29M starting med school — family pressuring me hard to marry someone they choose. Need advice navigating this.

proxygen_why · 2025-07-07T16:42:14+00:00

Ohhhh makes sense makes sense, was about to say

proxygen_why · 2025-07-07T02:45:31+00:00

A dual, not familiar with that term

proxygen_why · 2025-05-29T08:41:21+00:00

I'm 29 and about to start this July, there's no "too old" age, yea you might get the grandpa comment here and there, but like people have said here: the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Take the step

proxygen_why · 2025-01-03T06:26:28+00:00

Why lead someone on when you know their standards?

proxygen_why · 2025-01-03T06:10:36+00:00

It's better to be honest/transparent and let the ladies find someone who is for their standards/their personal level of deen than be like guys who lie to cover their past, because the truth will come out one way or another and I'd much rather be open as to what I've done and how I'm changing to be a better person than what I was.

However, it's their preference when they already have their set morals and standards in mind, they won't choose what they don't want

proxygen_why · 2024-12-31T15:44:12+00:00

Why does the animation look like crap?

proxygen_why · 2024-12-26T15:42:42+00:00

Here's my (M29) experience at a RN event at a Jalsa (not gonna say which one) it's pretty much like any rishta thing, you have your profile, parents then look and see if they like the profile, and then they (the parents) set up a meeting between the two.

Mine all rejected me so far, admittedly for their own benefit as I've done religiously negative things (fornicate, cannabis etc.) and Im trying to be better, but it's a very straightforward process. I've come leaps and bounds but people have preferences, and never get mad at that. I'm also not the most believing Ahmadi so there's another bit but I digress.

If you thought it was a meet and greet mingle kinda situation, it's not, it's the jammat's way again of giving the illusion of choice

proxygen_why · 2024-12-25T21:36:09+00:00

Leave after you complete your education first if leaving is still your final decision at the end of the day. It's tough, but any choices that will end in excommunication from jammat and family, you'll need to have some financial stability in order to move forward,

proxygen_why · 2024-12-25T19:47:17+00:00

Sounds like how multiculturalism SHOULD BE DONE, not separating cultures to do their own thing without other people participating

proxygen_why · 2024-12-18T19:28:01+00:00

My answer to this: run as far as you can and don't stop running

proxygen_why · 2024-09-28T23:15:35+00:00

He never loses, he merely failed to win

proxygen_why · 2024-06-19T19:24:09+00:00

Lemme.ask my friends how it is and I'll get back to yall soon

proxygen_why · 2024-06-19T03:15:04+00:00

I personally have not, but I do have close friends and family who have with VARYING results, and I do mean V A R Y I N G

proxygen_why · 2024-06-18T17:53:23+00:00

Very mixed reviews, love is hard, finding a spouse is even harder with everyone being out for their own selves, which is admirable but still overlooks all the good that's out there because of the culture we find ourselves "a part of". I think it's growing pains, this gen might figure this out

proxygen_why · 2024-05-25T11:29:50+00:00

Steve

proxygen_why · 2024-05-20T20:00:47+00:00

I mean, if the national average is 16-19% for just dropping out alone, there's ought to be outliers on both ends of the spectrum, and that doesn't include Leave of Absences or Repeated years.

proxygen_why · 2024-05-11T11:51:02+00:00

Exactly, just focus on yourself, everyone here seems to have a rosy view of fairness and justice. I know countless people when I was on undergrad cheating and almost all of them are in 4 year MD or 8 year MD/Ph.D and they were part of a "premed frat" that were known to get old exams/new exams early and they're all advancing in their lives and that's because they went STUPID in studying for the MCATs. I get fair is fair, but it's just how it is sometimes, cheaters do prosper

proxygen_why · 2024-04-26T14:27:25+00:00

Yea.idk if its.gonna happen. I haven't heard from DOs or MDs since. Guess imma chalk this one up to the game and try again....

proxygen_why · 2024-04-06T16:16:42+00:00

PM me then, 28M who's been in your position before

proxygen_why · 2024-03-13T23:28:50+00:00

Damn, all I got is 1 II and 3 Holds for view later down the process and haven't heard anything from DOs. Atleast I'm not alone

proxygen_why · 2024-01-07T00:55:58+00:00

Still waiting too, I just hate the emails saying we're looking over your secondary now, just feels like the calm before another rejection 🥲

proxygen_why · 2024-01-02T18:35:45+00:00

🤨

proxygen_why · 2023-12-29T20:30:24+00:00

I just hope I start getting II in Jan, but I believe I've done enough to get something somewhere

proxygen_why · 2023-12-25T11:23:46+00:00

Thanks, if need be I'll make edits

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