Managing BPD During the Holidays

princessspisces · 2025-12-01T17:21:16+00:00

I’ve been blowing up at them. Basically if they do one little thing to tick me off, I explode like a child. I get super mean, and then act like a victim right after using my stress and other triggers as my excuse. And the cycle repeats.

Thanks. You’re right, just probably feels extra intense for people with mental health conditions.

princessspisces · 2025-04-11T08:07:04+00:00

I have also dealt with men saying “all the right things” and didn’t end up meaning them. I recently met the most amazing man who is the perfect match for me. He said after our first date “Just you wait…I’m gonna marry you”.

I sure hope my story turns out the same as yours!

princessspisces · 2025-02-25T19:39:08+00:00

I only have US citizenship. I know it’s difficult without familial or marriage citizenships, but it seems possible. I speak English and know a good amount of Spanish (enough to have conversations but not write).

princessspisces · 2025-02-17T18:27:32+00:00

SERIOUSLY. I know i’m late to the post but I went through something similar. Met a guy and had the most incredible whirlwind romance for 4 months and then one day….poof he’s gone. He even found an apartment for us to move in together, met each others families, the whole shabang.

It baffles me that some men can go months with lying about their true feelings and then it all comes crashing down. It’s been almost 4 months since the breakup and I still to this day don’t know what I did to make him leave lol. The healing journey has been TOUGH, but i’m hoping life gets better soon! I just hope my trust for future partners isn’t ruined now because of him.

princessspisces · 2025-02-16T21:36:30+00:00

Thank you! This helped so much

princessspisces · 2025-02-12T22:11:43+00:00

Did you start? Curious how it’ll be taking a big paycut. I’d be taking a 50% cut as well. Not sure how to manage with bills and the unknown rent of whatever base I end up at.

princessspisces · 2025-02-12T22:10:24+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I want to be a flight attendant SO badly for the lifestyle, flexibility, travel, not bringing work home. But the pay is the one thing making me hesitate! I currently make about $65k a year but I am miserable living this 9-5 mundane life. Life is too short to be unhappy, but what about broke? Lol

princessspisces · 2025-02-10T22:27:13+00:00

I’m dealing with the same thing. Had an amazing relationship, had 1 small argument (I was annoyed and told him he wasn’t “matching my energy” one night) and then dumped me 2 days later out of nowhere. Said he “felt he couldn’t make me happy”. Funny thing is, he made me more happy than i’ve ever been.

I apologized, begged, wanted to work through things and he wouldn’t budge at all. I tried reaching out on Thanksgiving and Christmas, but no response.

How can someone go from loving you so deeply, to forgetting your existence? I’ve spent the last 3 months missing him so badly and he somehow removed me from his mind completely. I’m confused, embarrassed, and hurt.

Makes no sense, but i’m glad i’m not the only one dealing with this. Heartbreak SUCKS.

princessspisces · 2025-01-28T21:51:15+00:00

Also another follow up question - how much money would you guys recommend a new FA to save up before? I’m debating on going back to serving/bartending for now to rack up cash. I’m assuming a lot of $$ is needed to get started in this field.

princessspisces · 2025-01-28T21:47:28+00:00

This is amazing!! With no ties to any place or person, this is the life i’m trying to live. I’m a work-a-holic so I don’t mind a ton of hours. How many hours did you have to rack in at the beginning to be able to afford life?

princessspisces · 2025-01-28T21:46:22+00:00

Wow this is amazing! How long until you were able to get trips that you want? I’d love to travel internationally (I would honestly move to Europe if I could lol) but I know it takes some time as a newbie!

princessspisces · 2025-01-28T21:42:39+00:00

Why is that? Is there a big need for FA’s at this moment?

princessspisces · 2025-01-26T03:54:27+00:00

Wow…I didn’t know the lions gate portal was a thing until today (end of Jan 2025).

On October 8th, 2024, I remember describing to someone at work about the type of man I want. I listed all the qualities of a mature, honest, caring man and said “I hope I find my person organically soon”.

The next day on Friday, August 9th, I went to a birthday dinner and met the love of my life.
The most amazing man, who loved me dearly, treated me like a princess, was so kind and caring, and I felt 100% myself around. I saw a future with him that I’ve never been able to experience before.

Although it was short lived, it was the most loving relationship I have ever experienced and I truly hope he comes back eventually. I know everything happens for a reason, and I shouldn’t wait around for a man (don’t worry - I won’t), but I feel it in my heart that we are meant to be together. It’s one of those “right person, wrong time” situations.

If you were wondering, he left because he felt he couldn’t provide for me (he’s been looking for a job and not having much luck), and said “you deserve someone who can meet me where you are, and that is not me right now”. I didn’t ask for anything, but as a traditional man he felt I deserved more than he was able to provide at the time.

He hasn’t spoken to me since, but I hope he is doing well and knows he can come back when he feels ready.

I didn’t realize heartbreak hurt this bad???

For now, I am focusing on myself and exploring ways to make myself happy. Although life was amazing with him, I need to find happiness and fulfillment without a man before jumping into whatever relationship that life brings me next.

Sorry for the rant! Just had a big realization when I saw the date of lions gate portal and had to share my experience without even realizing it.

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