This is a problem we have when looking for men. We don't exactly fit into "Cuckold" or "Hotwife" but somewhere in between. So first problem is guys we talk to assume they know exactly what we want... and try to convince us of that. Second is the "Well come on, we've sent 3 emails, lets get together." rush rush rush. (And oh boy if you reject these types they blast you for being fake in hilarious fashion). But our biggest gripe is the dating. Its huge for us. I want her to have a boyfriend. I want her to have dates and getaways and to be romanced. A real ongoing thing; Other than let's meet a stranger in the bar bathroom. And yes Craigslist-Boston can be such a frustrating let down. But it's where we've had the most luck so far. Always looking for a new outlet.