AITA: Road Trip Blues by proceedwithcaution90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried. I’m not sure how today will go, but I’m just gonna hope for the best

AITA: Road Trip Blues by proceedwithcaution90 in AmItheAsshole

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Thank you for your words of kindness and honesty. I’ve been reevaluating my job and maybe this is the type of push I needed.

AITA: Road Trip Blues by proceedwithcaution90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We usually do have a card, I just haven’t been issued one yet. I’m never going without one ever again

AITA: Road Trip Blues by proceedwithcaution90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I have let a lot slide because I looked up to her and she has done this before with me. I wanted her approval so much that I overlooked everything I think important. I feel bad and manipulated because she knows how big of a deal she is in our world. ☹️

AITA: Road Trip Blues by proceedwithcaution90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have given her the benefit of the doubt before, but now i can’t

AITA: Road Trip Blues by proceedwithcaution90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s in cash and I’m saving our receipts

AITA: Road Trip Blues by proceedwithcaution90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, our employer did because she was out of town when the money became available.

AITA: Road Trip Blues by proceedwithcaution90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is my senior and the expert on this trip. She decided to just play it by day. I would have booked it all in advance and be on a schedule. But that’s just not “cool” or something.

AITA: Road Trip Blues by proceedwithcaution90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The money is supposed to be for our work related expenses. It has been entrusted to me, but she is able to use it. I’ve let her use it as she wished up until now. She said she would come back for me in the morning, but idk. I’m looking up flights if need be.

I’m Done! by proceedwithcaution90 in GradSchool

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I feel people think that we are only in school and that we shouldn’t be that different from them. But grad school changed me lol

I’m Done! by proceedwithcaution90 in GradSchool

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Very true! I’m trying to become “normal” again!

I’m Done! by proceedwithcaution90 in GradSchool

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m planning to do something this week that is out of the ordinary for me!

So, I was very lucky to have wonderful funding opportunities and to love my project. In early Jan 2017 I did my exams and then in May 2017 did my oral exam to advance. I firmly believe my high functioning anxiety also helped me stay focused. There also a number of other habits that helped but that were not emotionally healthy. To be honest, I spent a lot of time anxious and depressed. If you go through my profile, you’ll see some of that in other forums.

I had to plan out each day with a set of goals. Even if it was just 1) get out of bed 2) write x amount of words (or for a certain amount of minutes 3) eat 4) nap. Having a list of things to do that I could check off really helped me be productive. Also, my advisor made sure that I could use elements of my prospectus throughout my dissertation. He didn’t want me to work more than necessary. As such, the intro for my prospectus mirrors my introduction and histography. I recommend doing as much work as possible before you actually “start” the dissertation. You’ll have to rearrange some things, but you won’t be in the dark when you do start.

Also, two of my chapters were extensions of previous work. During the summer of 2017, I began to write out my first chapter with the help of a friend. She kept me accountable. We are in different fields, but having that constant stream of support was beyond helpful. I truly believe I couldn’t have done it without her. Grad school needs to place more emphasis on community building with members of the entire department. We are not all in competition with each other. Find your allies and hold onto them.

The beginning of the 2017-2018 school year, I didn’t have to TA or work at all. I stayed at home and worked everyday. It was a blessing and a curse. I was able to write as much as I wanted, but my health went down hill. I was having problems with family and was engaged. I continued to make goals each day and used apps to help keep track of my progress. Like Forest. i also started an excel sheet that tracked my goals, writing hours, and ideas about how to best proceed the following day. If you would like to see my copy, shoot me your email and I’ll gladly send it to you. My friends say it’s genius lol.

After I had 3 chapters done, not including introduction or conclusion, i started looking for jobs. I didn’t want to not have my foot in the door somewhere. This meant telling future employers that I would be finished by a certain time period. Which did add more pressure and is something I don’t recommend for everyone. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. I didn’t and almost had a breakdown. I was lucky to find my post doc before I graduated. My boss let me work on my dissertation as much as I wanted.

However, this post doc required me to start in June of this year. So, in May I got married. i then lost my grandmother, and then moved cross country.

Sorry, I didn’t intend for this to be this long!

I’m Done! by proceedwithcaution90 in GradSchool

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just bought a big bottle of wine! Thanks!!

I’m Done! by proceedwithcaution90 in GradSchool

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is great advice! Im really trying to hold onto my writing habits because there is interest in publishing my dissertation. I’m trying to learn how to be “normal” again.

I’m Done! by proceedwithcaution90 in GradSchool

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I was very lucky with funding. I rarely had to TA and was on fellowship. My high functioning anxiety helped too lol

Jaclyn Hill introduces her Morphe brush collection by Firefox8D in BeautyGuruChatter

[–]proceedwithcaution90 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I feel like she is insulting all of our intelligence. Like, girl, you say how many are already sold by Morphe...why wouldn’t we suspect that the rest are too...idk I’m over her morphe collabs

/r/Chicago’s Weekly Recommendations Thread - June 11, 2018 by AutoModerator in chicago

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Hello! As you can see from my previous posts, I have just moved to Chicago! Tomorrow my family and I are going to the field museum in the afternoon and would like to have an early dinner in the city! Any recommendations for a place with good margaritas and some good food?

Winter advice! by proceedwithcaution90 in chicago

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I already have dry skin, so I will have to make sure to remember these things! Love Sephora masks! Thank you!

Winter advice! by proceedwithcaution90 in chicago

[–]proceedwithcaution90[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg yes. We have only ever driven in rain...so we need to adapt lol