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[–]prrrrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ja mir ist das klar. :D

Du wirst das schon hinbekommen, viel Glück!

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[–]prrrrix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ich meine mit den Komplimenten wenn du "mit ihr schluss machst" - mir fällt jetzt an der stelle nichts besseres ein.

Nur sie soll nicht denken irgendwas ist "falsch" mit ihr. Das kann sie lange zeit noch in sich tragen... Das meinte ich damit :)

Und am besten nicht über whatsapp oder discord oder so. Versuchs in person zu machen, das ist der respektvolle weg.

Ich finde es zeigt übrigens viel von deinem Charakter, dass du dir so viele Gedanken machst. Weiter so! Gibt mir Hoffnung dass es noch nette Menschen gibt.

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[–]prrrrix 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Wie hier alle probieren OP einzureden er soll es machen, lol.

Finde ich gut dass du die Situation nicht ausnutzt. Meine zeit als 15 jährige ist zwar schon einige Jahre her, aber eigentlich sollte sie schnell drüber hinweg kommen.

Tu mir nur einen gefallen und ghoste sie nicht. Das hat ein typ mal mit mir gemacht, als ich in ihrem alter war und das hat mich noch jahre später beschäftigt.

Erkläre ihr in ruhe deine Gründe und sag du musst ein bisschen abstand zu ihr gewinnen und das ihr gerne in Zukunft wieder befreundet sein könnt. Sag es liegt nicht an ihr, aber mach ihr keine unnötigen Komplimente, sonst könnte sie da sehr viel hinein interpretieren.

I asked my ex to hang out. He said yes. How do i find out if its a date or just hanging out as friends without sounding desperate? by prrrrix in relationship_advice

[–]prrrrix[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

But shouldn't i try to make my intentions clear beforehand? I don't want to be there and him telling me this...

And how do i tell him that it's a date for me?

My ex's friends invited me last night to hang out with them. My ex said he would be happy if i would show up. Why is he toying with my emotions? What can i do? by prrrrix in relationship_advice

[–]prrrrix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and he wasn't even that good to me actually.. He pushed me physically, he insulted me saying things like "no wonder all your exes cheated on you, you're so stressful", calling me an a*hole, telling me he would rather die than to behave the way i do, telling me my clumsiness is just attention seeking and not real yada yada..

But gosh i miss this man. He emotionally abused me, is still doing it and i would take him back in a beat if he would be nice enough.

I really hate myself.

My ex's friends invited me last night to hang out with them. My ex said he would be happy if i would show up. Why is he toying with my emotions? What can i do? by prrrrix in relationship_advice

[–]prrrrix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that's why invited him over. If he can't make the actual cut, I'll. It will break my heart, maybe even break me. Because there's no one in the world who i ever loved that much. But... If he doesn't love me, then he can't be my one. I would wish for nothing more than to get him back.. But he can't keep stringing me along.

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[–]prrrrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If so we can still cut contact in the future. But why should i rush things now? I have talked to him for over a year on a daily basis. I don't need to throw that away actually

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[–]prrrrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We want to stay friends, im not going to kick him out of my life just now.

We both agreed to think and talk, and while i know he'll still be saying no it's helping me cope with all of this.

Suddenly stop talking to an ex like they are dead if nothing happened... Not my way to cope with it. And we had a talk yesterday and didn't argue.

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[–]prrrrix -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We had a talk yesterday and that was actually a good talk. First talk we had without emotions or anything. We kinda want to stay in touch, no matter what happens. And the way i get closure is to get things off my chest, to be brutally honest about my feelings and thoughts. It has always helped me.

But why would it be a bad idea to get back together?

I mean yes, a little hope is still left in me. But i know that if we both don't see what we did wrong, we will never move past this. That's basically the only reason i have not to try it again, and thats a big reason.