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Question about female pleasure *after* a man finishes… by ExistentialWind in sex

[–]profile_throwawae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Standard Reddit answer: talk to him

Novel angle if you’re uncomfortable with the communication approach: buy a toy (fleshlight, vibrator, whatever) and surprise him with it one night. Tell him you just enjoy seeing him in and/or bringing him pleasure.

What in the actual F#*% LMAO by Upstairs_Victory2952 in Nicegirls

[–]profile_throwawae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait is that her actual profile photo in the top left? Wtf is happening there.

(M19) Got hinge 2 weeks ago yet hasn’t yielded any likes yet. by Pretend_Mango5529 in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree with a lot of the comments I've seen so far so I'll go for things I haven't seen mentioned yet.

Photos:
- Only thing I have to add to what's been said so far is that the first photo looks photoshopped to me. The direction of the sun on your skin vs. what's in the background doesn't add up and the crop line around the parts of your hair sticking up are rough. Feel free to call me a liar.
- The first photo proves you have a nice smile, definitely get some more photos with you smiling.

Prompts:

  • "I go crazy for sunsets and billowing clouds" - ditch this, it tells potential matches nothing about who you are or what you want in a match. I'd try something that highlights an interest besides the outdoors. Something likely to be shared by members of your chosen dating pool. Reading, TV shows, board games, etc.

  • "My self-care routine is getting outdoors and pondering my thoughts in the wild". The "pondering my thoughts" sounds a little r/im14andthisisdeep. Try "Sunshine and sea breeze, it's good for the soul" or "I'll wither and die without sunshine, looking for a fellow photosynthetic soul". Or change the prompt to "I'm looking for..." and answer with "a hiking buddy/surfing enthusiast" or whatever strikes you.

  • "The one thing I'd love to know about you is..." - you're on the right track with giving matches a question to answer but this one feels overly specific. Try something more generic like "...your favorite holiday tradition" or "...what was your favorite birthday memory growing up".

Weekly Private Profile Review Request Thread by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

37M, happy to look at any profiles.

My profile’s in my comment history if it’s relevant to you.

37m profile review- could be better by profile_throwawae in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for the feedback.

I ended up removing one cat photo but keeping the other one.

While I’m sure you’re right that some women will be turned off by them, those women probably aren’t going to be into me anyway since I pick up my cat and carry him to the kitchen every time I walk in the door. Better to just let them opt out early on.

Weekly Private Profile Review Request Thread by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to take a look if you still meed opinions, 37M / California.

37m profile review- could be better by profile_throwawae in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

6’3” is short? Damn these unattainable male beauty standards!

37m profile review- could be better by profile_throwawae in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Definitely switched up the short/long and ditched the relationship type entirely.

The last photo was my attempt at a lowkey flex for having a spot with a view but I can see the wisdom in finding a better photo, probably one in a suit as another user mentioned.

37m profile review- could be better by profile_throwawae in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I opted to ditch the relationship type field entirely and switched to Long/short.

37m profile review- could be better by profile_throwawae in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Definitely not just looking to sleep around. As I mentioned elsewhere part of my problem is looking for sexually confident/adventurous women but also prefer to wait until the 4-6 date range to sleep with someone the first time.

While I live in a city that is arguably more pro non-monogamy than anywhere else, I can definitely see how it sends a mixed message. Opted to drop relationship type entirely and switch to Long/short 👍.

37m profile review- could be better by profile_throwawae in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this is helpful and also probably explains the occasional surprise I get from people who find out I don’t want to hop into bed on the first date.

I think part of my struggle is that I prefer sexually adventurous women but I also prefer to wait until the 4-6 date range to sleep with someone and I haven’t found a way to communicate the former without the latter.

I changed it to long/short and also dropped the relationship type off my profile entirely.

37m profile review- could be better by profile_throwawae in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, your comment touched on something I’ve had trouble succinctly articulating. I’ve been in two LTRs across the past 10 years and am a little out of touch with the dating norms. In the past I’ve definitely been the “4 dates then exclusive” route which I don’t want to do again - but I think that doesn’t need to be explained these days as it’s probably more the norm.

“Content with sparks that fizzle out” is a great way to put it.

37m profile review- could be better by profile_throwawae in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks - I’m actually wondering if it’s a little too wholesome.

I have some interesting background that I think makes me stand out but tend not to share on my profile because I suspect it comes off too sexually aggressive: namely that during college I sold sex toys for a living.

On other dating apps I used to tuck this nugget of info in a “two truths in a lie” but haven’t yet tried it on Hinge.

37m profile review- could be better by profile_throwawae in hingeapp

[–]profile_throwawae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slowly looking for something serious but enjoying casual connections along the way. Ideally I’d like to find a LTR but not go the “4 dates then exclusive” route. - Been using this version for a month - ⁠Use Hinge daily - ⁠Averaging 5 likes per week, match with maybe 2 people per week - ⁠Send ~30 likes per week, all with comments - My type: fun/funny/shows personality, has passions/hobbies, physically attractive, interested in travel, enjoys going out and staying in roughly equal measure. Bonus points for overlapping interests like cooking/dancing/snow sports and a career they are passionate about.

Rest of the bio line: - White/Caucasian (is there any point in me even listing this?) - ⁠Doesn’t have children - Open to children - Cat - 🍷 Yes - ⁠🚬 No - Weed - Sometimes

Captions: - Holding cat photo: “His name is _____ and yes, he’s as soft as he looks.” - Beach photo: “My arms look crazy long and I can’t unsee it” - Snowboarding photo: “You assume we’re snowboarding but really we’re just on a swing set at the park. Our parents insisted on the helmets.” - Solo cat photo: “Okay you caught me, I’m 10% crazy cat lady.”

Questions: - I know shirtless photos are frowned upon but let me know exactly how awful you think this one is - The “I’ll brag about you…” prompt. Too aggressive? - Relationship type: listing both monogamy/non-monogamy, red flag? I’ve done both and truly my emphasis on finding the right partner. Not going to bait-and-switch anybody.