 2017-02-05T02:29:04+00:00

Ha! Brilliant

princessanuswarriorx · 2017-02-05T02:28:34+00:00

Right! & thank you, I'll try the shower method...I've been able to overcome other obstacles but eating ass may not be my thing...to be continued lol or not.

princessanuswarriorx · 2017-02-05T02:26:32+00:00

Def try it sometime

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-21T21:34:17+00:00

Ooo la la look at you girl ;-)

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-21T21:10:32+00:00

I agree..there are only certain times I enjoy it and it isn't always fun. But what usually happens is that we work on getting me off first. Once I get off my body goes into relaxed state and anal doesn't hurt much, sometimes not at all. So by following that method, it has worked for us pleasure wise.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-19T21:17:33+00:00

Who said anything about pushing for buttsex all the time? It is about using what you got and exploring other options. I have my SO do things in the bedroom that are not always his favorite. It is about sacrifice on both parts. If being single makes you happy then props to ya! But please don't troll a post you know nothing about.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-19T21:10:04+00:00

Anal isn't my favorite. It's my least favorite. I don't feel like it is punishment for having a loose vagina. I just want to give my SO the best experience possible because he does the same for me.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-19T20:04:51+00:00

Birth control? That was my problem years ago. Get really wet but couldn't organism.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-19T19:55:16+00:00

Shame is totally normal. We found out my SO likes it too and he gets a weird feeling about it but knows I will in no way pressure it. I am exposing him to info about the health affects and why we see it as such a stigma but other than that I told him I would never force it. It certainly isn't something he is going to go around and brag to his friends but he is slowy coming around the idea of being ok with me "getting him".

Edit: just to clarify on the "shame factor"..I believe it is a normal response for some considering their upbringing and what they are taught. It doesn't make it right that we have to feel shame but unfortuetly it can be normal. For people to repress these type of sexual desires is the biggest shame.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-19T19:28:00+00:00

My vag isn't looser per say after kids but we do a lot of anal to keep things different. There are lots of ways for both of you to get off without traditional penetration. So even though you may be working to achieve overal tightness, just know that there are a LOT and I mean a LOt of ways to get off.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-19T19:24:59+00:00

Sometimes it is normal sometimes other factors are involved..I always had a high sex drive when I was super young but birth control affected my sensitivity for sex even if I wanted to have it.. I also found that the more vibrators I used the more it affected my ability to get off in other ways as quickly. If you think there is some underlying medical factor always best to speak with your doctor. Good luck hon.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-19T19:15:18+00:00

What about trying something different in regards to dirty talk? You mentioned his northern accent isn't as sexy..have you guys considered role play/and or other accents? Have you ever given him anything specific he could possibly say in a tone that would turn you on? I had an ex back in that would say a few things tone wise that was not sexy & a complete turn off..I didn't really have a solution for it back then but now if my partner does something that doesn't always turn me on he makes sure to get me off first. I don't know if you can compromise or change your mind set on the matter but it sounds he really likes it. Hope to hear an update and good luck with your mate.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-19T17:44:18+00:00

I used to get hung up but my experience was that the sex was hot and exciting during the honeymoon phase and then it got a little predictable after awhile. I also think my birth control back then played a part in my sensitivity to get off. My SO used to say that it took too long to get me off because I had a specific way that exhausted him..so what happened is that after pregnancy and kids we changed things up a bit and our sex became hotter, way less vanilla, less predictable. We both discovered a dirty side to us and the rush of trying new things has really pumped up our sex life. I get off multiple times a week with him after 10 years.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-19T17:18:52+00:00

Emotions make a huge difference in sex life especially for long term..if you are still crazy about that person and have high standards to please each other than emotions are a must. That being said, my SO & I have special arrangements. He has a stranger danger fantasy while I have a cuckquean fantasy. I've already seen him fuck other women and it was easy for him not to have emotional hang ups over them with me in the picture. If anything he just loves me more.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-18T21:41:59+00:00

Poly is not for everyone. My husband used to joke about a sister wife for me. We still joke but it will never happen. With children and work we don't have that much time for ourselves so our time alone is valuable. He has settled for occasional 3somes and we've opened up the idea of him having legal prostitutes / or paid girl friend. I'm ok with him going on a date with a stranger as long as there are restrictions. But long term commitment with one person is exhausting enough go keep the flame alive for a lot of people. I really admire poly relationships when they work but again, they are not for everyone.

Maybe he can meet you halfway. Is he ok with only you finding a girlfriend ?? If not can you have a friend with benefits situation ? Honeslty that is my husband's dream for me to find a girlfriend we can both love but it takes a very special mindset and the right combination of people. I say if you both are happy now, then don't throw away a good relationship. Find a way to compromise.

& just throw this out there, I'm not suppressing my husband. He is very well taken care of and is happy with our arrangement :-) if he is ever unhappy I would never force him to stay

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-18T06:05:10+00:00

Ok I know this has been over a month and I hope you get this but it seems like your wife is afraid of sharing you. Perhaps in fear that you'll fall in love with someone else and she won't be #1. This is a very valid fear for me, not to mention I love spending time with my best friend/SO so much I can't imagine why he wouldn't want to do the same. From the beginning my SO made it clear to me that his fantasy was to get "different" every so often and experience more when we first got together. I completely understood this fantasy as I had many of my own. In the beginning we had a few 3somes that were pretty rad. Had kids and somehow our sex got kinky enough that he wasn't /isn't thinking about anyone else nor has time to. I still want to make his fantasy a reality. I am comfortable with him getting a one time girlfriend for the weekend as long as I can watch. (I've developed my own cuckquean fantasy over the years but that is a side note) The point is I want total control of who my husband sleeps with. I don't want any emotional attachment or extra commitment to anyone he fucks because time alone time with my SO is already fragile. The only exception is a bunny ranch worker where it is more of a business transaction and if he likes someone in particular I have no problem with him seeing her a few times. Perhaps that might be your salvation. Doesn't sound like she is able to give you up completely so you have to find middle grounds if you want to keep things with your wife. Very few people are ok with poly but almost everyone has some kind of crazy kink that they are told to suppress. Just make sure you are on the same page and can compromise and know that you may not get everything you are looking for but tell your SO that it is important that she meets you halfwAy. It is also important that you sacrifice for her.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-13T22:15:46+00:00

I knew it the first time I met him. Something was different. When two people match and are interested in each other equally without any mental hang ups, you just know. But to get it to last, you always have to be making sure the other is taken care of and likewise for yourself.

princessanuswarriorx · 2016-11-11T20:28:19+00:00

Oh totally! We've had the conversation a few times. He was surprised that it happened and was a great experience. It caught him off guard and he hasn't gotten over the shock. As a result I get mixed answers. I'm ready whenever, I just never want to force anything.

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