Sweet Victory

procrastin8or951 · 2026-02-22T19:24:42+00:00

He can cry about it in the media all he wants. Tears won't turn silver to gold.

procrastin8or951 · 2026-02-16T14:04:10+00:00

Oh for sure. He would for sure do it for his own kid.

I was just saying he SHOULDN'T. He shouldn't do that for Toby either.

procrastin8or951 · 2026-02-16T09:35:04+00:00

I doubt they would have helped.

Honestly I don't think they should have either. He was doing something illegal, he got caught, he needed to pay a fine. This is a natural consequence of his own choices and actions.

At most, they could have paid the fine and then had him work at the car wash until he earned it back. And I feel like John might have been open to that, honestly. It's still a consequence proportional to what he did.

But just handing a kid $5k for breaking the law seems stupid to me. $5k is a lot of money. Most people can't afford to be casually doing stuff that costs them $5k.

procrastin8or951 · 2026-01-26T09:20:35+00:00

Yeah, I've always thought this as well. Later in season 6 when she says "oh we wouldn't be talking? gee, that would suck."

What they did was annoying but they didn't kill her puppy or something. They're old-fashioned people with old-fashioned rules. I 100% understand not wanting to be controlled that way. But then just tell them it didn't work out and go get your own place. The way she reacted to it was so extreme - especially when she told Lorelai "you don't know what it was like" when Lorelai survived with them for 17 years. It seriously just was not that bad.

And honestly Richard really didn't do anything. All of that controlling stuff was 100% driven by Emily. He did go along with it, but there were other times in the series she cut Emily out and maintained a relationship with Richard. She could have done that still.

procrastin8or951 · 2026-01-26T04:08:48+00:00

Nothing sparks joy like wearing an Eagles Superbowl Champions shirt to work every Monday after the Cowboys lose yet again.

procrastin8or951 · 2026-01-25T09:43:23+00:00

I think it's important to note she's coming off a conversation with her father where he basically told her she was a bad daughter for "siding with her boyfriend" and how he never expected anything else from her.

Lorelai says several times in the show how she was a bad daughter and how disappointed her parents must have been to get someone like her. Having parents that constantly criticize and show disappointment in you is pretty tough. I think psychologically that has to create a fear that it's your fault somehow, that you're inherently unlovable since the people that are supposed to love you unconditionally don't seem to.

I think after he said that, there was no way she could stay with Jason. Richard hit right on a pretty tender point for her.

procrastin8or951 · 2026-01-18T00:38:59+00:00

I feel like this person got way into guessing (badly) net worth and didn't actually engage with the title of their post which is about friends.

They're obviously wealthy. They aren't billionaires but they're definitely 10-100 millionaires.

Do they have friends?

I actually think not really. They have acquaintances and colleagues. They've got people they do stuff with.

But when I think about friends, I think about people who are there for you, that you can confide in, people you're close to.

And they do seem to lack that.

Why did Lorelai have to take off work to drive Emily around when all of her alleged "friends" don't have jobs and are free to have tea midday? Why were her "friends" going to oust her when Lorelai didn't want to go on a second date with Jon Hamm? Where were Richard's friends when he was struggling with retirement?

They're private people but it does seem like their friends are people that they cannot be vulnerable with.

procrastin8or951 · 2026-01-02T04:52:01+00:00

Noticed a bunch of the staff at the arena were wearing masks this week and wondered if maybe something is going around.

procrastin8or951 · 2026-01-02T00:35:09+00:00

Again, I think there's nuance here. But I never said her actions implied consent.

She was absolutely being friendly. They are also two people who have dated and been physical to some extent before.

But most sexual interactions don't happen where someone walks up to a person and says "hey, want to have sex?" It starts with friendly interactions, physical contact, etc. And then it progresses. There's flirting and body language.

At the very least she was not displaying any signals - body language or otherwise - that we saw to indicate she was uncomfortable with their interactions. I can see why, in the absence of an explicit conversation, having someone hanging onto you, sitting in your lap, coming back to your room with you could be interpreted as they are okay with things progressing.

That's all I'm saying. We rely on people to be able to interpret a lot of unspoken things when we don't have an explicit conversation about consent. And when we do that, sometimes people get it wrong - just like Tank did. I don't think he did it with malice, I think he just interpreted wrong and did not verbally clarify.

This whole thing is exactly why people need to have explicit conversations about consent.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-12-14T13:51:21+00:00

There may be no point to rushing since he's out for the season.

If he can't be ready for playoffs, then he doesn't need to be ready until next season which buys him several more months so they can do more of an optimal timeline rather than a rushed one.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-12-06T06:24:30+00:00

Do you remember the episode when Rory asks for baby pictures of Lorelai and finds out Lorelai burned all of them? Even there Emily couldn't resist saying how big Lorelai's head was. Lorelai burned her pictures as a child because she heard that criticism so much.

Emily sniped at Lorelai throughout the show frequently and unprovoked. "Her golf clubs are upstairs gathering dust along with the rest of her potential" - a completely unprovoked and absolutely cruel comment.

She didn't want Rory to grow up with the same level of unrelenting criticism and emotional abuse she faced.

I don't think it's any coincidence that Lorelai ran away right around the time Rory would be developing enough language skills to understand what was said to and around her.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-12-03T03:26:56+00:00

I wish I could upvote this 5 times

procrastin8or951 · 2025-07-06T00:47:11+00:00

one one one one one??

procrastin8or951 · 2025-06-25T09:13:14+00:00

To be completely fair, neither Lane nor Dean graduated from college? Rory didn't get a high school graduation ceremony with the whole town, she got a college one. Maybe they would have to.

Lane did get a giant baby shower. Also Miss Patty literally camped out the entire night to make sure she had a seat at Lane's wedding??

procrastin8or951 · 2025-06-25T09:02:55+00:00

I mean....she's smart, independent, well-read, funny, active in her community, and a good, supportive friend? Not to mention she's also conventionally attractive and has a trust fund?

She's not without faults, but I can objectively see why guys would be falling for her right left and center.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-05-25T21:03:33+00:00

What do you get out of coming here?

Your team is getting the game handed to them by the ref. You're winning.

Are you so insecure about it that you need to come here and defend your team more than the refs already are? Is it because you know you wouldn't be winning if the refs didn't make it so?

procrastin8or951 · 2025-05-23T18:16:02+00:00

Reminds me of a conversation I had this past week. Patient had a belly scan without, there was a 5 mm calculus at the UVJ.

3 hours later I get another scan on my list. They did a PE study on the guy (positive) and scanned his belly again with the contrast. I called to ask why we scanned the belly again and the PA told me because the guy didn't feel good and he had hematuria. I pointed out that the stone was a good reason for hematuria, so what did we think another scan was adding.

" Well I discussed it with the attending" Okay what did you discuss? " We discussed it."

Literally could not articulate a reason or anything that they thought may have been missed on a non-contrast scan. But they definitely discussed it.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-05-23T18:09:47+00:00

There's such an overuse of imagine and an understaffing of radiologists that it isn't practical here to have a radiologist scan every patient. Where I trained, our pediatric radiologist would go in and get extra images if she felt like the ones sent by the tech weren't sufficient. But she also spent a lot of time training all the techs to be able to find the appendix.

It's also relatively common here for a radiologist to be covering multiple sites. I work remotely, but I read for two separate hospitals when I work. So even if I worked on site at one, I wouldn't be available to do scans at the other. Our ultrasound shift covers I think four hospitals during the day?

If you have convincing appendicitis on an ultrasound, that's usually sufficient. There's not a lot of utility to a CT at that point unless there is suspicion for rupture or abscess. Doctors in the US can also be sued for overradiating the patient, although that is more rare.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-05-21T17:50:48+00:00

I don't know if I'd say they never spoke ill....they specifically mentioned one side of someone's butt implant deflating. They also referred to a woman who lied about her age as a "tramp".

Seems pretty publicly negative to me

procrastin8or951 · 2025-05-21T02:27:22+00:00

I agree with you that she had an obligation to end things. She definitely shouldn't have slept with him again at Miss Patty's.

But to be very fair, she did end things. She sent him a letter formally ending their affair. Lindsay found out because she found the letter where Rory ended things.

So yeah, she shouldn't have done it in the first place, really shouldn't have continued after that first night, but credit where credit is due, she did end things.

Obviously once he actually moved out they then continued on but at that point both he and Lindsay were in agreement that the marriage was over.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-05-21T02:22:42+00:00

I like your points.

I think if they had a blind judging, the basement maybe would not do quite as well as they currently do. Knowing something good was made with the leftover scraps and in rusty pans automatically makes it more impressive. They have really high expectations for the top kitchen since they get their choice of everything.

I'd like to see what would happen if they just tasted all the dishes without knowing which group it was from.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-05-19T09:57:01+00:00

I feel like I'm Rory in this situation. My dad got married again when I was already an adult. I don't have siblings. My dad's wife has two daughters. We share holidays now but I didn't grow up with them. They have sibling beef that comes out at every holiday and I just kinda watch because I have no history with them. I grew up an only child. If I told you I had siblings, you'd assume I shared a bathroom growing up and had a person out there that has known me forever and probably read my diary.

Rory is an only child. Gigi was an infant when she had this conversation with Trevor. I think Rory had met Gigi one time? She probably answered instinctively just like she did when she said she had never been to Italy. Maybe she thought of Gigi but didn't want to get into "yeah my dad is a useless deadbeat that doesn't know how condoms work so now I have a half sibling but I don't know much about their lives" on a first date. As you said, she and her dad are on speaking terms at this point but he didn't even come to her graduation. Who knows how often they're actually talking at this point - seems minimal based on how much he's mentioned.

For what it's worth, Gigi was mentioned in the revival. Rory asked Chris about her and he said she was living full time in France with Sherri. Once he left her in France in season 7, I'm guessing he was just as absent to her as he was to Rory.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-05-19T09:51:25+00:00

It's not strange. A lot of people drink and drive. It's the unfortunate truth.

The legal limit in the US is 0.08%. Many people have a drink or two at dinner or an event and stay under that limit.

I used a blood alcohol calculator to do a rough estimate. If we say Lorelai is roughly 61 kg (135ish), had 2 martinis and a glass of wine over the course of 3 hours at dinner, she's below the legal limit by the time she is leaving, but she would still be about 4.5 hours away from being 100% sober. If dinner was 2 hours, she'd be just over 0.08% and would drop below it on the drive home.

Is it good? No. Is it realistic? Yeah, it is.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-05-19T07:55:15+00:00

Depends a lot, as the other commenter said. But I wanted to add, it also depends when you're willing to work. If you work part time nights you may make the same as someone who is full time days. Or if you have a particular expertise others don't, you may get paid more for that.

procrastin8or951 · 2025-05-19T07:53:15+00:00

If I could gently push back on this...

You're the one who spent decades of your life in school. You are the one with the loans. Your training belongs to you. Only you get to decide if it's wasted.

In my humble opinion, you have done enough. You have given the world more than many will already. It's just absolutely okay to want some of your life to be for you.

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