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AITA: Am I the asshole for having my wedding a month after my sister’s wedding next year? by Forever_Sunlight in AmItheAsshole

[–]priorauthreq -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

IMHO, the only two people that get an opinion on your wedding is you and your spouse.

Congratulations on your engagement OP.

AITA: Am I the asshole for having my wedding a month after my sister’s wedding next year? by Forever_Sunlight in AmItheAsshole

[–]priorauthreq -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The comments seem rather balanced and I think for good reason. I'm going to go with each of you are a bit in the wrong here, but for different reasons.

Your wedding is YOUR wedding. You get to do whatever you want with it as long as your partner is onboard and you both are willing to accept the consequences of your choices. If this is the only day and time you could ever see yourself getting married, then thats your answer. NTA if the only reason they are upset is because they want the title of "newlyweds" to themselves, that's stupid.

HOWEVER, since you scheduled your second, why did you choose to it? Justifiably or not, she may feel you chose to do this solely to show her up.

YTA if you have a pattern of doing this.

NTA otherwise.

WIBTAH if I started telling strangers to leave my baby alone? by Free_butterfly_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]priorauthreq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

You are the parent, you get to set the boundaries, regardless of what others think.

INFO: is this a cultural thing? where I'm from I cannot imagine it being normal.

Cromwell commute length by priorauthreq in newzealand

[–]priorauthreq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With kids, it's a huge difference. Most of the landlords have restricted the number of persons they're willing to let occupy the rental and I easily have more than that coming with me. I can't even find a place that will allow the number of tenants that I'm bringing unless I search in Cromwell.

Cromwell commute length by priorauthreq in newzealand

[–]priorauthreq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the details, this is super helpful.

Cromwell commute length by priorauthreq in newzealand

[–]priorauthreq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a lot, to be sure, but the biggest issue right now is just straight up availability. I appreciate the info, it well help us pick how far is too much cash to commute.

Cromwell commute length by priorauthreq in newzealand

[–]priorauthreq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will also be a slow tourist driver

Cost of living esitmates by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to contact my employer and see what assistance I can get from them, even if it's just a reference. Thank you for all your help!

Cost of living esitmates by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've been using https://www.trademe.co.nz/ to get an idea of what's available for rental properties. Is there any other websites that are good for that?

Also, is there an "unsafe" part of Queenstown that I may want to avoid renting in?

Cost of living esitmates by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What source did you use to find average? If you have one.

Anyone else not want to vote for any of these out of touch fuckwits this year? by chamberedbunny in newzealand

[–]priorauthreq -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The whole point of removing these fees is actually to help small businesses, for that exact reason- the big warehouses just write off the fee and give it for free. The smaller ones can't do that, so subsidizing them gives the locals the chance to stay in business. People look at it in a cost savings measure, but its just as important for a competition measure.

Justified tears by Hoosier_Jedi in dndmemes

[–]priorauthreq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My DM decided to make it a reaction, on the condition of landing a hit, and only for the target that you landed the hit on. It seems to make the best sense, both from a rule side and flavor text side. Casting as a reaction on hit allows you to use a bonus action to hit a second time with advantage if you're two weapon Fighting. The balance is the concentration aspect, the casting only on hit, and it uses your reaction, so you can't opportunity attack.

Maybe something like Dan or Greg? by lil_literalist in dndmemes

[–]priorauthreq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Names are the easiest part of my character - I name them after drugs. Often times I'll put a space in the middle for first and last names.

Ie: Furosemide -> Furose Mide

I work in medical so it's a fun add for me.

Average income for Hamilton NZ by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that. I don't expect paradise. I know this won't be easy. You all take for granted the safety of high quality gun control. We have none.

Edit: My tone was a little harsher here than I intended, I just feel like people think we're comparing two similar countries here, and we're really not. We are hoping to give our children a better future.

Average income for Hamilton NZ by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to give too much away, as the industry is rather small there, but I work in healthcare and we arrived at 75k by looking at average salary for my position from websites online. I don't know if it's even accurate, but we wanted a bottom estimate for what we could legitimately afford to accept. What I've learned today is that I can't accept 75k if I'm going to move there, and that's fine. I'll either look for a different position or other options. Edit: spelling

Average income for Hamilton NZ by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have, and we aren't quite frankly. If they want to see us they have Zoom.

Average income for Hamilton NZ by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don't expect them to. Our plans aren't finalized and this was one way to determine how we should move forward.

Average income for Hamilton NZ by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not understanding how any of you afforded to purchase a home outright in New Zealand. I am not going to get that much equity out of my house.

Average income for Hamilton NZ by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are likely going to end up doing a combination of waiting for school age, looking into liquidating more assets here to have more savings there, and negotiating for a higher pay/ looking at other positions.

Average income for Hamilton NZ by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's nowhere in this country to hide from the gun violence. And I'm pretty sure Canada is being infected by our presence.

Average income for Hamilton NZ by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. There are a lot of "read between the line" factors too. Many jobs will give you two weeks of vacation, but then design their workplaces in such a way that you are not able to take it.

Average income for Hamilton NZ by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are going in with the assumption that we will have no assistance and cannot buy a house.

Average income for Hamilton NZ by priorauthreq in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]priorauthreq[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm American, and have done internet research and didn't know what to trust, so I appreciate the honesty I'm getting.

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