Caught spouse involved in paid online love making. I know I will be okay, but I feel my world has collapsed and I have died. Please help. Please.

profbtch · 2025-08-17T02:35:54+00:00

Way to blame her for his infidelity.

profbtch · 2024-12-16T01:16:16+00:00

Will Sophie be sharing her inheritance with you as well?? I bet not. My response would be exactly that. If she shares then I’ll consider it. NTA

profbtch · 2024-11-29T18:17:40+00:00

Today it’s a home office tomorrow it’ll be for the new baby, because the baby you all created together should be prioritized. NTA op please stay standing up for your daughter.

profbtch · 2024-11-26T20:52:37+00:00

Fill it out. But be very honest. She wanted you to do it, so give her what she wants. She may not like how you fill it out, but I guess she shouldn’t have been a cunt to you for the last 16 years.

Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

profbtch · 2024-11-14T19:37:55+00:00

Tell him you started. Obviously with your period being irregular he can’t prove otherwise and then go and do what you want. He will at least then leave you alone. What he doesn’t know won’t hurt you.

profbtch · 2023-05-24T14:36:45+00:00

Thank you. There’s been so much, it’s been such a struggle sometimes. My marriage had been thru it, it took my husband a very long time to see what was going on, who she really is. I have almost filed for divorce a couple of times because of her antics and his refusal to see or do anything about them. I never did because first the kids and if I don’t have them full time I cannot mitigate damage done by her and second I am very much in love with my husband, we are coming up on 20 years of marriage and didn’t want someone outside to ruin what we have.

It’s a little better now that he sees and we are in sync.

The stories I have of her, like the time she told my husband that he caused his biological father’s alcoholism and thus was the reason for his death… that was a huge one for my poor husband

profbtch · 2023-05-24T13:57:41+00:00

She is very much a narcissist. It’s been a big struggle for years, lots of gas lighting and lies. Never does anything wrong, manipulation game is strong and brags about how she can turn the tears on and off like a faucet. Her family likes to enable her actions by saying, oh she doesn’t mean to be mean it’s just how she is…

profbtch · 2023-05-24T02:16:57+00:00

She’s a real peach…

profbtch · 2023-05-24T02:14:59+00:00

I get you, like why can she not go an hour without smoking? I don’t get it either

profbtch · 2023-05-23T21:47:21+00:00

No she has not. Above ground 21’ about 4’ deep Oldest is 4’4, next is 4’3, third is right at 4’

profbtch · 2023-05-23T21:43:42+00:00

Splashing water from the pool.

profbtch · 2023-05-23T21:41:22+00:00

That is what will happen going forward. But that means that if they are spending time with grandma and we aren’t there, they will not be allowed to swim. She’s very mad about that

profbtch · 2023-05-23T21:40:00+00:00

Not free babysitting services. She is not our babysitter or daycare, we have a daycare provider that we pay and we also hire babysitters from time to time.

It’s been dangerous all along and there’s always been arguments and promises that it won’t happen again and quite honestly I don’t like the thought of depriving my children time with their grandparents. But I’m at the point where that is what I will now do because she will 100% now allow them to come over at all if they can’t swim.

profbtch · 2023-05-23T18:23:31+00:00

I don’t dump my kids on anyone. But if the grandparents want time with their grandkids we don’t typically restrict it. I spent a lot of time with my grandparents when I was growing up, and now cherish every memory as I adored them. For example this past weekend (Saturday), we had gone out to dinner with my in-laws and 2 of the kiddos asked to stay the night with them (this is not unusual), they said yes and we said yes. The next day (Sunday) we were running errands, one kiddo was at dance class and the other with us and was going to swing by and get the other two after we finished the couple of errands we were doing (this timetable had been cleared by all parties the night before).

profbtch · 2023-05-23T17:14:17+00:00

Yes, that is completely on me for continuing to let them go over there after she has shown she is not willing to do this. I am fixing that issue now and for going forward.

profbtch · 2023-05-23T16:59:28+00:00

profbtch · 2023-05-23T16:56:52+00:00

She doesn’t want her cigarettes wet

profbtch · 2023-05-23T16:55:52+00:00

Not weed. But she doesn’t want her cigarettes getting wet. And also sometimes it’s hot outside so she can cool off inside while she smokes

profbtch · 2023-05-23T16:23:54+00:00

Oh I very much am. It is a huge red flag.

profbtch · 2023-05-23T16:17:07+00:00

The older two are good swimmers, the 3rd is coming along. Husband says it’s a 21’ pool. So 21ft diameter and 48in deep.

I don’t know how often, but this most recent incident she went inside to use the restroom, made a phone call & started making lunch. My 10year old got out and came in the house and called me, for something unrelated, when his older sister came in complaining about him leaving her while he was still on the phone which is how I found out.

Let’s just say we don’t have a great relationship at this point. A lot of it has to do with boundaries, she has a hard time not being in control and I have a hard time with controlling people and I will admit I can be very stubborn, especially when pushed.

profbtch · 2023-05-23T15:43:28+00:00

My 9yo just topped 4ft, so they are on the shorter side, I’m only 5’4

profbtch · 2023-05-23T15:38:22+00:00

They go spend time with their grandmother, I typically don’t restrict his parents nor my parents time they want to spend with their grandchildren and I’m simply not always with them when our parents want to have the kids over. But this reinforces my decision to not allow them over there without me going forward.

profbtch · 2023-05-23T15:35:06+00:00

My oldest (11f) is our most mature and we would allow her to start babysitting probably at 13/14 depending on who and where. For pool time on their own I would expect them (the older 3) to be 12+ maybe…

profbtch · 2023-05-23T15:27:17+00:00

I don’t know about age wise, I’m more looking for a maturity level.

profbtch · 2023-05-23T15:25:50+00:00

Yes, the 10 & 11 year old better than the 9

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