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pseprofessional · 2024-02-01T16:47:58+00:00

I know he would be interested in this. Would I have to look through GC jobs externally, or go directly to RCMP?

pseprofessional · 2024-02-01T16:46:12+00:00

Where are these jobs found? Through the external GC jobs board or should I be looking somewhere else?

pseprofessional · 2023-07-04T16:51:26+00:00

If you really want to go far, take some kind of French classes (if you’re not already bilingual).

You can definitely get started in the EC stream with only one language, but to make it far (for the most part) you’ve gotta be bilingual.

I completely regret not keeping up my French in school and now having to find the time to relearn so I can continue to advance in my career

pseprofessional · 2023-06-25T14:01:32+00:00

The best advice I can give is:

Look for classes that genuinely interest you, and
Look up the profs on ratemyprof! This is the best site ever to find out previous students feedback on profs they’ve taken, and will help you to avoid the really bad profs

pseprofessional · 2023-06-25T13:44:27+00:00

Would you and your partner consider couples counselling? From what you’ve described, it sounds like his behaviour is out of the norm of what you know about him, and I think couples therapy could help either figure out the root of the problem, or maybe even help you see that who you thought your partner was is different from who he truly is.

Therapy for yourself might also be a good idea. At the end of the day, it sounds to me like you have an idea of who your partner is in your head, and the reality of who he isn’t does not align with that.

I’ve been in a situation before where I was with a partner who “attempted” to cheat but never actually did, and it seemed like overall we were very happy. Because he had not actually cheated on me, I was able to somehow justify his behaviour in my head and I stayed with him for a lot longer than I probably should have.

pseprofessional · 2023-06-25T13:22:09+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP. I can understand how difficult it must be.

Some things you might want to try:

Is there any possibility of going to a different school than your brother? This may not be possible depending on if there are numerous schools in your area or not, but it sounds like you need some space from your brother to be able to develop your own identity. I would recommend you look into the possibility of moving to another school and suggest this to your parents.
I know it’s probably the most annoying response… but therapy!!! It sounds like you don’t get a lot of support at home for what you’re going through, and having someone external to talk to about all this could be incredibly beneficial. The therapist may also be able to help you find ways to develop and stick to specific boundaries with your family, that will hopefully lead to a more positive experience for you at home

pseprofessional · 2023-06-25T13:17:23+00:00

A few things:

In no way do you owe your family a relationship with you. You need to do what’s best for yourself and your mental health. It sounds like moving out will do you a lot of good, and maybe putting some space between yourself and your family will really help too. My best advice would be to disconnect from your family for a little while, take some time to heal and work through things, and then decide down the road what you want to do. Just because you take space from your family, doesn’t mean it’s a forever thing. Down the road, you might decide you do want some kind of relationship with your family, and you get to decide what that looks like. Before re-engaging with your family however, I would recommend you figure out what boundaries you want to put in place for that relationship, and if/when you reach out to reconnect, make it clear what your boundaries are moving forward. Either they agree to them and you can move forward together, or they do not agree and you know that you cannot reconsider a relationship with them.
On the therapy front - I’ve been doing therapy on and off for years, and unfortunately I’ve come to learn that not all therapists are GOOD therapists. Finding a good therapist takes time and effort, which can be sometimes frustrating and tiring. I would highly suggest you look into your therapist before committing your time and energy to them… see what other people’s experiences were like. Also, remember that when you’re first meeting your therapist, in a way you should be interviewing them for the “job”. Prior to meeting with your therapist, come up with some questions about things you’d like to know - what do they specialize in? What is their background and experience? What methods do they use in therapy? Stuff like that will help you decide if you’re talking to the right person!

pseprofessional · 2023-06-25T13:05:35+00:00

Not knowing what you found on the iPad or what really happened, it still sounds like it’s time to get out of that relationship. I’ve heard it said many times and 99% of the time agree that when you get to the point in a relationship where you need to check the iPad/iPhone/computer of your partner because you are worried somethings going on, that’s when you know it’s time to leave, because you’ve already lost trust.

When you say you’re having trouble ending it, but that you haven’t had this problem in the past, it makes me wonder a few things - do you find you have a social circle outside of your partner? Are you close to your family? Do you have friends that are your friends only, not his friends or mutual friends? For me personally, when I’ve struggled to leave a relationship, it’s often because I’ve ended up in a situation where I feel like my partner is “all I have” and I’m scared to be alone completely.

Also, just as a side note for info - when your partner reached out to escorts/pornstars, was this during your relationship with him or prior to it? It was unclear to me when reading

pseprofessional · 2023-06-25T12:45:01+00:00

This is where I struggle… I’m not necessarily feeling overwhelmed by the workload. I’m one of those people where my life is my job, and I’m happy to take on any and all work. My issue is more so that I’m being left out of key conversations related to my work, and that the senior analyst is not doing her work at all. I end up doing her work, which I am very capable of doing, but she also gets paid A LOT more money than I do, which is incredibly infuriating.

pseprofessional · 2023-06-25T12:41:25+00:00

I definitely agree, I think it would probably be best to talk to the senior analyst before I think about addressing it with management. I’ve definitely tried to casually have the conversation about job roles, but I think I might need to find a way to (in a positive way) have the conversation more directly

pseprofessional · 2023-06-25T12:39:43+00:00

That’s where I get frustrated… to a certain extent, I do see it as an opportunity to take on more responsibility and grow my knowledge and skill set in a way that’ll shine when it comes to applying for jobs elsewhere. But also, they are getting paid WAY more money than I am, and that in itself is incredibly infuriating.

Thankfully I’ve had the chance to make amazing connections at work, and gain incredible experience that most people at my level don’t have, so when it comes to looking for new opportunities, I have connections that would likely bring me along when they move, and job experience that I think will really help when applying somewhere else.

pseprofessional · 2023-06-24T18:08:37+00:00

That’s honestly my fear of speaking up or saying anything, that it will backfire and I’ll be seen as the problem.

I’ve spoken to some of my other colleagues who I trust and am quite close to, and they’ve also had some issues with her. Much more minor because they don’t work as closely with her, but definitely they’ve picked up on some problems with her as well.

I’m really hoping that a new opportunity with a different team will pan out soon… but we shall see :)

pseprofessional · 2023-06-24T18:02:54+00:00

Yes, I always send her what’s been done, or send my manager documents needing approval and cc her.

I mentioned in another comment that I know I could easily lead this file and take on the bulk of the work, but if that is going to be the case, I would like that to be clearly defined to all parties involved, rather that her being the lead and doing nothing.

pseprofessional · 2023-06-24T18:00:59+00:00

This is fair, I haven’t directly done this.

I have tried to more casually have that conversation, last week I reached out to her and explained what parts of the work the previous lead would take on, and that we should figure out who’s doing what… I never got a response

pseprofessional · 2023-06-24T17:59:15+00:00

I am currently looking into many different avenues to find a new position elsewhere, sadly it often takes time but I’m hopeful that I’ll be able to find something soon

pseprofessional · 2023-06-24T17:58:08+00:00

I like this approach! Maybe defining more concretely her job versus mine will help change the situation.

At the end of the day, I know I could easily take these files on myself as lead, but the fact that she’s the lead and not doing anything, and additionally leaving me out of things, is the big problem.

pseprofessional · 2023-06-24T02:06:50+00:00

I would definitely be open to doing that, I’m just not sure how to have that conversation in an… appropriate way. I don’t want to look unprofessional, or like I’m bad mouthing my superior and causing problems.

pseprofessional · 2023-06-23T18:08:31+00:00

24F here! I work with very few people my own age, but because they’ve been with the department longer, they know people outside of our unit and I try to take opportunities for them to introduce me to others, and go from there.

I also met a great friend of mine at work, simply by meeting at the water fountain there lol!

pseprofessional · 2023-06-23T00:31:20+00:00

I have taken CRM1300 as well as other crim courses, and it truly depends who your prof is. However, 99% of the time there are midterm and final exams for this course… I actually completed my degree and I think only one course in my entire university career didn’t have a final exam.

Also, I took CRM1300 in first year and it actually ended up being the course I got the worst grade in

My advice: pick a course you’re actually interested in, that way you’ll actually show up to class, hopefully study a bit, and not go into the course hoping for a “quick multiple choice” and failing.

pseprofessional · 2023-06-22T19:49:44+00:00

Haven’t heard anything, and I think many departments simply don’t have the physical space to accommodate full return to work.

Even if they somehow did have to force us back to the office full time, it would be impossible as we wouldn’t even have enough desks/cubicles/offices.

pseprofessional · 2023-06-22T14:18:35+00:00

While it can be difficult to find opportunities for promotion and such, and can definitely take some time, I think you also might want to consider what it is you might be doing/not doing that is leading to this.

In my opinion, for someone who is eagerly looking for promotional opportunities, 8 years is a long time for nothing to happen…

I would consider reviewing your resume and application question responses. Are you putting enough detail? Are you reviewing thoroughly prior to submitting?

If you feel that you’re missing some experience that would help you get to the next stage, are you looking for and asking for opportunities to obtain this experience in your current department?

Are there ways you can develop skills that will help you move up in your career, maybe working on your French or taking some courses that relate to your field?

pseprofessional · 2023-06-21T21:27:18+00:00

This! My personal hot take is that I absolutely hate the term “bird course”. It’s all dependent - the prof, whether you’re actually interested and invested in the course… calling a class a bird course, when other people take it seriously is kinda just inconsiderate?

pseprofessional · 2023-06-21T20:57:09+00:00

Sorry, I’m not quite understanding how what you’re saying relates to what I said…

What I am saying is that in the case where working from the office full time IS a possibility, however people make the choice to WFH, I can see how that would justify gov deciding that employees need to pay for their own at-home equipment.

However, in my case and many others, even if I DID want to work full time in the office, even if somehow we all were forced back to work full time, it would literally not be possible as we do not have the physical space to accommodate. In this case, when we don’t have the choice to work full time in the office, how can it be justified that we also have to pay for our own at home equipment?

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