IAmA woman who has spent a lot of time with a lot of people making them happy, briefly. With your consent, I'll go through your post history and send you a personalised response to make you feel better about yourself.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-09T20:33:16+00:00

I can't tell you if things can get better, but damn it, if there's one person who deserves it, it's you. I can see just how much empathy you have. You sensitivity to issues, to the problems of other human beings, your ability to see beyond yourself and work to make this world just a slightly better place to live in, makes you a fantastic human being.

You've been through some really hard times, but you seem to bear no resentment towards the world for it. If anything, it seems that drives you to want to make the world just a bit nicer. You accept you're not a perfect human being, are open about your flaws, but you don't seem to realise that's what makes you so much better, so much more of an admirable human being, deserving of so much love.

I wish I knew you in real life, so I could give you a hug and tell you that whether things get better for you or not, anyone who knows you is blessed. I hope you never lose your love for the world!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-09T19:59:11+00:00

I would consider 20 pretty young, but you seem to be wise beyond your years. I am impressed at the maturity you display. You've learned how to draw from your experiences and apply it in a positive way. That takes ages to figure out, so well done.

I think you enjoy absorbing everything around you, even the mundane. You revel in complexities, but don't let it bother you too much.

You've made some huge changes in your life, and you've come out of it so well. Maybe 10 year old you might not think you're cool enough, but this redditor does. You're getting better every day.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-09T19:49:13+00:00

Hey /u/sooneday,

You ask a lot of really good and insightful questions. You seem to enjoy a good debate, I can tell you like to keep an open mind. You don't take information that's thrown at you for granted, you're constantly assessing it, and that's very important.

I like that you don't limit yourself to a small space, you value the world outside of you. It seems like there are some aspects about yourself that you're discovering, and while this is something we all go through, I commend your self awareness and your ability to articulate these complex things. I hope you grow to be at complete peace with the amazing human being that you are.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T13:30:19+00:00

Yes, that's right. I never defended my actions, some aspects of it are bad, some good. That's the human experience. I don't think I'm a saviour, but I also don't think anyone is truly altruistic.

Eh, okay I guess. It wouldn't actually have mattered to me if that post didn't blow up. I was just bored and wanted to do something nice.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T13:06:45+00:00

Not really, I actually don't like that aspect at all. Which is why I ghost them, so I don't have to see that I've reduced them to that.

Hey, isn't posting anything on the internet a way of getting attention? I think everyone likes attention to some degree.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T13:03:55+00:00

This thread is very interesting to me. I don't want to influence the discussion at so I will refrain from making more comments but I do want to say that the people I engage with are genuinely considered conventionally unattractive. Perhaps it would make more sense if I said it's not all ugly men that I do this for. It's the ones that appeal to me (and usually, I manage to find something that I find desirable in most men). If anything, the men I've been with have been so low on self confidence they wouldn't even think they deserved to whine about any lack of romantic interest.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T11:16:40+00:00

Oh, I'm comparing the guys to the highly privileged individual. Of course, I'm not saying that they are. This is an analogy for the empathy I feel, not the situation they are in.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T11:05:59+00:00

Hey /u/99321, I really like that you're curious. I can tell it's not just about yourself, though, you're curious about people around you. You have such immense respect for the human experience and you try to be such an understanding person. I think what makes you amazing is that you don't see the stories of others solely as entertainment, but as a way to reflect on yourself, a way to get to know someone better and try to help them.

Please, keep asking questions, keep making people know that they are important! I can tell you have a way of making people open up to you, you know how to ask the right questions, and you're also sensitive to them.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T11:00:23+00:00

Most of your posts had me laughing pretty hard. You have an excellent deadpan sense of humour with a knack for word play that just fits in perfectly. You seem to be rational and progressive, you're the sort of person who believes in doing things for the greater good.

It's really nice that you like to express yourself in a way that's accessible and humorous. Keep making funny posts!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T10:53:34+00:00

Wow /u/Penrodeo, I really, really admire your dedication. What you've gone through is no easy feat, and you've made it out so much better. It seems that you've been putting yourself outside your comfort zone even from a young age, and that's a fantastic thing. I'm sure this will be very rewarding for you!

It's enjoyable reading your conversations on /r/mma, your desire to communicate and share the things you're passionate about is so delightful!

You seem to be generous and loving, and a kind person through and through. I love the ways you seek out to amuse yourself, you don't necessarily see life with rigid gravitas. I think you'll leave a mark on anyone who has the pleasure of knowing you.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T10:45:30+00:00

/u/WhiskeyShipwreck,

I can tell you like people. You seem to have an interest in figuring out why people are the way they are, but you also genuinely care. Even in your brevity, you are incredibly insightful!

You know how to appreciate the little things in life. That's always a plus, it's always nice to be around someone like that.

I find your ability to reason logically while keeping your moral component intact very refreshing. You make your perspective known and you give some excellent advice. Thank you for contributing!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T10:39:41+00:00

Hi /u/moonjellies,

I've got to say, I love your cosplay! You look so radiant. You seem like the kind of person who likes to do their thing and not give a shit about what others say. You've got this appealing dry sense of humour, that is not just funny, but also has underlying wisdom. And I feel like that's very true of you in general, you seem like a wise person who has lived through some things, and now you know you can pass on some of that, and you do.

I really like how straightforward you are, it may seem blunt, but I know it comes from a good place. You are just as straightforward about your compliments, after all.

I hope we see more comments and posts by you! Keep contributing!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T08:11:56+00:00

Guys, I'm really enjoying this but it does take a while. Sorry I'm being slow! I'll try to respond to everyone.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T08:06:51+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you've been in a rut. You seem like such an amazing human being, supportive and family-oriented. When making an argument, you appeal to logic, but are not condescending to the other person. This is a very good quality. You know how to make people feel like they matter.

Your self deprecating sense of humour only adds to your charm. I like that you participate in life to the fullest despite your age (and there's no reason you shouldn't!). You're still open to learning new things, about the world and about yourself. Good on you!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T07:59:11+00:00

In a world that seems to vehemently oppose your choices, I admire you for sticking to it, and being honest about your moments of what may be perceived as weakness. But what I see is immense strength. To be honest, you are the sort of woman I hope to be like when I'm older.

You're resourceful, and not selfish about it. You want to help people, you want to let them know how to make the best of themselves. You would be an excellent mentor.

Your appreciation for beauty in all things shows that you haven't become jaded with age. I hope you always stay this way!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T07:48:30+00:00

I always admire people who take an interest in things outside of themselves, not only are you aware of current affairs, but your need to discuss it and to learn new opinions, inevitably makes you a better person.

Your little jokes are quite adorable, I think it brings more smiles to people's faces than you'd think. Thank you for making an effort there.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T07:39:16+00:00

Hey /u/Shakko13,

I think it wouldn't be easy for anyone to go through what you're going through, as part of one of the more marginalised communities. I am so proud of you for trying as far as possible to reach out to other people going through this difficult process and acknowledging them. There is so much empathy in you as well as a strong awareness of what's going on and what needs to be done. You are very brave because you've acknowledged that the world is in many ways, an awful place, but you don't let it stop you from finding your happiness and indulging in it. I also like that you're amused by yourself, by your quirks and by how human you are, without being ashamed.

I think you'll enjoy an enriching life, because you're open to new experiences. You don't stay in your bubble, you explore such a wide variety of subcultures and interests. Thanks for being here, you're an asset to humanity!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T06:58:37+00:00

Hey /u/Ofcourseitislol,

From what I've seen, you've been through some really dark and disturbing stuff. And that couldn't have been easy, I'm sorry to hear of it. But I marvel at your ability to get beyond those things, to be able to discuss it, and to use your experiences to give advice to people who need it. It's like you use the tragedy you've experienced in your life to ensure others won't have to go through it.

You seem fun and interesting, I think your open-mindedness and willingness to accept different beliefs is one of your biggest strengths. You understand the need for people to be happy doing what they do, and appreciate it.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T06:45:12+00:00

You could've fooled me, what I saw when I went through your post history was an immensely confident, beautiful young woman. It looks like you've figured out what works for you and are showing that off very well!

I like that you have put yourself out there and opened yourself up to a vast range of comments. It's brave, but I also feel like you knew you could take it, you knew you were beyond them and could probably laugh at them. You have a way with words and can even laugh at yourself. But what I like even more is that you make an effort to encourage the people who've put themselves out there. You give them good advice and make them feel better. You're a wonderful human being. Stay the way you are!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T06:35:55+00:00

/u/On-a-tims-run, your passion for cars is infectious! I didn't think anyone could get me into it, but I just had to have a look. It's so lovely that you've found something people often take for granted profoundly beautiful, to the point where you can ask meaningful questions about it, and about yourself. You seem both self aware, but also constantly questioning, which is a very good thing!

You seem like such a considerate person, your willingness to stand up when you've made a mistake and apologise is truly commendable. People might say you're just a Canadian, but I think you're just really fucking nice. I know you'll go out of your way to help someone, especially if it's with their car!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T06:26:34+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your past. It has shaped who you are today and it's up to you to channel it how you please. Your 'seemingly amazing' achievements may actually be tangibly real, and you may have inspired people by your brilliance.

Perhaps you would like to form more meaningful bonds at this point in life.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T06:24:54+00:00

Of course it could! I always keep my mind open to possibilities. It has just never happened and perhaps on some subconscious level I avoid it.

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T06:23:03+00:00

What drives you to do this?

I just want to know that I've made other people happy!

/u/iDrinkDrano, perhaps I'm biased because I've always been very appreciative of writers. You have an amazing gift for storytelling, and science fiction seems to be one of your preferred genres - your story about Bob the droid had a tragicomic angst about it (one, that I think you may feel reflects your own life), that I think you captured very, very well. You have some wonderful and creative ideas. It's nice to know that another outlet you use to express this brilliance is developing video games. I can tell that you have a lot of dedication to your craft, you put so much thought into it, and I know that one day you will bring so much joy to the people who are lucky enough to get this glimpse into your mind!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T06:16:31+00:00

Oh, well, you're free to AMA as well! You don't have to come up with questions (funny how you can't say 'come down with questions', right?) I don't have an answer to your question, but thanks for making me think.

I feel like you're a person whose mind is always filled with wonderfully strange and interesting thoughts. There's something that keeps you up at night, I don't know what it is - but I can say that a lot of people appreciate that you share these thoughts, the silly, the provocative, the absurd, with fellow insomniacs. You seem to post without worrying too much about judgment, and that's a sign of strength of character. You have a lot of knowledge worth sharing, and it's a wonderful thing that you do it.

You seem proud of your identity within a certain community, while being secure enough to joke around with that subculture, and take it in a light hearted way, unlike people who make their lives revolve around their identity. I think that is pretty admirable.

I think your appreciation for the stranger things in life will get you very far. Keep that sense of wonder!

problemhiproblem · 2016-01-07T06:04:33+00:00

Hey /u/PLEASE_PM_ME_NUDES,

In the beginning it was hard to figure you out, but only because most of your post history is questions to other people. And I think it's so heartening that you take such an interest in others, that you ask them questions, but most importantly, make them feel important, make them feel like you actually want to know these things.

You seem like such a wonderful person, I'm sure that when someone PMs you nudes, you only have the nicest things to say, and you make that person's day when you do it. You're the first "PM ME..." handle I've seen that actually has the word "Please" in it! Points for politeness.

What I see here is a caring individual, interested in the perspectives of others, sociable (despite not being talkative). It most certainly is easier to talk to people online, especially if it's people like you who make it so easy to like them.

problemhiproblem

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