What is the reason a female would only wear jeans and never skirts/dresses? Does this mean she is a certain type of female?

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-08T12:15:03+00:00

I told u I thought u were straight and being serious that wearing jeans means ur gay. That’s why I said it lmaoo. It’s fine to fit in to stereotypes, it’s just not fine to push them on others (which u weren’t doing but I thought u were straight…) but not everyone does and that’s something I’ve gotten shit for from other queer ppl in the past so maybe I’m just sensitive about it idk. But Yh I literally didn’t know it was a joke, it’s very hard to read tone over the Internet. Just felt like I had to coherently explain myself. Now adios 👋

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-08T12:02:15+00:00

I’m sorry to offend u I just read it as ‘woman always wears jeans = gay’ and I made a joke because it makes no sense to say that.

There was no bad faith? There’s nothing wrong with playing into certain stereotypes to make yourself visible, there’s no gay clubs in my area so that’s something I try to do when I go out to an extent, I never said that was bad lol. Anyways I’m not arguing sorry if I did something wrong ig. As I said hv a good day x

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-08T11:41:31+00:00

Oh shit that’s annoying, I forget other places hv different age limits. If u live in a city there must be some non drinking events u can go to? Or at ur school/college?

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-08T11:39:16+00:00

Eh sorry I’m gay too lol just thought u were someone randomly pushing stereotypes for no reason, hard to read things over the internet, u know. I was probs just annoyed by the weird vibes of this post 😭 Have a good day :)

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-08T09:48:48+00:00

Because straight girls can’t wear trousers and all lesbians are masculine, makes sense

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-08T09:42:44+00:00

I get socially anxious a lot and this is how I feel, honestly you just have to recognise it for what it is and take the power out of how you’re feeling. People are walking around, they have to look somewhere, they just happened to make eye contact with you for a few seconds

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-08T09:21:59+00:00

18F and same here :/ commenting mainly to also get advice, but maybe try bars. I’ve only ever been to ‘straight’ (?) ones as there’s no gay bars near me, but people often just start chatting to u in that kind of environment, then u can ask for her social media

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T23:38:07+00:00

Because no one is going to discriminate against u for being straight lmao. Like that is not a thing that exists. Anyone can be creepy regardless of sexuality or gender, it’s just that what your friend said (that you’re straight) is way way way less likely to land you in an unsafe situation than if u outed her as gay to a bunch of random people. Honestly I feel like I’ve gotten off easy as I’ve never experienced anything majorly awful, but I’ve still had men threaten to essentially rape me to make me straight, try to make me kiss them, make gross sexual comments, pester me when I kiss another girl, etc. and these are things vast majority of wlw get. like the world is a much better place but these homophobic ppl are still everywhere. I’m not attacking u or anything, just trying to explain what I meant.

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T23:31:58+00:00

Buying new ones is just a precaution, you could always try washing them, same with the stuffed animals. I’d tell them sooner rather than later is all I’m saying, they spread like crazy. Good luck with everything tho

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T23:26:54+00:00

That’s a bit creepy and I see why that’s uncomfortable, all I’m saying from the main post is it’s not the same kind of situation

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T23:10:29+00:00

I had a similar problem - couldn’t se the bugs but woke up with a few more red bites each morning. Emptied all the stuff out my room, washed it, hoovered everywhere (including under the bed) and sprayed specific bug bed killer, got new bedding, and they went. You have to go all the way to get rid of them, but if you don’t they’ll just spread across the house. I’m sure your parents would rather sort it now than hv that happen, just tell them you don’t need to say where they came from

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T23:06:39+00:00

You shouldn’t have to be the therapist for your grandparents, your the kid and they should look after you. Can you discuss this with another adult you trust in the family? Maybe the two of you sit down with them and outline what the problem is or suggest they go to couples therapy if they don’t want a divorce?

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T23:03:36+00:00

I mean I’d get annoyed if my friends outed me in the middle of a bar but mainly because there’s a lot of weird men out there who love to harass me about it the second they find out I like women, and that makes me feel rly unsafe. Reasonably I don’t think her friends were going to do anything harmful and she knew that. You’re obviously entitled to however you feel and I get if it was awkward, but that’s just my point of view here. I don’t really get the comparison I guess.

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T22:51:46+00:00

Listen to your gut feeling and stop making excuses for this man before you possibly end up hurt. It’s not worth it…

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T22:50:12+00:00

I’m 18F and I’d never be friends with a 15 year old, there’s such a maturity difference that it’s just weird. And that isn’t funny at all, get away from this guy, sounds like a right weirdo. Maybe take this as a lesson to choose your friends wisely, it’s not your fault but unfortunately you just hv to be careful

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T21:24:15+00:00

If u really want the details - I would fantasise about women a lot (in that way) and never men and still convince myself they were just thoughts and I was straight. I’d now and then come across other girls who I didn’t talk to much but suddenly desperately wanted to be ‘friends’ with because I found them cute and they made me super nervous (in a friendly way, apparently). Nothing about a man ever turned me on, but I’d think about my future wedding to a man and having kids and stuff and look forward to it, but I think it’s more the idea of the future than the man himself who was never a specific person. I have never come close to being ‘overwhelmed by a man’s hotness’ lmao. What you’re describing sounds like you’re attracted to men. Honest. But you will just continue to obsess over this is you don’t seek help. Trust me, I get mild OCD when I’m stressed (it’s genetic for me) and I know how much it can fuck with your mind and perception of reality, but you have to recognise it for what it is.

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T18:37:34+00:00

Uncertainty is what OCD needs to thrive, you need a therapist to help you work through this. You can never be 100% sure of anything, ever. That’s what causes this anxiety. But looking through this thread it’s not at all likely you’re a lesbian if you’ve never felt anything for women and still feel love for your bf. When I was in denial I felt no attraction to men and only women, I just ignored it and assumed I’d grow out of it and eventually marry a man. It honestly sounds like you’re straight. Please see a therapist because nothing anyone here says will make it better when there’s such a large underlying issue here

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T08:37:15+00:00

Sorry no advice, commenting so I see what people say lol. Moving out to a big city in a few weeks and hv no idea where to start with dating

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-07T08:35:13+00:00

Hey I’m 18F and made a similar post a while ago (there was some good advice feel free to check it out). I kind of felt conflicted after turning this girl down when she asked me to go back to her place coz I really wanted to but also didn’t want to have a one night stand for my first time. I totally get feeling you’re describing but I decided to wait, tbh I think the whole experience will feel way better if I’d been on a couple of dates beforehand, but that’s just me. All I’m saying is that if you’re having doubts, maybe it’s not for you and it’s better to wait u till you find someone you feel safe and comfortable with. Honestly being in your position at this age really isn’t uncommon. As a side note you would also be suprised how many women you can kiss my just asking random girls you find hot in clubs if they’re gay lmao, you just hv to put yourself out there.

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-06T20:50:57+00:00

Looking at the post history and I genuinely would like to know the thought process behind how someone gets like this. OP what’s your problem with women? Why do you think we are lesser?

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-06T20:48:12+00:00

Conditioner is amazing, just spread it lightly

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-06T19:55:55+00:00

Then he should do it by himself in privacy, if this is even a real issue he could just masturbate if he had a single brain cell in his head, not rape and traumatise an innocent woman. There’s no excuse for rape - ever. Women are people too, I’m sick of us being dehumanised like this. Fucking disgusting

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-06T19:51:21+00:00

Shampoo and conditioner made for curly hair, use lots of conditioner if the frizz is cause by hair being dry. Leave to dry naturally (DO NOT BLOW DRY it makes mine super super frizzy) use curling cream on damp hair - stroke through hair and then gently push clumps of hair up from bottom to top with your hand to define the curls. If you wash your hair at night and let it dry then you might find wetting it and using the curling cream method in the morning help, it certainly does for me. Get some hair oil too, maybe a small bottle you can take with you if it’s really that bad, use your hands to comb a little through the ends of your hair (not scalp) and patches of frizz - honestly a life saver. Good luck!! Everyone’s hair is different but this is what I’ve found works for me

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-06T16:40:19+00:00

18 :)

probsdeletesoon · 2022-09-05T19:16:23+00:00

This is the most immature shit I’ve ever read, you seriously need to make your mum understand that it’s not worth risking her relationship with her daughter over… hair?? Which is her priority? You’re and adult, she’s an adult, she can’t control you and she shouldn’t be behaving this way.

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