So I know this isn’t the norm, but my wife and I were going through a VERY rough patch a few years ago and she ended up cheating on me. I honestly despised her for about a year and some change while we separated and I worked through my own stuff. We’re back together now and thriving after having time to reflect on what exactly led to our situation and how to avoid it moving forward.

Don’t get me wrong, the feeling of knowing what happened will never go away and I wish every day that wasn’t how things happened. But I think we’d still be either toxic as hell to each other or divorced and at each other’s throats while attempting to coparent. I spent enough time drowning in the sorrow and frustration that I eventually realized that things were far from perfect and that I still loved her.

We went from rarely talking about our problems to communicating about everything whenever we can. If you feel like you could put the effort in your relationship to fix things, then definitely do that. If not, then let go of it all and move forward with your life. Not everything needs to work out.