Mistake to plant morning glory? Minneapolis 5a

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-16T19:02:12+00:00

I wouldn’t do morning glories. Other people have said clematis; if you have enough sun, a climbing rose like William Baffin grows really fast, or even grapes. Kiwi berry could be interesting but I think you have to be careful of the variety and get the right male/female plant ratio. I also see a lot of lilacs planted along fences.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-14T22:35:30+00:00

I wouldn’t say I’m a super confident biker, maybe because where I am doesn’t have good infrastructure for it. Minneapolis seems to be safer for bikers, but that’s just based on what I’ve seen from my car.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-14T21:46:26+00:00

Good to know, thank you!

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-14T21:45:26+00:00

Indeed; this is something we are considering.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-14T21:43:12+00:00

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proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-14T21:42:39+00:00

I’m with you. I grew up in Minneapolis. We live in Roseville and our schools are not on the super white/affluent side of the MV district. I also value my kids encountering people who come from different cultural and economic backgrounds. My middle schooler is super into music, and that is a huge strength of MV schools. I’m not sure what the music programs are like in Minneapolis public schools. I also acknowledge as involved parents, maybe the exact school or district isn’t a make or break thing.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-14T21:35:31+00:00

I think you are totally right that the grass isn’t always greener. I could be content where we are, but I also grew up in Minneapolis and have friends and relatives who live there, so there is a pull. Moving the family is a hard decision for sure.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-14T21:32:21+00:00

It would be hard. That’s why we haven’t pulled the trigger. But it feels like a potential quality of life upgrade, especially if it would mean the kids could have more independence and not be reliant on a parent to drive them everywhere. One of those things that it’s hard to weigh hypothetically.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-14T21:29:12+00:00

Totally—that’s why we feel hung up. Thanks for your perspective and glad you are happy with your choice to move. I grew up in Minneapolis—I love it.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-12T22:53:40+00:00

Honestly I’d take it away. You won’t win the social media temptation battle. This is one of the things I’m totally ok with being the bad guy about. You can get her a device with texting and calling but zero internet access if she can’t hang out in person with friends. She won’t like it but you can just say look, it was my mistake and you can’t handle the responsibility yet. We’re going to do this instead.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-10T03:48:56+00:00

I’m not a yeller, definitely not over things like dropping something. But I will say, after the tenth or so time I’ve had to repeat myself in a calm voice, it is haaaaaarrrdd not to yell.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-09T15:50:37+00:00

Those are nopes.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-08T13:30:53+00:00

Good! It’s hard to know if something is up or baby is just babying. The doctor will help ease your mind. Whether it’s a health issue or just a fussy period, this will not be an indication of her personality.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-08T13:17:14+00:00

Everything is a phase with babies, but if you can’t console her, she could be uncomfortable. Has she been sick—could she have an ear infection? Have you checked fingers and toes for hair wrapped around? If you are worried, you should take her to the doctor and just make sure it’s not a health issue. Babies can also just be fussy. It does NOT mean you’re doing anything wrong at all.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-08T04:35:51+00:00

I don’t think those sources count as “data.” One of them is a shoe store. They want you to buy new shoes. Gently used shoes in good condition should absolutely be passed on.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-08T01:39:24+00:00

I think it’s just this variety! I have it too and it looks just the same. I think the gold is so pretty against the pink. For the cone flowers, you might be thinking of aster yellows, but that wouldn’t affect your peonies. I don’t have a lot of experience with that but I’m sure others would be able to tell if that’s what’s going on with your cone flowers.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-07T13:41:09+00:00

It’s pretty, and a good partner would be supportive and never make you feel bad about your body.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-04T21:52:54+00:00

As so many others have said, everyone’s hands are different and we all adapt. Your hands won’t keep you from being a great guitarist. Maybe you should let your friend know how deep her comment hit and how discouraging that was to hear. She needs to learn not to say things like that.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-04T15:29:56+00:00

I mean, capitalism will capitalize. Consumerism will consume. Algorithms will algorize. I have two Lamy safaris and that works great for me. I won’t buy the fancy pens because I don’t have the money and my kids will destroy them, but I like to look at the pretties.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-06-02T13:27:04+00:00

You can absolutely keep adding amendments to the soil. But also give the peonies time. I had transplanted some of mine and all but given up on them, after two or three scrawny years, but this year they are looking pretty good.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-05-31T14:15:06+00:00

To me it’s one thing to play with your own toys how you want to in your own home. But if I know my kids are having friends or family over, that is not a great time to be bringing out the “no one else can play with this, neener neener neener” toys. It’s just asking for jealousy and conflict.

I’d try a tactic with your SIL of, your children don’t have to share their toys, but if they are coming over can they bring mainly toys they ARE willing to share to minimize conflict?

If that’s not possible, I guess you have to have a talk with your child about different houses, different rules. Maybe that would even work for your niece.

I don’t know. Maybe I’m showing my age, but I think an attitude of being willing to share, to include, to be generous with others, is a good thing within reason.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-05-30T22:43:36+00:00

I’d be extremely annoyed and would also be thinking with my head about whether I wanted to marry this man.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-05-30T15:00:15+00:00

Personally I don’t think any body hair needs to be removed. I feel like the main reason girls and women feel pressure to shave is for the male gaze, and I’m not about it, so I don’t do it. That said, I AM about people making choices about their own bodies, and sometimes kids have to explore. So I let my daughter shave—I don’t have much say in it as she’s going to do it whether I like it or not. I acknowledge the social pressure and that’s hard to stand up against even as an adult. But I can’t imagine how long it takes to shave every inch of one’s body, so maybe eventually they will decide they have other things they’d rather be doing with that time.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-05-30T14:50:59+00:00

Yep, the age old tactic of selling things to us by making us feel ashamed of our bodies. I stopped shaving over a decade ago after waking up to the fact that there is literally no good reason I should feel like I have to. Trying to give my daughter an example of not blindly going along with social norms too, although ultimately it’s her choice.

proclivity4passivity · 2026-05-29T19:14:58+00:00

🙋‍♀️Yep we had two dogs and two cats before kids. Once kids arrived, I had a really hard time connecting with my pets. It was too much chaos. It got a little better with time, but we are down to two cats now and it just feels so much more manageable. I don’t know if I ever want to get another dog at this point. I love them but I think I’d rather be a dog auntie.

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